How is your interaction with your birthmother?

Michelle3081

There are both open and closed adoptions with birthmothers. How is your interaction with your birthmother?

wille2b

we are great friends!! we text all the time and see her often. she comes to our house and hangs out with ds and she and i talk about life problems and personal things. we are very close.

it wasnt like that until after the birth.. before it was a little hostile and i never knew what she was thinking. but once the stress of placing him was off her shoulders we became very close!

Art Teacher

We are very close to dd's birthmom and her parents and brothers.  We have a very open adoption with them.  They know where we live; we know where they live.  We email/call/text.  We have had 8 visits with them since dd was born.

We love them - they are most definitely a part of our family.  We have had really good visits with them.  Of course, the first couple were harder...I was a  nervous mess!  But now it's very comfortable.  We are going to see them a week from Saturday - they are coming over to celebrate Christmas with us.

 

SweetieBelle04

We have a semi-open adoption.  We met DD's birthmom and birthdad before she was born and interacted with them at the hospital, but we did not exchange identifying information.  We send them monthly updates (will become annual at 1 year) through our agency.  I think about them all the time, and we're definitely open to having a more open relationship later if DD wants it.  We want her to have a part in the decision, so we're keeping it semi-open for now. 

I'm not sure if this is the kind of information you were looking for, but I feel very differently about our openness now that we have DD.  Going into the adoption, I wanted to keep it as closed as possible without it beeing truly closed.  After I met the BPs, it broke my heart that we might not see them again.  They are wonderful people, and I would love DD to meet them someday if she wants to.

militarywife2b

Hmmm  we are in the beginning stages here as DS is still in utero (yes, we are a different situation). We have a good relationship but we are in the buildind stages. We text each other and have called from time to time. I am waiting for my DH to come home from his deployment and we plan to hopefully meet in person.

babywisher

We met bmom before ds was born and had interaction with her at the hospital. We also were introduced to the bdad. During the first year she wrote us and I sent her a couple of letters and made her a photo book for each 6 months. Since we sent the last book we have not gotten any more letters. We decided on a closed adoption (well, I guess semi-closed.)