help! if youve adopted please help me

ttcbabyvaughan2011

ive been ttc on my own with no luck and ive been thinking idc.. i want to be a mother and if i cant carry my own i would still love to have a child of my own. and i wanna know how you went about adoption how it works and who would you contact?

Dr.Loretta

Welcome. I'd start with the FAQs and go from there.

Hope2Have

Our story totally is out of the normal but adoption has been such a blessing in our lives, as you can see, she's so darn cute.

There is a faq section on the main page, up to the right corner I think... good luck, I know that IF sucks, but there is hope!

silliestbunny

Welcome and "hang out" here.... there's many great women with great stories. 

ttcbabyvaughan2011

thanks for being so open and friendly some women on here have been so rude about my age and  everything cuz i wanted to try clomid.. yes im 20 and young but im about to be 21 and im MARRIED and my age has nothing to do with how well of a mother id be.. but thanks again ill be sticking around here.

Dr.Loretta

ttcbabyvaughan2011:

thanks for being so open and friendly some women on here have been so rude about my age and  everything cuz i wanted to try clomid.. yes im 20 and young but im about to be 21 and im MARRIED and my age has nothing to do with how well of a mother id be.. but thanks again ill be sticking around here.

I think I'd like more details. How long have you been TTC? Are you seeing an ob/gyn or an RE? Why Clomid? Have you had a full medical workup?

How does your DH feel about adoption?

ttcbabyvaughan2011

Dr.Loretta:

ttcbabyvaughan2011:

thanks for being so open and friendly some women on here have been so rude about my age and  everything cuz i wanted to try clomid.. yes im 20 and young but im about to be 21 and im MARRIED and my age has nothing to do with how well of a mother id be.. but thanks again ill be sticking around here.

I think I'd like more details. How long have you been TTC? Are you seeing an ob/gyn or an RE? Why Clomid? Have you had a full medical workup?

How does your DH feel about adoption?

 

for about 2 years now and my DH was the one who brought it up he said "baby i dont care what it takes but we will have our family and we could adopt a precious baby and still be just as happy, and yes im seeing an obgyn, and my cycle is wacky sometimes so iv been researching clomid and it seemed like something i wanted to do but ill let my obgyn decide if its right for me

Dr.Loretta

Clomid is not something you decide to take. It's something your dr decides is appropriate for you.

See a reproductive endocrinologist. Get a full workup. From there, decide what your path should be to build a family.

Be aware that some agencies have age limits, so you may be considered too young to adopt at this time. Just something to keep in mind.

ETA: And you're 20. There's no rush. Spend a couple of years having a good time, enjoying your DH, and saving up $ to make adoption possible. This may go hand in hand with the age limit.

Proud adoptive mom 6.11.09

Age has nothing to do with how well of a parent you will be. My DH and I live in Florida and the legal age to adopt here is 21. When I was 21 we adopted a 14 year old. This was 3 years ago. We have since been through 2 IVF both resulting in BFN. We are looking into adopting again though this time we would like a much younger child. I hope you find your answers you are looking for. Best wishes.

silliestbunny

OP-  I am sorry if you've encoutered people that have been rude about your age or circumstances.  But please know that the world of adoption is riddled with scammers and Anti-adoption propoganda types.  So when something doesn't seem to fit the typical profile, eyebrows may be raised.

Like I said, stick around, read the FAQs and you'll learn about the process. 
The upside to being younger is that you do not have to feel rushed.  My husband and I are both nearing 40 and wanted to have children in our thirties and absolutely felt rushed. 

Dr.Loretta

I'm going to be brutally honest with you, now that I've caught up on some of your posts on other boards.

Take a breath and start at the beginning. And it might help to give a little background on your situation. From the sounds of it, you're not quite sure what you're doing, you don't even know if you have anything wrong with you, and you're grasping at straws. Which is understandable, but it might be worth it to downshift a little and find out what's going on before you make any sudden decisions about life.

You "might" take Clomid because you read about it on the internet. You "might" have endo because sex is painful and your DH read something on the internet. For all you know you're just timing sex wrong (which is understandable, I didn't know anything about my body at your age). You've now decided that you want to adopt without any knowledge of how it works. Which again is fine, but put on the brakes and see what you're dealing with.

You're 20. 20. You have an entire life of having a family in front of you, whether that's biologically, through adoption, or a combination of that and more.

Take some time to lurk on the message boards. Some are snarky. Some are very tight-knit. Some require introductions. Some are extremely helpful to new people, some aren't. Some take offense to a lot of text-speak posted from an iPhone. It's the nature of the beast.

Hang around, learn some things, talk to a doctor and your husband, and see how you want to proceed. It doesn't all have to happen tomorrow. Adoption can be a long, slow, incredibly emotional process. Just like a lot of life.

GL

CaptainSerious

Hello, and welcome.  I think you'll learn a lot about adopt by hanging out here, reading the posts and the FAQs.  As Dr. L. said, it's not necessarily a quick or sure path to parenthood.  It often comes with a lot of added anxiety and concerns.  It's a wonderful way to build a family, but not for everyone.  Stick around, follow the board, and it will become clear if this is your path or not.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best on your way to motherhood!