Stupid SO.

Cobra11

So I just started giving my LO formula because my supply has slowly been drying up. My SO was okay with the bottle of formula at night as long as I was still BFing during the day. Well today I gave my LO a bottle and he took almost 6 ounces, and this was AFTER I fed him. I called my SO and told him we may have to do formula full time because of how much he had just ate. He was quiet for a few minutes and was like.."we'll have to figure something out." I know he means money wise...first of all yes, formula is expensive but our kid's gotta eat, second of all, you already know I have hated BFing for quite a while and now you're going to make me feel guilty about the cost?? Now I'm damn near tears because I feel bad about not making enough and stressing him out money wise. UGH! 

 

Mrs.P08

It is a financial burden, but you need to tell him that stressing you out isn't going to help your supply ANY!  I know I am on a ton of lists and get coupons all the time in the mail, so I would sign up right away if you haven't already. 

I am so sorry he is being so unsupportive.  My DH doesn't put it on me, but I know I feel guilty that I don't LOVE to BF.  Like my Mom always says to my DH and you should share with your SO, "The way to be the best father is to love his mother"

S-Tuna

They never seem to know what to say when you are both disappointed about something. I hope he realizes how much more supportive he could have been when you talk about it again. Stupid money.

Cobra11

Mrs.P08:

It is a financial burden, but you need to tell him that stressing you out isn't going to help your supply ANY!  I know I am on a ton of lists and get coupons all the time in the mail, so I would sign up right away if you haven't already. 

I am so sorry he is being so unsupportive.  My DH doesn't put it on me, but I know I feel guilty that I don't LOVE to BF.  Like my Mom always says to my DH and you should share with your SO, "The way to be the best father is to love his mother"

That's a great quote. I will definitely share that with him. I will also sign up for the coupons. I wish I had thought to do that earlier, I'd have a lot of formula checks lol. 

mdotm0904

S-Tuna:

They never seem to know what to say when you are both disappointed about something. I hope he realizes how much more supportive he could have been when you talk about it again. Stupid money.

THIS! And tell him they make store brands of formula so it doesn't HAVE to be super expensive. Just regular expensive lol I think i spend $40-60 a month on Target formula. Not bad compared to others.

Cobra11

S-Tuna:

They never seem to know what to say when you are both disappointed about something. I hope he realizes how much more supportive he could have been when you talk about it again. Stupid money.

I know he's worried but we have so many ways we could cut back. If he was really worried he'd start cutting out so many things we just don't need, ykwim? 

 

daylight11

That's too bad that he couldn't have been more supportive. I bet he'll come around and understand this is something that can be worked out. 

Cobra11

He called me back and apologized. Guys can be really dense sometimes though lol

MrsCase1

Cobra11:

So I just started giving my LO formula because my supply has slowly been drying up. My SO was okay with the bottle of formula at night as long as I was still BFing during the day. Well today I gave my LO a bottle and he took almost 6 ounces, and this was AFTER I fed him. I called my SO and told him we may have to do formula full time because of how much he had just ate. He was quiet for a few minutes and was like.."we'll have to figure something out." I know he means money wise...first of all yes, formula is expensive but our kid's gotta eat, second of all, you already know I have hated BFing for quite a while and now you're going to make me feel guilty about the cost?? Now I'm damn near tears because I feel bad about not making enough and stressing him out money wise. UGH! 

 

 

my kid despises formula so i rarely buy it and i still get more coupons than i can use so i agree with whomever said to get on their mailing lists. good luck.  

tourqeyes

Formula is expensive, but you can find lots of ways to get costs down.

 

What I do is always ask for formula at your LO's appointments. Healthy and sick visits.

 Look in clearance sections of grocery stores, BRU/BBB, Walgreens/CVS, I have found HUGE deals there. Usually the formula will expire within the next few weeks but I end up just using that first.

 Sign up for formula coupons through Gerber, Similac, and Enfamil. You can then trade those formula checks that you don't need for ones that you do need.

Stack rebate checks, with manufacturer's coupons, and then stack with store coupons. For instance at Target, you are able to use a rebate check, a manufacturers coupon, and a Target coupon.

Sometimes they have specials going at stores too. Right now for every two refill packs of enfamil I get, I receive a $10 gift card.

Store brand is always cheap too!

That reminded me that on the FB group we were talking about the redcard which will link to your debit card and give you 5% off of every purchase!

 

I don't know if any of this will help you but thought I would share what I have learned the past few months. Times are tough but we will get through it!

 

Cobra11

tourqeyes:

Formula is expensive, but you can find lots of ways to get costs down.

 

What I do is always ask for formula at your LO's appointments. Healthy and sick visits.

 Look in clearance sections of grocery stores, BRU/BBB, Walgreens/CVS, I have found HUGE deals there. Usually the formula will expire within the next few weeks but I end up just using that first.

 Sign up for formula coupons through Gerber, Similac, and Enfamil. You can then trade those formula checks that you don't need for ones that you do need.

Stack rebate checks, with manufacturer's coupons, and then stack with store coupons. For instance at Target, you are able to use a rebate check, a manufacturers coupon, and a Target coupon.

Sometimes they have specials going at stores too. Right now for every two refill packs of enfamil I get, I receive a $10 gift card.

Store brand is always cheap too!

That reminded me that on the FB group we were talking about the redcard which will link to your debit card and give you 5% off of every purchase!

 

I don't know if any of this will help you but thought I would share what I have learned the past few months. Times are tough but we will get through it!

 

That is a great help!! Thanks so much!! 

jennypenny1014

I dont have any advice for you since everyone else seemed to cover it, so I just wanna give you a hug. :::SQUEEEEEZE!:::

That is all.

wintermama11

I'm sorry your SO was not supportive at first, but at least he wised up and apologized.  It's a tough decision for you emotionally and he needs to recognize that fact.

I second all the advice given by PP's.  You can find lots of good deals and definitely sign up for manufacturer checks.

Cobra11

jennypenny1014:

I dont have any advice for you since everyone else seemed to cover it, so I just wanna give you a hug. :::SQUEEEEEZE!:::

That is all.

I love hugs! LOL...now where's my emoticon?? 

eesome

Oh, Cobra!   I'm sorry. ((((hugs))))

Yes, formula is very expensive, but if you break it down, it's about $4 a day. Tell that to your DH. 

And a suggestion- Go to Sam's Club for formula. I get the really big Similac for $28.98 and then use a $5.00 check coupon, and get it for $23.98. It usually lasts a week and a half.

Money sucks, but the baby has to eat. Not your fault! 

Cobra11

eesome:

Oh, Cobra!   I'm sorry. ((((hugs))))

Yes, formula is very expensive, but if you break it down, it's about $4 a day. Tell that to your DH. 

And a suggestion- Go to Sam's Club for formula. I get the really big Similac for $28.98 and then use a $5.00 check coupon, and get it for $23.98. It usually lasts a week and a half.

Money sucks, but the baby has to eat. Not your fault! 

Thanks ee! He realized the error of his ways and apologized, but it really hurt my feelings, as much as I hated BFing I still wanted to give it all I had and even that didn't make him happy. But J will be on formula from now on, he's a little more burpy from it but otherwise happier than fussing at my boob. 

eesome

Cobra11:

Thanks ee! He realized the error of his ways and apologized, but it really hurt my feelings, as much as I hated BFing I still wanted to give it all I had and even that didn't make him happy. But J will be on formula from now on, he's a little more burpy from it but otherwise happier than fussing at my boob. 

No problem, and I'm glad your SO apologized. Sometimes men just don't think...especially when it comes to things only us mothers can do. It looks "easy" to them, and usually isn't.

Plus-- a non-fussy baby is a happy baby. Here's to both of us transitioning over to formula!  

Cobra11

eesome:

Cobra11:

Thanks ee! He realized the error of his ways and apologized, but it really hurt my feelings, as much as I hated BFing I still wanted to give it all I had and even that didn't make him happy. But J will be on formula from now on, he's a little more burpy from it but otherwise happier than fussing at my boob. 

No problem, and I'm glad your SO apologized. Sometimes men just don't think...especially when it comes to things only us mothers can do. It looks "easy" to them, and usually isn't.

Plus-- a non-fussy baby is a happy baby. Here's to both of us transitioning over to formula!  

Yay!!!  

Stellasmom

Ds was 100% formula fed and at his highest intake we were still only spending $80 per month on formula. We bought the store brand at SAMs Club. Formula isn't that expensive, IMO.

Cobra11

Stellasmom:

Ds was 100% formula fed and at his highest intake we were still only spending $80 per month on formula. We bought the store brand at SAMs Club. Formula isn't that expensive, IMO.

He's totally being dramatic, if he's stop eating out everyday for lunch it wouldn't be a big deal lol. 

Stellasmom

Cobra11:

Stellasmom:

Ds was 100% formula fed and at his highest intake we were still only spending $80 per month on formula. We bought the store brand at SAMs Club. Formula isn't that expensive, IMO.

He's totally being dramatic, if he's stop eating out everyday for lunch it wouldn't be a big deal lol. 

Lol. This is like dh refusing to get an unlimited texting plan and being a total text Nazi, but dropping $60 on dinner just because.

megd06

I highly recommend Parents' Choice (walmart brand) of formula--it's EXACTY the same as similac/enfamil, but half the cost. It was all we ever gave DS (I weaned him at 6 wks) and we never had any issues on it--we used the Sensitive formula.

Cobra11

megd06:

I highly recommend Parents' Choice (walmart brand) of formula--it's EXACTY the same as similac/enfamil, but half the cost. It was all we ever gave DS (I weaned him at 6 wks) and we never had any issues on it--we used the Sensitive formula.

Thanks!! I will tell my SO.