XP: My Blog

achase123

Hi ladies, for those who read my blog I wanted to explain why it's suddenly private.  I got a text late last night from XH saying "nice blog".  Obviously he found it and was reading it.  I wasn't sure what to do at the moment so I simply made it private.  I am considering keeping it private and invitation only, or possibly moving it completely (although if I keep it public it might still be found, again, by XH). 

Sorry for those of you who have been reading/following.  I haven't posted on there since Monday so nothing new has really come up.  I'm kind of not sure what to do right now.

Soon2beLindseyT

I often wondered what would happen if the wrong person were to see your blog.  I guess that day has come.  I don't blame you at all for making it private though.  Who wants him getting into your brain even more that he tried to already! 

Good luck with your decision and hoping it's not going away for good!!

sweetie0228

You know me and I say this with love:

So the Eff what, if he found it and is reading it.

You have helped countless women both posters and lurkers by putting your story out there.  What is he going to do?  Really?  He doesn't follow thorugh with much and he's a bully.  He's trying to intimate you back into hiding, hiding what he's done to destroy your family, your life and your son's life.  You have a big dose of reality up there and he doesn't it.

It's also a big dose of reality that you have moved on and you've picked up the pieces and put together a new family and life that doesn't necessarily include him.

You've put out there how you survived and became stronger, smarter and ready and not so ready to try again.  You put out there that you did all this for your son.

Be strong and be proud.

Ultimately it's totally your choice if you want your blog to be public or private but don't make that choice b/c a bully and a manipulator made you question your decisions.

achase123

sweetie0228:

You know me and I say this with love:

So the Eff what, if he found it and is reading it.

You have helped countless women both posters and lurkers by putting your story out there.  What is he going to do?  Really?  He doesn't follow thorugh with much and he's a bully.  He's trying to intimate you back into hiding, hiding what he's done to destroy your family, your life and your son's life.  You have a big dose of reality up there and he doesn't it.

It's also a big dose of reality that you have moved on and you've picked up the pieces and put together a new family and life that doesn't necessarily include him.

You've put out there how you survived and became stronger, smarter and ready and not so ready to try again.  You put out there that you did all this for your son.

Be strong and be proud.

Ultimately it's totally your choice if you want your blog to be public or private but don't make that choice b/c a bully and a manipulator made you question your decisions.

Thank you, Sweetie.  My initial reaction was that I was scared, but then I kind of said "eh, whatever".  I put it on private, for now, to do some thinking. I might move it to a different url and delete the picture, but keep it public, which is what someone on the SO board recommended. I know I have helped a lot of people and I don't want to stop posting because of him.

That being said, try as I might, it will be difficult to post on the same sight wondering if he's reading it.  I can say it doesn't matter to me, but it WILL be in the back of my mind and might make being entirely candid and honest difficult.

I also have become more fearful of him in the past few weeks because I have seen such dramatic mood swings out of him.  One day raising his voice over the CS incident and the next acting as if that incident never happened.  It's unsettling at best and frightening at worst. 

MJN9510

achase123:

sweetie0228:

You know me and I say this with love:

So the Eff what, if he found it and is reading it.

You have helped countless women both posters and lurkers by putting your story out there.  What is he going to do?  Really?  He doesn't follow thorugh with much and he's a bully.  He's trying to intimate you back into hiding, hiding what he's done to destroy your family, your life and your son's life.  You have a big dose of reality up there and he doesn't it.

It's also a big dose of reality that you have moved on and you've picked up the pieces and put together a new family and life that doesn't necessarily include him.

You've put out there how you survived and became stronger, smarter and ready and not so ready to try again.  You put out there that you did all this for your son.

Be strong and be proud.

Ultimately it's totally your choice if you want your blog to be public or private but don't make that choice b/c a bully and a manipulator made you question your decisions.

Thank you, Sweetie.  My initial reaction was that I was scared, but then I kind of said "eh, whatever".  I put it on private, for now, to do some thinking. I might move it to a different url and delete the picture, but keep it public, which is what someone on the SO board recommended. I know I have helped a lot of people and I don't want to stop posting because of him.

That being said, try as I might, it will be difficult to post on the same sight wondering if he's reading it.  I can say it doesn't matter to me, but it WILL be in the back of my mind and might make being entirely candid and honest difficult.

I also have become more fearful of him in the past few weeks because I have seen such dramatic mood swings out of him.  One day raising his voice over the CS incident and the next acting as if that incident never happened.  It's unsettling at best and frightening at worst. 

Yes I would say who cares if he sees it and it might be a nice dose of reality for him.  BUT...his mood swings would have me worried too.  you dont want to be carless about it and have him snap.  Even if you are right and truthful about every single thing in your blog, when you are dealing with a loose cannon you have to be extra cautious.

achase123

neece28:

Yes I would say who cares if he sees it and it might be a nice dose of reality for him.  BUT...his mood swings would have me worried too.  you dont want to be carless about it and have him snap.  Even if you are right and truthful about every single thing in your blog, when you are dealing with a loose cannon you have to be extra cautious.

Sometimes I hope I am not right when I think about the things I would consider him capable of, but I'm always truthful.  There's nothing in my blog that has been made up or even exaggerated.  It is my story.

Chatham2007

Not to sound like a stalker, but I've been following your blog and with these recent developments, I'm angry and sad for you. That being said, if he found your blog, it's a pretty safe bet that he will find your profile on here too, if not already. Just something to think about... Best of luck to you and your sweet little boy.

achase123

Chatham2007:

Not to sound like a stalker, but I've been following your blog and with these recent developments, I'm angry and sad for you. That being said, if he found your blog, it's a pretty safe bet that he will find your profile on here too, if not already. Just something to think about... Best of luck to you and your sweet little boy.

Thank you so much, I did think about that too because if he read the comments some people reference the bump/nest and I mention it as well. 

DarthNBJenni

My ex-h and his entire family have access and read my blog. Heck, his mom even comments on my FB fan page for my blog. I'm sorry if the truth hurts, but I've got nothing to hide. 

achase123

DarthNBJenni:

My ex-h and his entire family have access and read my blog. Heck, his mom even comments on my FB fan page for my blog. I'm sorry if the truth hurts, but I've got nothing to hide. 

I thought about you, Darth.  You do write less about your ex though, but there have been some entries that you mention him. 

I am really torn between keeping it as it is, because I truly don't have anything to hide, and changing it to a differen url so he's not creeping around reading what I write.