January 2012 Moms
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Push Gift
Are any of you ladies getting a push gift?
My mother is getting me some chanel earrings for my push gift and my husband is getting me a juicy couture charm bracelet.
My mother is also getting herself a pushee gift because she has had to put up with me this entire pregnancy and feels she deserves a gift.
My family and husband asked me what I wanted for my push gift, I did not demand or ask for a push gift.
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Re: Push Gift
Nope. I think push presents are ridiculous... but to each their own.
ETA: I don't mean to flame or be snarky. I just don't think it's necesary to get a gift for pushing out your baby. Enjoy your gifts though - they sound nice.
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This.
This is what I'm doing, too. I have a very thin eternity band in garnets for DS and for Christmas/my push present DH is getting me one in blue topaz since this baby is 99.9% surely coming this month if not any day now.
If your DH chooses to surprise you with a thoughtful present out of the goodness of his heart, fine.
But really?
If anyone ever suggests they deserve one, I'll give them what they really deserve...
DH said my gift will be given to me after I give birth. He says it'll be wrapped up, but when he gets it it'll be covered in some sort of goo and blood and kinda loud.
I'm guessing its a puppy.....
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My hubby and I were just talking about this last night! He offered David Yurman jewelry but our budget is pretty tight right now so I told him to wait until my bday in May - BUT I think I do want to do a cute little locket with the baby's DOB engraved on it and his picture in it or something. Or maybe start a charm bracelet with the first charm being baby's DOB and little feet or something?
My mother recently gave me my grandmother's charm bracelet that has a charm engraved for both her children and all of her grandchildren. It's very very special.
I was also thinking of something cute for MIL & Mom - maybe the same little locket? Or the cute little necklaces with tiny feet on one side and engraved name & DOB on the other?
So, to answer your question, YES we plan on something but still in research mode...
This.
The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy says, in big, bold, capitol lettering, "Attention Husbands: The Girlfriend's Guide heartly recommends that you show up with a gift of some sort shortly after the baby is born. You will almost never go wrong with jewelry, since it will fit even before your wife has lost her baby fat. It indicates an appreciation of the value of the chore she has just performed. If people get generous rewards for finding lost dogs, you wife is now entitled to the hope diamond for the service she has just rendered."
The whole thing about being "entitled" to jewelry just rubbed me the wrong way. Isn't getting a baby the ultimate reward? (the whole book rubbed me the wrong way. The author's attitude is just mind blowing to me. I only read it because it was given to me)
This!
I hate the phrase "push present."
The thing is, my husband is great. I wouldn't have put it beyond him to decide to get me something special to commemorate the birth of our baby. Something sweet, like flowers, jewelry, a nice card, or homemade baby-themed coupons. And I would have loved it because it was such a sweet thought on his part.
But now that push presents are "thing," it kind of takes away from that special-ness. He may still get me something, but I certainly don't want him to feel like I need something.
I'm also a little confused because many women know what their push present is, or get the present before the baby is born. In that case, I wouldn't consider it a push present. I'd consider it a piece of jewelry/car/etc. that you decided to get together.
Um. . .
Ok. So mine went like this. I was driving a 2003 VW Beetle TurboS. No one wants to have to load and unload a baby in a two door bug. We decided together to go out and buy a new car for me. I never asked for, nor did I tell my husband about, push presents. However, as we were driving home in the car he turned to me and said, "Since this is a brand new Mercedes, can we call this your push present?" I thought it was adorable and I told him I didn't expect a push present anyway, but SURE!
You deciding if that counts as a "push present" or not is a bit baffling to me.
I also find it a bit odd that you think YOUR husband would, before this became a trend, probably think to give you something sweet but now that you think it's a "thing" it is no longer special. So you are basically reserving the gift as something genuine from your husband that you may still get, while efficiently discrediting all the other gifts on here as too trendy, disingenuous, or that they just flat out don't count because you say so.
Exactly!!!
I understand the baby is a gift, but a little appreciation from your SO or family I think is nice.
To me it is incredibly sweet when a partner goes out and gets a little token to commemorate the huge event in their lives and all of the things that the woman has gone through carrying their baby.
I would never ask for one (I won't be getting one either since there's no SO in the picture) and wouldn't expect one or be disappointed if there wasn't one. I do think its sweet when thought of by the person giving though!
I think expecting to get an expensive gift because you had a baby is obnoxious, but to each their own.
I guess I wouldn't call it a push present, but my husband bought me an Audi Q5. He kept saying I needed a mom car, and was so happy to buy it. I did not ask for it, I was perfectly happy with the car I had, but it was something he really wanted to do and we can afford it, so why not? His car is more of his toy that he drives alone...loud and fast. We have always used my car as the "family car" for when we are together or take road trips so it is a present for both of us sort of. But he refers to it as my push present. Also my husband was raised not celebrating Christmas or birthdays, so he buys presents for me for other reasons, or for no reason at all.
I think anyone who would ask for or expect a push present would be tacky and entitled, but I do not get the hostility that people seem to have towards husbands who choose to do something like that on their own.
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Some people are getting way too bent out of shape about this subject! I think it just depends on the individual couple's preference, and their finances. In my situation, it makes more sense not to do a push present because we'd rather save money for the baby and other things. My SO mentioned it awhile back, but I told him I didn't think it was necessary.
If you ask for something, it is not a "push present." Its picking out something you want. And if you buy it together, also not a push present. Its something you buy together.
I don't know if "we're" doing push presents. But I think my DH knows our finances enough to know what we can afford. I know he appreciates what I've gone through. I'm thinking flowers and a few foot massages will do the trick but as PP said, I would not turn down jewelry.
I don't think I had ever heard the phrase "push present" until I opened this thread. I thought I was opening a thread about regifting. lol!
So, no, I don't think I'm getting a "push present." When asked what I wanted for Christmas I said that it would be nice to get a ring or necklace with baby's birthstone in it, but I now realize I might have spoken too soon because he might be early. Oh well.
Anyway, no push present. No "babymoon" either. I think both sound like they're made up by companies like Hallmark to encourage you to spend money. That being said, the actual sentiment behind both is kinda sweet.
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I would be totally annoyed if my husband bought me jewelry for having a baby. I don't care for jewelry wouldn't want him to spend money on it. The only jewelry I ever wanted him to buy me was the engagement and wedding ring. Also, this book annoys me because it puts all women into the stereotype of loving jewelry and being superficial about material goods. I love well thought out gifts but my favorite gifts involve quality free time more than tangible objects.
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