this might be a silly question but with the holidays here and gift shopping on my to-do list, i was wondering how you work out purchasing gifts for dh. being a newly sahm, this got me thinking....does dh give you money on a regular basis that you save away for birthdays, christmas or do you just put it on the family credit card? i need to get used to the fact that i'm buying his gifts with his money.
tia!
Re: purchasing gifts as a sahm..
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
If I really think about it, I admit I see it as his money, but 99% of the time I don't. I can see where that can be an adjustment mentally.
We have credit cards, but I can't remember the last time we've used one, so we just use our debit card. I buy a lot on Amazon, so it doesn't give away the gift. However, we're not big on gift giving anyways and like to do a nice dinner out instead. I'm sure that costs us more than just buying straight gifts, but it's nice to splurge and spend time together.
also, we have a joint account that i have access to but it is for grocery shopping and runs to target for household necessities. we do have another account but i don't have access to that yet (credit card)...maybe i should discuss this with him later tonight.
thanks for the advice ladies
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
This question has popped up a few times lately.. perhaps a new one to drink to!
But in all seriousness, we have always had a joint bank account, so even before I was a SAHM he could "see" what I was buying if he ever wanted to. And we have always looked at it as "our" money since being married. We are a team.
It took me quite a while to get used to that as well. I was 30 when we got married and had been working full time since I was 18, so it was hard to go from making money to sharing DH's. I knew it was "our" money, but emotionally I had a hard time giving up my financial independence. Now, I hardly think about it at all. It took about a year of sharing accounts for me to get there.
We view the money he makes at work as "ours" but we do have allownaces. We started this when I was still working to stay on budget. We each get a small amount of cash each week to spend on whatever- coffee, lunches, manicures, etc. Basically anything that isn't a necessity or doesn't fall into any other category of our joint budget. This money has been drastically cut since we're on one income now, but I suppose I could save it and use ot for gifts.
For now, we have a rewards credit card that we use on just about everything and pay each month in full. We also each have an "emergency" credit card that we keep for "just incase" and eachothers' gifts. We set a limit before the holidays and then pay if off ASAP. By the time he sees the bill, he'll already have the gifts, so it works for us.
This. I do have my own credit card (in addition to our joint credit card) so if I need to buy him a gift, I put it on there. That bill is still paid out of our joint checking account but all he sees is the credit card name... he does not have access to my itemized credit card bill.
We pay for Christmas with cash. Every week I take an extra $10-20 out of the ATM and stash away in a jar at home. I also put Craigslist sales money in the jar. I use that money to buy all of our Christmas gifts.
this is me exactly!! it's quite an adjustment but worth it for sure
i'm sorry!! drink up! Lol.
We are both bringing in money, yes he brings in the majority, but we don't view our money as separate. It is each others. I just started watching a few kids this year (for school teachers in my family), so I am paid each Friday. Before I did this, I would usually tell my H I needed to do Christmas shopping. He's not really into picking anything out or helping me unless it's his parents' gift. Usually, he just gives me a credit card, but if I ask him for money around this time, he knows.
I never let him know its for his gifts though!
This is exactly us.
Noel - August 2010
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