cancelling visitation

JCGreene85

I work retail so I work a lot of weekends. EX gave me notice he was coming this weekend so I scheduled myself to work 10-5 Saturday and Sunday. He texted me last night saying he can't afford a ticket and wont be coming. (That's another story..) I dont know what to do. I can't afford NOT to work and my sitter and my mom will be out of town....Which was fine since EX would be here.

Is there a clause I can use in our final papers so this doesn't happen again? Or should I be grateful that he gave me enough notice so it wont really effect my attendance at work since I am giving them enough notice?

turtle1120

You can try to put in a clause with a minimum amount of notice for cancellations, like 7 days or something.  Whatever works for you and your situation.  It won't guarantee that he'll comply but it might make him a little more consistent. Do keep in mind though, that the provisions and time frames will apply to both of you so make sure it's something you can live with too.

blissfullyignorant

I would try to get a clause requiring a certain number of days of notice and if he fails to give you that much notice then he is required to pay $X amount for childcare if you've already scheduled yourself to work.

cmanmom

This is a tough one, because if he does call and cancel within the time frame you are good to go.  BUT if he doesn't you can't force him to come KWIM? 

That being said, I like the idea of having him pay Xamount for childcare if he doesn't cancel in the time frame, but in reality you are never going to see that money either right?  Just another one of the fun parts of being the custodial parent when the other parent isn't that involved in the first place.  I guess just be happy that you are with W and he is not

JCGreene85

cmanmom:

This is a tough one, because if he does call and cancel within the time frame you are good to go.  BUT if he doesn't you can't force him to come KWIM? 

That being said, I like the idea of having him pay Xamount for childcare if he doesn't cancel in the time frame, but in reality you are never going to see that money either right?  Just another one of the fun parts of being the custodial parent when the other parent isn't that involved in the first place.  I guess just be happy that you are with W and he is not

Very true! Thanks. I like the idea of him paying ex towards childcare