Don't judge me because I . . .

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Today is "No Judgment Day," a day for moms to stop judging other moms and to start respecting parenting differences. Article

Do you find it hard not to judge other moms? 

I liked the activity mentioned at the bottom of the article. Fill in the blank:

"Don't judge me because I ________."

libbyann

I love that!! But I think every day should be no judgment day, not just once a year...

Here's mine...Don't judge me because I bed-shared for the first year of his life.

MrsAJL

Don't judge me because I have often fed Ben french fries for dinner. Or lunch. Or both.

michelleaxo

Don't judge me because I don't feed my kid only organic stuff (other than milk and eggs) and I often send her to preschool with a Lunchables for her lunch.

rssnlvr

Don't judge me because I'd rather work than stay home.

Taytee

"Don't judge me because I let my kids eat McDonald's etc at least once a week"

L L CG

I am finding it hard to come up with one because I am such a perfect mother.

Umm...

Don't judge me because I can't handle sleep deprivation as well as other mommies.

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Taytee:

"Don't judge me because I let my kids eat McDonald's etc at least once a week"

lol...when I pick DD up from school, she says, "Are we going to Old McDonald's for dinner?" Then when I say, "No, not today," she says, "Oh. Are we going to Chick-Fil-A?" 

Yes. My child knows all the fast food restaurants by name. 

bobcatsteph

Don't judge me because..

We bedshare
DD still uses a paci
DD can spot an "Old McDonald's" from a mile away and eats it at least once a week
DD has a cup of milk at bed time every night
I would rather work that be a SAHM
Dd loves Nick Jr.

ErinAynsley

L L CG:

I am finding it hard to come up with one because I am such a perfect mother.

Love. Awesome.  

...don't judge me because my extremely-sweet-at-home, recently-turned-two-year-old was a pushing, whiny, toy-stealing mess at the big family Thanksgiving festivities. I'm looking at you, 2 cousins with 1-year-olds who kept saying pointedly in front of me to their babies, "You are being such a nice sharer!"

Ooooooh. Just you wait. Karma.

 

ali-1411

L L CG:

I am finding it hard to come up with one because I am such a perfect mother.

Umm...

Don't judge me because I can't handle sleep deprivation as well as other mommies.

lol - I can't think of anything either.  I do all of the above posted things but so does everyone else that I know.  Why would you judge me for that?

Uhh. 

Don't judge me because I have a hyperactive kid who likes to show off and be obnoxious at the most inopportune times.  Don't judge me for not putting him on Ritalin.  Trust me, giving him a stimulate does NOT help.

EGMphoto

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Oh. Oops.

ErinAynsley is me.

Logged in with an old email address from the Knot to access my wedding guest list for holiday card addresses.

bobcatsteph

rssnlvr:

Taytee:

"Don't judge me because I let my kids eat McDonald's etc at least once a week"

lol...when I pick DD up from school, she says, "Are we going to Old McDonald's for dinner?" Then when I say, "No, not today," she says, "Oh. Are we going to Chick-Fil-A?" 

Yes. My child knows all the fast food restaurants by name. 

Haha. DD calls them Old McDonald's, the cow (chic-fil-a), and the panda (Panda Express..and we've never even been there).

bluestreet

Don't judge me because I don't think the world revolves around my kids.

SarahPLiz

Don't judge me because I'm contemplating stopping work pumping after Christmas (5m). 

Don't judge me because I nurse my kid to sleep every night and we have never done the drowsy but awake thing. He has no self soothing skills.  

amyliisa

I love that my kid is not the only one who can spot an Old McDonalds from miles away, and that he's not the only one who calls it Old McDonalds! Here's a doozy, that I always feel judged for: Don't judge me because I was a smoker before getting pg with DS1, that I picked it back up again when he always a year old, and kept it up until getting pg with DS2. And that my DH, bless his heart, has tried so hard to quit and hasn't been able to yet. There, I said it. :-(

bluestreet

amyliisa:

I love that my kid is not the only one who can spot an Old McDonalds from miles away, and that he's not the only one who calls it Old McDonalds! Here's a doozy, that I always feel judged for: Don't judge me because I was a smoker before getting pg with DS1, that I picked it back up again when he always a year old, and kept it up until getting pg with DS2. And that my DH, bless his heart, has tried so hard to quit and hasn't been able to yet. There, I said it. :-(

Witch! 

I still fantasize about smoking. If I make it to 80, and DH has gone into the great unknown, I will so start smoking again!

ali-1411

bluestreet:

amyliisa:

I love that my kid is not the only one who can spot an Old McDonalds from miles away, and that he's not the only one who calls it Old McDonalds! Here's a doozy, that I always feel judged for: Don't judge me because I was a smoker before getting pg with DS1, that I picked it back up again when he always a year old, and kept it up until getting pg with DS2. And that my DH, bless his heart, has tried so hard to quit and hasn't been able to yet. There, I said it. :-(

Witch! 

I still fantasize about smoking. If I make it to 80, and DH has gone into the great unknown, I will so start smoking again!

My dad always says that he's smoking again when he's 70

DH just quit two years ago.  I quit when I got pregnant with Layna almost 4 years ago.  Jakob is going to be 10...you can do the math!  Smoking made me so sick when I was pregnant with him but the cravings never went away.  I would light a smoke, hold it and just cry.  Then his first colic episode at a week old sent me out to the garage with one of my mom's nasty Carlton Ultra Light Menthols  ::shudder::

SaraLouiseBride08

Dont judge me because I still basically EBF my 11 month old. She's offered food 5 or 6 times a day. Sometimes she eats, sometimes she doesn't. I'm officially calling picky eater. But she's healthy, growing, and does just fine on milk. For now. And I'm not all that stressed out about this. She's not starving to death, and I feel lucky that BFing has gone so well.

Don't judge me because I'd rather stay home than work. Maybe because I don't have a "career" but I still loath working. I feel like I should be home with my child. I still cry at least once a week, sometimes a lot more, about having to work and that someone else is "raising" MY child.. I feel terribly judged about this feeling. I feel like I'm "supposed" to be all about empowering women to work.

 

longhorn14

libbyann:

I love that!! But I think every day should be no judgment day, not just once a year...

Here's mine...Don't judge me because I bed-shared for the first year of his life.

HA! Well in that case, don't just me because I STILL bedshare.

Don't judge me because my I look young and have two children. I may look 15 but I'm married and they were both planned!

brooke152

SarahPLiz:

Don't judge me because I nurse my kid to sleep every night and we have never done the drowsy but awake thing. He has no self soothing skills.  

Ditto.  And I loooove nursing him to sleep. 

Don't judge me because I used to judge. I have to admit, before becoming a mother I used to judge for most of the things y'all are saying.  But now, oh my goodness.  Now, I would never, ever judge for these things!  I have already done so many of my "I nevers".  I laught at my old self, I was so, so naive.

SarahPLiz

MrsRosie:

SarahPLiz:

Don't judge me because I nurse my kid to sleep every night and we have never done the drowsy but awake thing. He has no self soothing skills.  

FWIW, this really isn't something Ferber says babies are capable of until they are 6 months old.

Thank you. My month board is all about CIO and I just don't like it at this point. 

thethomps

Don't judge me because:

I SAH instead of having a "career."

I sometimes let DD share my potato chips with lunch.

I had to supplement with formula when DD was 6ish weeks old and gave up on BFing at 4 months because it was too hard for me.

DD doesn't sit and play quietly like little girls are supposed to.  She is high energy and likes to climb on things.  (Giving side-eye to lady at church on this one.)

DD's language skills are delayed.  She hears two languages at home and is, I guess, still processing the differences.  No, there is nothing wrong with her but thanks for asking.

 

august8080

.....nursed my (99th percentile, looks like a 5 year old) baby til he was 21 months.

......weaned him when I got pregnant because I couldn't handle the pain. 

.......don't feed him junk food. 

.......don't entertain him all day long and expect him to play independently. 

..........love staying home with him but sometimes feel bored/lonely. 

mrs.wildman

bluestreet:

I still fantasize about smoking. If I make it to 80, and DH has gone into the great unknown, I will so start smoking again!

Meeee tooo. Well minus the husband part. I think we'll both probably start again if we make it that long.

Don't judge me for not doing family dinners. Or for letting DD watch an episode (or two) of Yo Gabba Gabba while she eats and I clean.

michelleaxo

rssnlvr:

Taytee:

"Don't judge me because I let my kids eat McDonald's etc at least once a week"

lol...when I pick DD up from school, she says, "Are we going to Old McDonald's for dinner?" Then when I say, "No, not today," she says, "Oh. Are we going to Chick-Fil-A?" 

Yes. My child knows all the fast food restaurants by name. 

Gracie was dreaming the other night about 'Donalds. I went in to cover her up and she started asking for nuggets and apples. ::sigh::

Nessia

... Didn't want to breastfeed and only did it for a few weeks because I was made to feel guilty. 

.... Let DD watch some non-kid shows  

2H2L

bobcatsteph:

Don't judge me because..

DD still uses a paci
I would rather work that be a SAHM
Dd loves Nick Jr.

don't judge me because of these, too. Or because the girls have an early bedtime because I do bedtime alone and leave for work at 5:20 every morning. (I actually feel guilty about this, but could not function if they stayed up until 8ish.) And they ask for pixar movies by name.

MrsAJL

bluestreet:

amyliisa:

I love that my kid is not the only one who can spot an Old McDonalds from miles away, and that he's not the only one who calls it Old McDonalds! Here's a doozy, that I always feel judged for: Don't judge me because I was a smoker before getting pg with DS1, that I picked it back up again when he always a year old, and kept it up until getting pg with DS2. And that my DH, bless his heart, has tried so hard to quit and hasn't been able to yet. There, I said it. :-(

Witch! 

I still fantasize about smoking. If I make it to 80, and DH has gone into the great unknown, I will so start smoking again!

This reminds me of a show from one of my favorite comedians, Kathleen Madigan. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=998vtqdbNjg

mlf625

...had a c/s and formula fed by choice.

Mrs.Froggianna

SaraLouiseBride08:

Don't judge me because I'd rather stay home than work. ... I feel like I'm "supposed" to be all about empowering women to work.

This times 10. Please don't judge me because my kid is pretty much a human tornado. He's polite, shares (most of the time) and usually picks up after himself (when asked). I refuse to stifle him just because others aren't used to such a busy, active kiddo.

FireChiefsBride

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

carlinlp

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

I will ditto this.  

ali-1411

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

You should totally post them.  Nobody's posting anything judgeworthy, we need some entertainment around here.  Flamefree, of course.  Because its No Judging Day. 

I admitted that I smoked while pregnant.  What could be worse than that in Bumpland? 

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ali-1411:

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

You should totally post them.  Nobody's posting anything judgeworthy, we need some entertainment around here.  Flamefree, of course.  Because its No Judging Day. 

I admitted that I smoked while pregnant.  What could be worse than that in Bumpland? 

I agree. It's a cop out to say that you'll be judged anyway. The whole point of this is to point out that we all come from different places as parents and that we all make different decisions. Anyone who's going to judge you based on what you write here will have judged the lot of us, so at least you'll be in good company.

FireChiefsBride

ali-1411:

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

You should totally post them.  Nobody's posting anything judgeworthy, we need some entertainment around here.  Flamefree, of course.  Because its No Judging Day. 

I admitted that I smoked while pregnant.  What could be worse than that in Bumpland? 

Psshhhh... I would get banned from the board.  Seriously, some people would be highly offended.  I'd be happy to tell you how wretched of a person I am over lunch some time.

Funsies?

Please don't judge me because I have to drink before seeing ILs on the holidays. I have major anxiety and prefer to just drink occasionally rather than taking Rx regularly.

Please don't judge me bc I studied Wicca for awhile as a teen. With my mothers encouragement, I explored as many religions as would let me in.  Others include: Muslim, Mormon and Pentecostal.

Please don't judge me bc I have a major event this week and am sitting on the nest/ bump rather than getting important things done that I'm paid to do.  It'll get done bc my @ss is on the line. (_|_) (heehee)

Please don't judge me because I ? Farmville.  

Ooh, and one I have gotten flamed for almost every time I bring it up that is worthy: please don't judge me bc my dog lives outside.  

ebat

...b/c I let DD#2 nap on her tummy

ali-1411

FireChiefsBride:

ali-1411:

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

You should totally post them.  Nobody's posting anything judgeworthy, we need some entertainment around here.  Flamefree, of course.  Because its No Judging Day. 

I admitted that I smoked while pregnant.  What could be worse than that in Bumpland? 

Psshhhh... I would get banned from the board.  Seriously, some people would be highly offended.  I'd be happy to tell you how wretched of a person I am over lunch some time.

Funsies?

Please don't judge me because I have to drink before seeing ILs on the holidays. I have major anxiety and prefer to just drink occasionally rather than taking Rx regularly.

Please don't judge me bc I studied Wicca for awhile as a teen. With my mothers encouragement, I explored as many religions as would let me in.  Others include: Muslim, Mormon and Pentecostal.

Please don't judge me bc I have a major event this week and am sitting on the nest/ bump rather than getting important things done that I'm paid to do.  It'll get done bc my @ss is on the line. (_|_) (heehee)

Please don't judge me because I ? Farmville.  

Ooh, and one I have gotten flamed for almost every time I bring it up that is worthy: please don't judge me bc my dog lives outside.  

I'm not impressed.  I drink before every function - regardless of the dreaded inlaws - just because I need alcohol in order to have fun.  I was a super Right Wing Christian Conservative for years, I think that's a cult worse than Wiccan.  I'm the laziest stay at home mom in the history of SAHMs.  I have no shame over it. 

But oooohhhh.....the dog.  Poor baby is COLD!!! (or hot.  depending on the season).  Bring him INSIDE, isn't he part of your FAMILY?!?!?  

Ha!  Totally kidding.  Although I do feel really bad for our neighbors dog who lives outside, no doghouse or any shelter from bad weather.  And he barks 24/7.  And he's a pittie - which I adore pits - but this dog isn't being socialized and I have moments of panic that he'll get out and eat one of my kids.

Try again.

joyco

FireChiefsBride:

ali-1411:

FireChiefsBride:

There are some things I thought about writing, but I didn't. I know I'm not the only one.

I would be judged regardless.

But it's a good effort, and conveys a good point.  

You should totally post them.  Nobody's posting anything judgeworthy, we need some entertainment around here.  Flamefree, of course.  Because its No Judging Day. 

I admitted that I smoked while pregnant.  What could be worse than that in Bumpland? 

Psshhhh... I would get banned from the board.  Seriously, some people would be highly offended.  I'd be happy to tell you how wretched of a person I am over lunch some time.

Funsies?

Please don't judge me because I have to drink before seeing ILs on the holidays. I have major anxiety and prefer to just drink occasionally rather than taking Rx regularly.

Please don't judge me bc I studied Wicca for awhile as a teen. With my mothers encouragement, I explored as many religions as would let me in.  Others include: Muslim, Mormon and Pentecostal.

Please don't judge me bc I have a major event this week and am sitting on the nest/ bump rather than getting important things done that I'm paid to do.  It'll get done bc my @ss is on the line. (_|_) (heehee)

Please don't judge me because I ? Farmville.  

Ooh, and one I have gotten flamed for almost every time I bring it up that is worthy: please don't judge me bc my dog lives outside.  

Oh FCB, you can do better than that.  I'm agnostic and I would drink heavily every time I see the MIL, but then I'd be drunk most of the week.  Oh and I send my kids to a church school b/c it's cheap.  

Don't judge me b/c I would judge anyone who gives their toddler soda [gives side eye to my cousin, whose 3-year-old asks for coke and sprite every time I see him].

Don't judge me b/c my children wouldn't know a vegetable if it hit them in the face.  

Don't judge me b/c my children are very "excited about life" (<-school's words, not mine) and are more enthusiastic about anything, which translates to them being live wires.  They'll chill when they're teens, I'm sure.

Don't judge me b/c I have no intention of buying organic, we don't have the money for that kind of stuff.  (at the rate my children don't eat food, it would be a waste to buy/serve that stuff and then watch it all go in the trash, no thanks)

Don't judge me if I spoil my kids.  I love to buy them toys/art supplies/books.  It makes them happy which makes me happy.

Don't judge me if I let my kids play outside by themselves while I do the dishes (I do watch them out the back doors.  I can see them the whole time.)

 

Hmm, I could go on.

thethomps

FireChiefsBride:

Please don't judge me because I ? Farmville.  

Dude.  I am addicted.  You, me and Rosie can be  together.