would you be upset if someone put frosting on infants lips

ASmallWonder

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

Nowhere did I say that it would make anyone an alcoholic.  And I'm pretty chill but I give this a serious side eye.  Unlike cough medicine, an alcoholic beverage given to an INFANT serves no purpose.  Where do you draw the line?  A teeny tiny spec of coke to see how baby reacts?  I just seriously don't get the line of thinking that it's something worth doing for any reason. 

tmac1022

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

I completely agree

Kitiara5512

bstrangely:

so the consensus is, everyone would be pissed, but not as pissed as kitiara, unless you're abcoleslaw.

i really don't think it would bother me too much. i'd probably just tell her that's not really a good idea and make a mental note not to hand my baby to this person anymore.

Ha. I kind of got over my pissiness on that issue personally when I realized I would be arguing with my mother on a daily basis, as she takes C in the afternoons til I get off of work. We had a nice discussion on allergens and she only gave him foods we knew he was okay with after we had tested at home. C also has no allergies that we have found yet, so no worries there, but at 2 months, we knew he had issues with bm and we didn't know what else would be a problem. I wouldn't break up with a friend but there would be a discussion. And if it wasn;t a friend, then the icy stare and pursed lips.

diana.filipi

chapski:

Kitiara0364:

A kid that young cannot process any foods - I would throw a shiit fit that would result in longer being friends with that person. Which makes me extremely grateful that all my friends and I respect each others parenting decisions, even when we do not agree.

really? wow....

I agree that she should not have done it. Honestly I didn't even see her do it, she told me about it on the way home. I knew our friend wasn't happy, but I didn't know why till the ride home.

I don't think it was a good thing... But wow. The friend that did it doesn't have any kids and is sorta a kid herself. so maybe she doesn't really get the "respect others parenting" to the "t" some of us would. I could see telling her not to do that...Throwing a shiit fit that results in not being friends anymore, I would NOT do. Not for on dab of frosting when she didn't know better.

Yeah, I would be annoyed but certainly I can't actually see some of the reactions I've seen posted.  I can't imagine not wanting to be friends over it any more.  Perhaps I have more vested in my friendships.  It wasn't a good thing to do but I would just tell her to please not do that again as the baby needs a few more months!  Friends are important and a touch of frosting isn't actually going to hurt the baby for heavens sake.

ETA: I see Kitiara's response above now :-)

ASmallWonder

tmac1022:

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

I completely agree

Oh and also, cough medicine isn't given to 9 month olds. 

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elmoali:

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

Nowhere did I say that it would make anyone an alcoholic.  And I'm pretty chill but I give this a serious side eye.  Unlike cough medicine, an alcoholic beverage given to an INFANT serves no purpose.  Where do you draw the line?  A teeny tiny spec of coke to see how baby reacts?  I just seriously don't get the line of thinking that it's something worth doing for any reason. 

Seriously?

pitterpatter129

elmoali:

tmac1022:

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

I completely agree

Oh and also, cough medicine isn't given to 9 month olds. 

Um, I don't usually chime in on these arguments, but I'm going to have to side with elmoali here.  I also side-eyed the orginal beer comment and agree that you would never give cough syrup to small children under the age of 2 anyway.  So, I guess at least wait until your baby is 2 to give them beer.

Oh, and frosting would upset me too.

 

llc730

elmoali:

Kitiara0364:

llc730:

elmoali:

llc730:

I think for a 2 month old it is a pretty silly thing to do. When DD was little my dad kept joking about putting his finger in his beer. He didn't actually do it until she was 9 months or so. I would be annoyed but probably not something to get really upset about.

Wait, am I the only person who caught this?  Your father put his beer coated finger in your DD's mouth and you think that's ok because he waited until she was 9 months?!? 

Yes my father has dipped the tip of his finger in beer and given it to DD. He also did it with pickle juice and various other things. He just thought it was funny to see her reaction. It is a miniscule amt so no I don't think it is a big deal.

We did that too, with every food and drink item. A single drop does not an alcoholic make, if it did, we wouldn't use cough syrup.

Nowhere did I say that it would make anyone an alcoholic.  And I'm pretty chill but I give this a serious side eye.  Unlike cough medicine, an alcoholic beverage given to an INFANT serves no purpose.  Where do you draw the line?  A teeny tiny spec of coke to see how baby reacts?  I just seriously don't get the line of thinking that it's something worth doing for any reason. 

Wow! I have posted lots of things on here that I thought might start a debate but this was not one of them. No, of course there is no purpose for it except that my dad thought it was funny. Does it make me roll my eyes, yep, but he was not hurting her in any way so I wasn't going to make a big deal about it.

WildcatPrincess

carlab44:

I don't think I'd be upset about a tiny dab of frosting on my sleeping baby's lips. I'd ask them not to do it again and explain why, but I certainly wouldn't be pissed. Now if they were spoon feeding it to him/her or putting it in his/her mouth that would be a different story.

Exactly.

Torani

I would be pissed.  FIL did stuff like this all the time (like giving my 6mo soda!) and it always pissed me off.

KRISTA555

I'd be very annoyed and would say something to the girl.

 Pissed is probably too strong of a word.  It takes a lot more than that to really piss me off.

Singingmama

carlab44:

I don't think I'd be upset about a tiny dab of frosting on my sleeping baby's lips. I'd ask them not to do it again and explain why, but I certainly wouldn't be pissed. Now if they were spoon feeding it to him/her or putting it in his/her mouth that would be a different story.

 

Yep, this is exactly how I'd feel about the situation. I sincerely doubt that your friend really thought about what she was doing. She was most likely just trying to be funny and interact with the sleeping baby. As the mother, I probably would've calmly leaned over, wiped the icing from the baby's mouth and said, "I'd rather her not have anything other than breastmilk/formula, until she's much older" and that would've been the end of the situation. I wouldn't be mad at my friend (she didn't do it to hurt the baby and she didn't do it to be rude or disrespectful) and I would still allow my friend to hold and interact with the baby whenever we were together.

I would probably put her on a mental list of people who probably shouldn't babysit till the child was much older.

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