To announce on FB or not?

liesam

I'm having a really hard time deciding if I'm going to actually make an "announcement" on FB about our pregnancy or if I'm just going to leave it. Part of me really wants to say something, but I don't want to be "that girl". The other part of me just wants to leave it since the people who matter the most to DH & I already know. What do you think?

sassafras007

I will be after 15 weeks when I tell my family.

It is my only connection to some people since I live so far away!

liesam

theresat858:

I don't know...I want to announce but I didn't have the guts to do it on Thanksgiving.  Now I am thinking of waiting until after the anatomy scan. I probably will put it on there at some point because I haven't told all of my FB friends via other means yet.

This is pretty much where I'm at. We told the last of our family/friends, who we thought should hear the news in person, this weekend so it's pretty much distant family and FB friends who don't know now. I just don't want to seem like an AW lol!

VampyAuthor

Given DH is military and we have loved ones all over, FB was our biggest connection to some family and close friends. I did wait until I felt comfortable, had a few u/s's and had seen and heard the hb. We made a little post and DH posted it from his page and tagged me.

candacek31

I waited until I hit 2nd tri and then I just changed my profile pic to one of DH and I.  In the pic we both had one hand on my belly.  Never actually made an announcement but most people got it right away just by seeing the pic.

corndog8

SweetTurnip:

I don't think that makes you an AW! DH and made a simple "are expecting a baby in February" and it was a nice way of letting people know after we told our immediate families. We did it at 9 weeks after a succesful u/s (never gotten to that point before) because our immediate families knew and it was bound to come out. I needed it out on my terms. I rarely post about my pregnancy (I have a few TTCAL buddies on there) but I rarely post about anything really. Do it when you're ready in a way you are comfortable with!

ETA: Before I made any big announcements/ posted pictures I sent out a little warning to people that I knew might appreciate the notice, if that is something you're worried about.

Same with bolded - I finally did post last week - I let some of my TTCAL friends know I was going to post and waited until after 2nd Tri, our a/s and our gender reveal.  I figured at some point there would be pics of me looking pg and so before anyone outed me, I wanted to do it myself.  I posted a pic of our reveal cake (slice missing) and said we were happy to be adding the newest addition to our family, it's a boy.   I haven't posted anything else on the preg. yet and don't really think I will.  

i would do what you are comfortable with. 

E3A7AGGIE

I have this idea in my head that I am going to 'announce to FB' on New Years. I don't know if I'm going to go all-out and post an u/s picture, or maybe just the picture of when we found out, or nothing... but I thought it'd be a cute & a not too "out there" way to announce in a way that talks about the new year coming (or something of the sort). 

 

MsVolley02

I was going to post on FB after Thanksgiving because that is when we told the last of the family, however DH wants me to wait for our next U/S which probably won't be until after the New Year.  So right now I am just anxiously sitting on my hands trying to be patient.  DH made a good point saying that the important people know and we aren't hiding it, but he thinks it will be really cool to post with a picture. 

katmacwv

I need to tell my office and a couple of friends with fertility issues the news first, and then I plan to put a picture of DD in one of those cute little announcement shirts (Big Sister in Training or I'm Going to be a Big Sister) on FB to share the news.  I live 5-7 hours away from a lot of my sorority sisters (2 of which already know the news) and don't see friends from my hometown often, so this is the best way to be able to share the news with them.  My plan is to tell my office at the end of this week or sometime next week and then on to FB.  Since we saw a healthy baby at my second u/s on Monday, I'm ready share the news now.  Did I mention we haven't told DD yet?

mrs.gee

I decided not to. I just remember hating the announcements while we were trying/miscarrying/etc. The important people know and the rest of them can be shocked when baby pictures show up.

ECHC829

We aren't doing the FB announcement... I have friends IRL who I know are struggling and I don't want to be "that girl" like you said, plus all the other random ppl I'm connected to who could be going through that... or just generally don't give a crap.

If I was only connected to close friends and family, sure, but I'm not.

All my family and close friends know, the rest of my friends, neighbors, etc will find out with our xmas card... I'm sure after that people will post congratulations on my wall which I am fine with, I just don't want to gloat or draw attention....

hopefulmom81

I guess I thought about the way it stung me when people announced on Facebook after my losses and made the decision not to.  I don't want to unknowingly hurt anyone. 

Plus, I have a layer of good friends on facebook (who I am telling in person as I see them), but the rest are acquaintances who probably couldn't care less. 

MarxieVonTrapp

I told my friends and family first and then waited until after our 16 week appointment and just posted that we were expecting a baby in April.  I'm glad I did it, because I have so many friends from all over the world and it's sometimes the easiest way.  And I will not be posting about baby stuff for the next twenty weeks, because that's obnoxious.

chusum

hopefulmom81:

I guess I thought about the way it stung me when people announced on Facebook after my losses and made the decision not to.  I don't want to unknowingly hurt anyone. 

Plus, I have a layer of good friends on facebook (who I am telling in person as I see them), but the rest are acquaintances who probably couldn't care less. 

Exactly how I feel! I was excited for my friends who announced their pregnancies, but it took everything inside of me to congratulate them, plus the green eyed monster always came out.

Everyone who is worth telling has been told.