I am the room mom in my son's Kindergarten class. When I went in for the Holloween party I organized, another mom was in there too. She was taking pictures of the kids.I just happened to be nosy today and looked her up on FB. (we are not friends on facebook). And she has pictures up on her page of all the kids in the class and my son and I are in some too. Not just background but deliberately took them of kids when her son was nowhere around. I realize that she probably did it for harmless reasons but the fact that her page is public and that I dont know her at all and she has pictures of my son online irks me.
I dont know this woman at all and infact had to have my sons seat moved at the begining of the year because this child was having trouble with personal space toward DS and it caused him a lot of anxiety.
I do put pictures of my kids on facebook but am super selective about my friends and have everything private. I also would not put pictures of other's kids online. I just think it is inappropriate to take pics of kids in a school setting without their parents there and post them publicly.
Am I over reacting? What can I really do about it anyways without looking like a creepy stalker?
Re: Would this bother you?
This is the same for DD's school. Her picture is always on the school website since she is in so many activities. I honestly wouldn't care at all.
I have had too many experiences with predators through my prior job who used seemingly innocent pictures of kids they found on facebook and myspace to get off. Most of the pictures were completely innocent pictures, not even close to being sexual in nature - which they seemed to like because the kids were still innocent. The kids just had the qualities they were looking for - certain sex, age, hair color, etc. The idea of my kids' picture ever being used in such a manner makes me sick! So, that is why I don't post pictures and wouldn't like other people doing so.
I would be livid! However, I have a very unique situation. DD#1's biological father (no longer has rights and my husband has adopted her) is crazy, like Lifetime movie crazy, and I know for a fact that he is now looking for her. That is why I don't have a picture of her in my siggy or her name or anything. I have all my facebook setting as strict as possible and never post picture of her that could give away our location.
None of the mothers in DD's class know about our situation. Just like this lady that put up pics from your son's class doesn't know everyone's situation. I would bring it up to the teacher. I know we never sign the waiver allowing DD's picture to be used and there may be parents in your son's class that didn't. The teacher needs to know about it.
Amen I could not agree more!
I'm in this camp as well.
Yes I would be very bothered, especially considering they are "public".
I would mention it to the teacher and see what she can do about it. I don't think the school would be ok with this either. Even if you signed some kind of waiver.
Ditto.
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nothing you can do except complain- and complaining won't likely change anything.
I can totally see Kate's reasoning here.
I also think it's inappropriate to post pictures of other people's children on the internet w/o the consent of the parent(s). We post photos of the different events that we go to with the moms group that I run (on meetup.com), but only members of the group are able to see the pictures. I would never post them otherwise.
I would probably contact this woman and very politely say that I appreciate that she took photos to document the event, but that you are uncomfortable with your child's picture being posted on FB so that anyone can see...and you'd appreciate it if she could remove it. If handled the right way, I don't see why she should have a problem doing so.
All that being said, I have pics of my kids in my siggy and this is a public message board and anyone that stumbles across this site can see them.