Late Term and Child Loss

Does anyone else

feel like they're never going to get pregnant again?

Those that have had your rainbow babies, is this a normal feeling?

Or do any of you NOT want to have another baby?

Re: Does anyone else

  • I want to be pregnant as soon as I can... I am waiting every day for my period so we can start trying.  I don't think I feel like I won't, but I'm scared to be hopefully that I will.  I will say though, per that previous post about intuition... before I was pregnant with Peyton I was almost convinced I wouldn't be able to conceive.  Maybe that was more of that intuition?  This time, I don't feel that way.... I'm scared, but I don't feel like it won't happen.

    I have no choice to but to take that as a good sign, to let it bring me a little peace.  I have to take what I can get. 

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  • It took us 6 months to decide to try again, and when we did, I figured I would get pg right away (as I had with all 4 of my other pgs).  When it took 3cycles (I know, not that long, but again, for me, a long time) I started to get upset thinking that I would never get pg again.
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  • Sometimes I feel like it won't happen for a long time. Intellectually I know that I have many years of fertility left and my chances are probably good, but emotionally it is hard to internalize it. I also think I may have to get something done about my cycles...they were always nice and clear before I got pregnant with J, but ever since then they've mostly been...lackluster. I can't always confirm O and when I can it's often half-a'd. I try to just accept that it make take longer than I'd like.
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  • I had that worry. I thought well maybe it was a sign that I shouldn't have kids and I'll never get pregnant again.

    Early on I had a strong desire to get pregnant again quickly followed by a strong desire to not have another. As you know, the first desire won. lol

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    I had that worry. I thought well maybe it was a sign that I shouldn't have kids and I'll never get pregnant again.

    Early on I had a strong desire to get pregnant again quickly followed by a strong desire to not have another. As you know, the first desire won. lol

    This is how I feel.  My friend just found out she's pregnant and it brought the desire back to have another x's 1,000 which also brought out my other post... lol

  • I feel as if I won't be able to have another child.  I feel like my body has betrayed me and the fact that I'm still waiting on my PP period (barely a month, irrational I know) makes me think I'll never get my period.  Also, since both previous pregnancies happened w/o actively TTC, I now worry that it will take forever to conceive again.  

    Plus, add to the fact that I'm 35 and if we want two children we'll have to have them pretty much back-to-back makes me worry even more.   

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  • It took us 2+ years and an IVF cycle for the twins.  It took us 3 more IVF cycles to get this one LO I'm baking now.  After 2 failed IVFs, and the third one that had all the signs of failure, I thought I was never going to get pregnant again!   This LO is a miracle.  I hope I get to take it home (I'm 15 weeks).

    We always knew we would try again. Even while I was in the hospital delivering the twins, we were talking about trying again. 

    Do I want more babies?  Yes, but do I want more pregnancies?  No!  I am considering a surrogate for future pregnancies.  It's just so hard to be pregnant after a late loss.   



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  • I am counting down the days until we can try again, I had a c section and was told to wait 3 months so we are waiting until January even though we could technically try in December but my MFM said January. I am also 38 I'll be 39 in march so my time is slimming down so I am terrified that it won't happen for us. I am hoping for a the ability to get pregnant fast this time around but who knows. This sucks that we have to even be thinking about this since we should all have our beautiful babies with us!!!



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  • Well, if we're being completely honest...DH wanted to try right away, I didn't NOT want to, but I was still grieving and that was stronger.  We started "right away" after the doctor's go ahead -- 3 months b/c of my c-section.  After 6 months we realized I wasn't even ovulating.  Another 2 months before the doctor would give me Clomid.  I spent 9+ cycles charting, 2 on Clomid, and finally a break....Logan's birthday month was going to be hard enough and peeing on sticks and seeing negative pregnancy tests was daunting.  There were days when I wanted to completely throw in the towel and had convinced myself I was never going to get pregnant again...and maybe it was for the best since my body failed the first time.  In some ways, I was "ok" with this because I felt it was my duty to be loyal to Logan and only Logan -- if that makes sense.  Oh the guilt baby loss mothers carry.

    Now I am pregnant....and there isn't a day goes by without me wondering if this will finally be my take home baby, or if I'm even ready for that.  It's like I've adapted to "mothering an angel."  I don't have the same innocent confidence in carrying and mothering a child like I did before Logan was born prematurely.

    It's all a catch 22, I guess.

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  • Well I have infertility so I have felt like I would never get pregnant for quite some time.

    I intentionally took a very long break after the loss to heal my body and heart but yes I am terrified every day I will never get pregnant again considering what it took the first time.

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  • I know I definitely want to get pregnant again...its just a matter of when. It took us 3 months to get pregnant with Logan after my early miscarrige. I have faith that it will happen. We are planning on starting right away...just in case it takes awhile. I hope it doesn't. My husband keeps reminding me that I carried Logan to there is no reason I can't do it again. His support helps.
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  • I feel like this all the time.  I feel like Eliott was my one shot, and I really don't know if I ever will have a take home baby due to IF.  I really hope I'm wrong.
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  • I am very scared about getting pregnant again too. I had a mini-meltdown with a new MFM this week and I know he thinks I'm a bit nuts but I don't care, as long as I get to take home and keep a take-home baby.
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  • I'm not so much worried I won't get pregnant(although it is in the back of my mind),but I am absolutely petrified of having another loss,whether it be a miscarriage,a late term loss,a stillbirth,or an infant loss.

    I am petrified of having another baby with a heart defect or some other issue that requires any kind of long term hospitalization.After living in a hospital parent sleep area,without my DH,for the better part of 11 months,I don't know how I would handle that again.

    DH wanted to try again right away but I did not.I am definitely getting baby fever now though,and we will start trying in January or February.

    I have decided though that if we have a loss,or a baby with any sort of defect,we will be done.

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  • I'm worried too. I've had 2 d&c's, one after the birth of both my children. I'm worried about scar tissue forming inside my uterus. The Dr.s say it's rare that it happens, but everything I've read elsewhere says you have a 1 in 4 chance. I absolutely formed scar tissue after DD was born; you could see a band of tissue on the right side of my ute during my pregnancy w/ DS. I'm terrified it will cause infertility, interfere w/ a growing baby, etc. etc.

    I got pregnant right away both times; w/o even trying for DD and on the first cycle w/ DS. If it doesn't happen right away again, I'll be so nervous.

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