Newbie TTC ~ Other Newbies just not TTC out there?

tiffmatt

Its CD33 on my first cycle TTC.  I have been lurking off and on for months and really jumped into the bumo in the last week for two.  I have great the message board glossary and lots of the newbie info.  I have started posting on some of the TTGP threads but find that I have a hard time relating to many of the women on there.  I haven't had anyone outright mean or overly snarky but I am tired of hearing "get use to it", "give it time, you'll see."  I am sure as the months of TTC continue my perspective will change, but right now everything is new.  While the TTGP threads are great to gather information it doesn't seem like the best place to relate to others in the same situation as me.

So I wanted to reach out to other newbies who are just now TTC, say hello, and see what type of things each of you are experiencing!

jessican08

Welcome and good luck!

Regarding the comments on TTGP, they're just trying to give you a dose of reality. It doesn't happen the first month or two of trying for most people so patience is essential or you will drive yourself (and your significant other) crazy. Trust me, I'm not telling you to "relax and it will just happen", I would NEVER say that...just saying that it's OK to not get PG on the first try...know what I mean? It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

Having said that, it can take a healthy couple with no fertility issues up to a year to conceive so it can be annoying for those who have been in the trenches closer to that year mark (or even longer) to hear someone complaining that it hasn't happened yet after TTC for only one or two or even three months.

One of the reasons why I love The Bump is because it IS a great place for support and understanding but you won't find many people here who will blow smoke up your @$$ (pardon the expression).

Anyway, good luck on your journey, I hope it happens for you sooner rather than later

 

 

tiffmatt

jessican08:

Having said that, it can take a healthy couple with no fertility issues up to a year to conceive so it can be annoying for those who have been in the trenches closer to that year mark (or even longer) to hear someone complaining that it hasn't happened yet after TTC for only one or two or even three months.

That is why I started the thread, to try and find others who are just started to TTC without annoying to those have been trying longer.  I am mentally prepared for it to take month, a year, longer, or to not be able to conceive at all.  That doesn't mean that I am not experiencing things that are unique to starting this journey.  So I was hoping to find others who were in the beginning as well.  But it would appear it belongs at neither the TTPG forum or the newbies.  I'll keep that in mind.

jessican08

tiffmatt:

jessican08:

Having said that, it can take a healthy couple with no fertility issues up to a year to conceive so it can be annoying for those who have been in the trenches closer to that year mark (or even longer) to hear someone complaining that it hasn't happened yet after TTC for only one or two or even three months.

That is why I started the thread, to try and find others who are just started to TTC without annoying to those have been trying longer.  I am mentally prepared for it to take month, a year, longer, or to not be able to conceive at all.  That doesn't mean that I am not experiencing things that are unique to starting this journey.  So I was hoping to find others who were in the beginning as well.  But it would appear it belongs at neither the TTPG forum or the newbies.  I'll keep that in mind.

I can see what you're saying...I remember how it was...and trust me...the 2ww STILL drives you batty even after a year or two! As I said, the ladies there mean well, they're just trying to bring you back to ground level rather than give false hope that every little symptom, twinge, craving, and "late" period means you're pregnant (because more often than not, it doesn't).

In all sincerity, I think babygaga.com may have more of the vibe you're looking for. GL again! 

Ladiebug710

Hello, welcome!  It takes a little while to get used to the boards, but I think in time you will find that they can be very supportive and fun.  I hope your TTC journey is short and sweet.  Good luck!

jonesdouglas

Hello and welcome!

 

My DH and I are new to TTC and it's...definitely a journey!

I just got off my BCP's about 3 weeks ago and I STILL haven't seen AF! So other than being a little annoyed and hormonal (since I feel like i'm PMS'ing but its just not coming) I am excited as to whats to come. 

Also, we haven't started charting yet. I'm still learning everything I can about it and I'm just taking it one day at a time. 

Hope everything works out for you

GL! 

Google83

I'm in the same boat.  First cycle off BC and waiting to O ...    Time will tell...

abbieaggie

I'm also a newbie to posting, mostly a lurker due to seeing all the rude comments people post.  You may ask a simple baby-related question or a family/life related vent and it turns into a mosh pit of judging and bashing.  I have to admit it is sometimes entertaining but I was not brave enough to jump in.  lol

And looks like from your sig that you found out you are expecting - congrats and good luck!