who's getting a push gift?

AmyFTM

Never heard of it until SIL asked me last night if DH is getting me a "push" gift. Now I want one...lol. Need to start dropping hints. Did anybody get a push gift and if so what did y'all get?

sassafras007

I got a baby.

TheDoValle3

I already got mine!  For me and baby, a 2011 Mercedes GLK 350.

I love it!!

AmyFTM

TheDoValle3:

I already got mine!  For me and baby, a 2011 Mercedes GLK 350.

I love it!!

Niiiice. 

michelle142

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

I don't get the "push present" thing. DH doesn't get a gift for getting me pregnant, why should I get a gift for having the baby?

BlakeG

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

This.  I already told DH I don't want a push present.  I just don't get the concept and only heard of it recently.   

cdymond

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

 

All I want is my baby!! I had a few friends who got Tiffany necklaces etc., but I just don't get it. I mean we have a joint checking account... and I wouldn't feel comfortable going out and spending a few hundred dollars on myself right now with a baby and and Christmas etc. coming - so why would I feel comfortable asking my husband to take money out of that same account and spend money on me? 

I do, however, want him to be in absolute awe of me for at least a few weeks after delivery.. lol. Fingers crossed.

AmyFTM

cdymond:

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

I do, however, want him to be in absolute awe of me for at least a few weeks after delivery.. lol. Fingers crossed.

Amen to that! lol 

baloneydisc

I'm getting a baby.  I did get a new car a couple of months ago, but that was more of a necessity.  We're skipping Christmas, due date is 1/8 & our anniversary is 1/2, so I won't be too surprised if I get a nicer anniversary present, but it won't be a "push present".

jcameron2010

What the heck is that?! Thats crazy.

I pushed so hard, I had a c section and then the baby came. Still the best gift you could ever hope to receive!!

PandaMom06

Same thing I got last time. A baby.

ames243567

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

 

Ivana_Stolichnaya

My push present is a baby...I don't need a car or sparkly trinket to beat out holding a healthy baby boy.

crogers19

Im getting a diamond right hand ring with the baby's birthstone in it.

laurahastings

I told my husband not to get me anything, that I thought Push Gifts were ridiculous.  He agreed, so I thought.  Sometimes men just want you to feel special and want to feel like they've given their lady something beautiful- there's nothing wrong with that.  He surprised me with an infinity ring of my little boys birth stone.  He worked some side jobs and paid cash so I wouldn't notice the money missing.  yes, I agree that push gifts are "silly"  but he went to so much trouble to make it special, and it really was.  Obviously, you're getting a baby which is the greatest gift, but I look down at my ring while I'm working and think about that day with my husband and son- it's pretty sweet!

AmyFTM

crogers19:

Im getting a diamond right hand ring with the baby's birthstone in it.

I was thinking something along these lines. A jewelry item with LO's birthstone on it. Something I can pass onto her when she's older. 

gmedlock

I don't get others aversion to push presents. It's not a horrible thing. To the PP that said DH didn't get anything for getting her pregnant so why should she get something, let me answer this for you.

Your H had an orgasm. The havoc your body is going through growing and delivering LO is just a smidge harsher IMO.

If a woman doesn't want one, that's one thing but she has definately done what it takes to deserve something should she want it.

Myself? I'm getting a locket to put LO picture in and I will cherish it always.

boydstm

All I want is for him to help out when we get DD home. Plus, I'm pretty sure I will be too preoccupied with my brand new baby to care about jewelry or anything material.

mylove2005

Nothing when I had DD and when DS comes it will be nothing.  He is a great dad and does everything he can for us and helps me when I need it and when I dont

Tina272

I got a bracelet the first time around and I am sure he will do something this time as well. 

I have a friend whose MIL gave her a beautiful ring that was given to MIL on the day her son (friend's DH) was born.  It means so much to my friend to have and wear it.  I want to do the same for DD or DIL.

sassafras007

bearsbearsbears:

gmedlock:

I don't get others aversion to push presents. It's not a horrible thing. To the PP that said DH didn't get anything for getting her pregnant so why should she get something, let me answer this for you.

Your H had an orgasm. The havoc your body is going through growing and delivering LO is just a smidge harsher IMO.

If a woman doesn't want one, that's one thing but she has definately done what it takes to deserve something should she want it.

Myself? I'm getting a locket to put LO picture in and I will cherish it always.

This!  I don't understand why some women get so personally offended by the idea of a push present.  It is not like DH and I entered some sort of contract that I have a baby and he gets me a diamond.  It's more like, if DH and I would like, we could celebrate this joyous occassion in our life with a momento--much like you do when you get married  and get a ring. 

 I just don't understand how the very idea is repugnant to some women here!

As for DH and I?  I have no clue whether or not he will give me a push present (I do admit I HATE the phrase "push present"), but he's a pretty romantic guy, so I wouldn't be surprised.

I personally just think the idea is stupid. Plus, we don't have the extra money for something extra like this.

Ruggerkitty

When we got married ten years ago I told DH that someday Id love a skinny diamond band to go on top of my engagement ring, similar to my wedding band, that would represent a milestone- like a big anniversary, first baby etc. so that's what he gave me when DS was born. I love it so much and someday when I die DS will have it and know that his father gave it to his mother as a special gift when he was born. I think the idea of a push present is really sweet. I'm lucky my H is super romantic and also loves to give gifts. 

Sascha3

I don't think it was bought with the intention of being called a push present, but he did buy me an Audi Q5.

He kept saying I needed a mom car, and he is an Audi fanatic and hated my BMW, even though I thought it was perfectly fine.  I think it is a present to us as a family.  His car is more of a toy and a project to him.  It is very loud and very fast and I hate riding in it.  We use my car whenever we are together and for road trips, his car is for him only.  So I am sure he had an ulterior motive in buying it for me:)

momawof4

Sascha3:

He kept saying I needed a mom car, and he is an Audi fanatic and hated my BMW, even though I thought it was perfectly fine. 

Same story with me too! Men.... (our alteast my man) I keep on asking him, whose car is this again? hummmm?

Anyways, I do want a necklace with LO and DH's name .... But will probly just order it myself lol

jen mayhill

My husbands cousin makes jewelry...anyway, she carries antique pica letters to put on necklaces. I've asked my husband to get my sons first initial for Christmas/push present.  If interested, her site is gemjewelryboutique.com

Imanurse03

Umm,yes, in the form of a baby?  Push gifts are honestly the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of...  We spent years and a ton of money to even conceive this baby, so the baby will be the biggest gift we could ever receive. 

jason&robin

DH wrote me a very nice card when I had #1. Nothing with #2. I wouldn't mind some flowers or something nice like that.

However, this is my last baby and to celebrate my children, I plan to get a necklace with their names on them. I didn't want to get 3 different things. It's not really a push present. My bday is 10 days after my due date so I think it's a pretty fitting birthday present.

beckybeth123

Mine is going to get me a simple necklace with my son's name on it. It is inexpensive and I can add new names for new kiddos. To me it's a cute little symbol, nothing huge or expensive but very meaningful

kellymiller409

michelle142:

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

I don't get the "push present" thing. DH doesn't get a gift for getting me pregnant, why should I get a gift for having the baby?

 

He didn't go through 9 months of body changes, how ever many hours of labor/getting sliced open, and squeezing a child through his pelvis and out of a tiny hole. I don't expect a gift...but I definitely recognize that it isn't ridiculous to give a gift to women for their hard work. I would like a charm for my bracelet with LO's birth stone, I may just get that afterwards though. DH gets not having to labor and push a baby out of him.

FarmvilleLover

We both kind of laugh at the idea of them.  I don't think I'm getting one.  I think it's a fun tradition though.

Cleo29

I didn't last time and most likely will not this time. 

MrsLeanna

bearsbearsbears:

gmedlock:

I don't get others aversion to push presents. It's not a horrible thing. To the PP that said DH didn't get anything for getting her pregnant so why should she get something, let me answer this for you.

Your H had an orgasm. The havoc your body is going through growing and delivering LO is just a smidge harsher IMO.

If a woman doesn't want one, that's one thing but she has definately done what it takes to deserve something should she want it.

Myself? I'm getting a locket to put LO picture in and I will cherish it always.

This!  I don't understand why some women get so personally offended by the idea of a push present.  It is not like DH and I entered some sort of contract that I have a baby and he gets me a diamond.  It's more like, if DH and I would like, we could celebrate this joyous occassion in our life with a momento--much like you do when you get married  and get a ring. 

 I just don't understand how the very idea is repugnant to some women here!

As for DH and I?  I have no clue whether or not he will give me a push present (I do admit I HATE the phrase "push present"), but he's a pretty romantic guy, so I wouldn't be surprised.

I don't get it either. I get demanding one would be tacky, but if my husband wants to get me a gift for carrying our baby and then giving birth to her as a memento of a very special moment in our lives, why not? I think it's a nice and special thing to do. I don't know if I'm getting one or not, knowing DH though I probably will - he's very thoughtful like that. He sent me a cookie bouquet when we got the BFP. I think push or baby gifts are a wonderful gesture!  

Angelrelic

I'm gonna agree with the "i got a baby" sentiment. Sure jewelry is nice, but i'd rather that was just a rockin' mothers day gift some year. Sure we got a new car, but that was just practical life stuff! I think all the help while i'm pregnant and the midnight diaper changes are gift enough!

salt78

I had never even heard of "push presents" until the Bump and don't know anyone IRL who has ever received one. I'm in the "I don't get it" camp.

I am getting a ring with LO's birthstone when she is born, but it's my birthday present (she's due 3 days before my own birthday). Plus my husband is taking off work for 2 weeks when she arrives, which is the best present ever as far as I'm concerned.

michelle142

gmedlock:

I don't get others aversion to push presents. It's not a horrible thing. To the PP that said DH didn't get anything for getting her pregnant so why should she get something, let me answer this for you.

Your H had an orgasm. The havoc your body is going through growing and delivering LO is just a smidge harsher IMO.

If a woman doesn't want one, that's one thing but she has definately done what it takes to deserve something should she want it.

Myself? I'm getting a locket to put LO picture in and I will cherish it always.

I had an orgasm too TYVM. I knew what I was in for with this baby growing business, I don't need a gift for it. Having a healthy baby is enough for me. 

kerischrader

DH teases me and says that my gift is the baby....as well as my new honda odyssey and 4000 sq foot home we are building and will be (should be) done a couple months after LO is born. But I do love diamonds... I am holding out hope!

tiffapotomus

gmedlock:

I don't get others aversion to push presents. It's not a horrible thing. To the PP that said DH didn't get anything for getting her pregnant so why should she get something, let me answer this for you.

Your H had an orgasm. The havoc your body is going through growing and delivering LO is just a smidge harsher IMO.

If a woman doesn't want one, that's one thing but she has definately done what it takes to deserve something should she want it.

Myself? I'm getting a locket to put LO picture in and I will cherish it always.

 

This! DH isn't gaining wieght, throwing his guts up, having headaches form hell, sporting any stretchmarks that will never go away or waking up throughout the night to pee up a storm... so if he wants to show that he appreciates what I am going through to bring such an amazing little gift into this world for the both of us THEN LET IT BE DONE! :0) I would never think it is silly for a man to show he loves you. I guess I could have told him I think an engagement and wedding band combo was a silly idea because he only gets a wedding band... hmmm

Kristine Schilling

Dont I wish.... I asked about it to DH once with before DD was born. He didnt understand why I should get a present for doing what comes naturally.

"If you get a push present, do I get a daddy present?"

We get a baby shower, cool stuff from family and friends for rasing baby.... We also pretty much get a new wardrobe over the next year because of size changes.

I didnt mention a push present to him this time.

salt78

Kristine Schilling:

He didnt understand why I should get a present for doing what comes naturally.

That's exactly why I don't understand it. I signed up to do this because I want a baby. I don't need any other rewards.

purpletulip

I hadn't heard of it with my first. This time I jokingly said that I want a house cleaning service as my "push present" and he hired one, starting last month! :-)

tartaruga

kellymiller409:

michelle142:

sassafras007:

I got a baby.

I don't get the "push present" thing. DH doesn't get a gift for getting me pregnant, why should I get a gift for having the baby?

 

He didn't go through 9 months of body changes, how ever many hours of labor/getting sliced open, and squeezing a child through his pelvis and out of a tiny hole. I don't expect a gift...but I definitely recognize that it isn't ridiculous to give a gift to women for their hard work. I would like a charm for my bracelet with LO's birth stone, I may just get that afterwards though. DH gets not having to labor and push a baby out of him.

Isn't this what Mother's Day is for?