OK, so I have a doula, we used her for the birth of DS and I booked her again for this baby. With this pregnancy I've texted her a few times with questions and I've met with her once to go over a few things. Two weeks ago at my u/s, the baby was breech and I completely lost it. I am so terrified of having a c-section and just felt really scared. I called her and was a blubbering idiot for 20 minutes on the phone, and she basically told me it's too early to worry about it. I talked with her about a lot of personal, emotional stuff I've got going on in my head.
Anyway, since then I've been to an acupuncturist and a chiropractor and have been reading everything on spinningbabies.com, etc. I know it was thanksgiving last week, but I'm kind of bummed that I haven't heard anything from her, not a text or email or anything to check in. She knew I was going to make appointments with all these people and that I was really scared. I'm embarrassed after completely freaking out, but also feel a little hurt that she hasn't contacted me. For those of you who are doulas or who use doulas, what do you think of this situation? Was I out of line to have called her crying? What should I expect of her if baby stays breech in the next few weeks? I guess I'm not really sure what role the doula should play when things get complicated. I had been feeling like I could call her for any kind of support, but now I'm not so sure. Thanks for any advice.
Re: Am I overreacting?
Only you know what your relationship is with your doula.
From my POV, I totally think you are overreacting. As she told you- it is WAY early to be freaking out like this...even now at 31 weeks you seem to be taking things to the extreme with all the treatments. She might just think you had a one time freak out moment and have moved on.
Also, and forgive me since I have never had a doula and just might not know, I am not sure if it is really her job to help you with issues such as these so early in the game- shouldn't you be talking to your care provider about this? Yes, I can see your doula helping you just before labor and during labor with positioning, but at 28-31 weeks?
If it were me, I would just give her an update and let it lie....also I would address your care provider with these concerns.
Best wishes.
My MW doesn't even check to see if baby is breech until like 36+ weeks, they can flip up until labor starts even so I wouldn't stress too much. Like PP, from what you've said it sounds like your overreacting a little, but I understand we all tend to with the hormones lol. And everyone has that one thing that freaks them out during pregnancy.
I would just call her and talk to her though. Maybe she can ease your mind a little bit more about your baby being breech right now.