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mtbowlin

I have lurked on this board off and on for a year and it is now my turn to join. I will probably have a lot of questions in the next few days and weeks, because honestly I am in hurry up mode now. I have known for a while now that my marriage wasn't going to last and have slowly been making a plan to get out, but my H confronted me about it this weekend and has decided that I have 2 weeks to get all my stuff together and get out. And all my stuff includes our 3 children, age 5, 2 1/2, and 10 months. And I won't lie, I'm clueless at what to do first...I don't even know what paperwork needs to be filled to get the process started. I've tried googling my state's laws, but that has served to further confuse me, so any help you all might have will be greatly appericiated.

LoveyFNR

First and foremost, contact an attorney before you take any further steps or decisions. They will guide you on the laws and your rights.

I am not totally sure of your situation but I think it's bullshit your ex is kicking you out with all 3 children. My ex is really something else but he did promise me that if we ever split for any reason he would be the one to leave as he would never leave his child without a home. In the end he didn't end up with a choice anyways but I still think he would have followed through.

sweetie0228

Don't you dare leave that house without talking to a lawyer first.  There are some states that rule if you move out you forfeit your rights to your porion of your house b/c it's considered abandonment.

 Your STBXH is not looking out for your best interests anymore, he's only looking out for his own.  Don't give away any rights especially the ones you don't know you have b/c you signed something without legal counsel.

Go and file for child support and spousal support.  Start reaching out to your network for support and making plans, look into day care, jobs:  brush up that resume if you don't have a job or a good enough one.

Make copies of EVERYTHING:  Tax documents going back at least 7 years, birth certificates, social security cards, ALL the credit cards and the latest statements, bank accounts and statements, utilities bills...and start getting the photos together and in one place.  PUT all these in a safe place not in your home, a friend's house, your parent's/family's house, your desk at work...etc you want to be able to have access to all of this information in case you are not able to go back home.

Pack an emerency bag for you and the kids and keep it in the car or at a friend's house...again in case he throws you out and you can't get back in.

CASH have some on hand...and if you don't have one have a creedit card in your name only.  Open a new bank account in a different bank ( you don't need some "helpful" teller linking your accounts together).

 

LadyLissame

Also, if you have any written communication from him regarding this, make sure to save it.

I agree with the PPs, contact a lawyer and get copies of everything!

Also, make sure to run your credit report and get copies of those. They will list all financial accounts in your name.