Thinking about TTC

vanillathis

Hello All,

I'm new the the bump.. I used the knot during my wedding planning last year and always got great advice. I am hoping for the same thing here!

My hubby and I have talked about wanting to try for a baby starting in 2012. We have been together for 6 years and married for 6 months. We are finally at a place in life with jobs, insurance, home, ect. where kids are something that seems like a possibility. But now that it is here, I am freaking out! My husband is beyond excited and ready for this next step. He can't stop talking about it. I am still searching the internet trying to find something that I may have never thought of that needs to be discussed before we have kids. So far...nothing..

I know one major hang up I have is that my little sister and her husband have been trying for 2-3 years to get pregs. She found out a few months ago that she has PCOS. (Everyone should know that I am a serious worrier.. got it from my mom.) So I was worried about having that and having the same troubles she has had (which really won't stop me from trying, but still makes me worry). She just found out she is having twins! So I am concerned now that I might be stealing her moment if I announce after a couple months of trying that we are expecting too.

I am also worried that my mom will worry about us... it is really a vicous cycle.. I guess I should expect that. I am sure all moms (and dads) worry about their kids having kids. My mom is always worried about my student loans. However, she can't expect me to wait another 20 years until they are paid off to have a baby, can she?

The only other thing I can think of as to why I am so nervous/excited about this is that I am finally at this stage. It always seemed so far away and now it is here.

So, I guess what I am asking is.. is there anything else we should consider? What did you think about/worry about when you were first thinking about TTC?

 I have a "pre baby" appt on Thursday to find out what I should be doing now.. Maybe I can get some more advice from my doctor...

Dr.Loretta

IF is not necessarily inherited. If you have no symptoms of PCOS, chances are you don't have to worry about that. The best thing to do is just start trying.

You won't steal your sister's thunder unless she's sensitive that way. She's still having the first kids, and she's having twins. Plus think how cool it would be to have cousins so close together in age.

There's nothing you can do about your mom worrying about you. It's kind of the job of a mom. Just live your life.

Of course you're nervous and excited. It's a major life change, like trying to find your first real job, or getting married. It's perfectly normal.

If you feel you're financially, physically, and emotionally ready, just do it. All the reading in the world doesn't replace actually doing it.

Your dr will likely ask about your cycles, encourage/prescribe prenatal vitamins, confirm your vaccine status, and may possibly do some general genetic testing. It depends on how proactive/aggressive they are.

And just remember, it can take the average healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. So if it doesn't happen right away, it's not necessarily an indication of a problem.

If you want to start getting to know your body better, get a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and/or sign up for a tutorial on fertilityfriend.com .Very helpful.

GL

vanillathis

Thank you. All things I know in the back of my head.. just need to hear it from someone else. I will check out your suggestions!

Ladiebug710

Welcome!  It is certainly exciting when you start TTC.  I wouldn't feel bad about being pregnant when your sister is pregnant.  It is up to you if you want to let anyone know you are TTC, and then you will have to decide how long you want to wait to tell people.   And hopefully it will happen right away, but sometimes it takes a little time and it would be sad to feel like you wasted a few months.

PinkRosie4

I'm going to be ttc in the spring of 2012 too! I'm so excited for you! Don't worry too much about your mom and sister, everyone will be so happy for you :-).