aggravation about chosen name + bh

elduroq9

Sitting here, trying to relax but it's not so easy when your tummy completely tightens up every ten minutes. ACH. These bh contractions just started to really become uncomfortable yesterday, but they just get worse and worse. NOT looking forward to the real thing, lol.

 So, my mom is really not feeling the name we chose, Oliver. My boyfriend and I just so happen to love it (that being the reason that we chose it) and my mom is constantly making comments about how he's going to get beat up in school and how he'll come to her one day and ask her why we didn't name him something normal. She does this all the time. Usually I can just let it roll off, because I'm not going to name him something else just because she doesn't like it, she has a right to her own opinion but that's all. It really aggravates my boyfriend though, he thinks its completely rude (which really, the way she goes about it is) because she seriously brings it up ALL THE TIME. I don't really know how to feel about it. It hurts my feelings because obviously she's my mom and I wish that she didn't feel the way she does about it, I want her to like the name, but...I want to like it also.

ChavayJakov

Lie and tell her you'll homeschool just to keep Oliver safe from play-ground bullies.  Then she can fret about that for a while.  

 

Sheazier

My baby boy is also Oliver!  I'm sorry your mom is being so rude.  My DH and I love Oliver and Ollie.  It is a classic name.

harmonicbabe26

elduroq9:

 So, my mom is really not feeling the name we chose, Oliver. My boyfriend and I just so happen to love it (that being the reason that we chose it) and my mom is constantly making comments about how he's going to get beat up in school and how he'll come to her one day and ask her why we didn't name him something normal.

Are you kidding me??? How is Oliver not normal??? Look at all the Armanis and other stupid names out there... If my mother said something like that I would flat out tell her to shut the f*** up and leave me alone!! I don't care how much you love your mom and want to be nice to her, this is NONE OF HER BUSINESS!! My hubby and I had this convo a while ago that if either of our families had objections to the name or tried to change it and call her something else, not what we chose for her, we would break off any relations. Ridiculous! She had her chance with naming you and any siblings you have. Now it's your turn and Oliver is a perfectly gorgeous name!!

Kristine Schilling

WTH does she want? a baby boy named John, Tom, or Bill?

Come on, she needs to get over it, hes your boy. not hers and Oliver is great in my book.

MesmrEwe

For your next LO, this is perfectly good reason why NEVER to tell anyone the name you're considering until AFTER they are here... 

Cece0601

If your mother doesn't like it, tough. She's already had the opportunity to name her own children so she doesn't get a say in what her grandchildren will be called. If she continues to bring it up, either change the subject immediately or tell her that you're sorry she doesn't like it but you and your BF have already made a decision and that's what your son will be named. End of story.

For the record, I love Oliver.

Angelrelic

So Oliver is one of the most normal names out there, i mean no not super common like mathew or john, but since when does that make it not normal? For the record i love the name Oliver and it was totally on my short list for DS, alas he turned out to be a Miles. I totally agree with the PP that your mom should suck it up, she got to name her own kids, now its your turn. Personally i don't tell people our short list, we tend not to pick a name till we meet the LO. I give them a longer list, and if they are being snotty about it i bust out the decoy name! 

blessedwithbaby

We share our names and people don't like them. We don't care. We liked Oliver but I had a pt. I got close to and I can't imagine another Ollie. We are going with Owen.  I think I got over it with my first and so now it just doesn't bother me I just like people to know that name that way if they chose it for theirs they at least know I didn't steal it. Yes, I'm that person that likes to claim it. lol (But I could care less if other people name their child the same name. I just don't want them feeling as though I stole their name choice.) 

  Sorry back to the point. Who cares. Tell her your going to name him something outrageous and then go back to Oliver and it won't seem so bad. HA.

missjulierenee

My mom kept giving me a hard time about the name we picked. I finally told her one day that this is the name we are using end of story and I do not want to hear another word about it. I said it in a nice stern way and she never said another word. You may just need to stand up to her and tell her this is final. GL! I like the name Oliver, it is cute.

beachbunni307

I would say, try not to worry about it. We chose Blake for our little boy. Neither my parents nor my in-laws have stated their opinions, however, I know it's not a name my in-laws would have chosen (they like biblical names). It doesn't really matter though cause my hubby and I like it! 

Tussie Mussie

Names have changed a lot since our parents were naming us. Me and my sister have been talking hypothetical baby names for a long time and at first my mom reacted like yours. She just didn't know what kind of names are popular now. Try not to let her comments get you down, you have chosen a lovely name! It might take her some time to get used to it, but I bet the comments stop once she meets that beautiful baby boy. 

GreeneyesP

I love the name Oliver.  It is so cute, and it's a great name for an adult man; good and strong.

My mother also hates the name and middle name we chose.  She constantly texts, emails and calls with new suggestions.  Oh, and she polls strangers when we are out together.  She will ask random people what they think of our name choice and try to get them to make fun of it with her.

I finally had enough and told her that all the names she chose are excellent, especially for the baby she'll be having, or was she adopting?  Let us know. 

We haven't heard anything more about our name choice since.

Furbrae88

i know how you feel about the name, my family did not like Rowen at all, but it grew on most people, and when i do get suggestions it is Amber, Ashley, or some other name way too many people have.  My great aunt even stuck out her tounge and scrunched up her nose with the biggest look of disgust.  people can be rude, but i love the name i picked for my baby girl   stick with oliver  o and kids will find a way to make fun of any name no matter what