Does your H go to all of your appointments?

sapphirebride06

Mine doesn't - I don't really see a point in him watching them measure me and take my weight and BP.  If I'm having a sono or something then yes, but I don't see a point to it and I'd rather him stay home and get work done than both of us be wasting time by waiting forever in the waiting room.  My doctor's office is notorious for long waits which is ridiculously annoying to me and H has the patience of a gnat so I really would rather him not be sitting next to me complaining!  Even for my 20 week a/s I waited over an hour!  And for my regular appointments I wait at least an hour, for a what 15 minute appointment?  Super annoying to me but not much I can do.  Anyway just curious if your H's went to all of your appointments?  And H didn't go to all of mine with our first son either - just the fun sono ones.

StephBrim24

I don't think it's a big deal if they don't go to all the routine appointments, but my DH does go if he's free.  He likes to hear her heartbeat and stay informed and involved.  Neither of us freak out if he can't get out of work to come. 

mixedqt21

I have the same mentality, maybe we have the same doc?? Lol....It is ALWAYS a long wait for a 5 minute appt so I would rather not hear his complaining nor have him missing out on work.  I go over to the hospital (10 mins away from job) during my lunch break for my appts and it is really out the way for him. 

Sweetest116

Yep, DH likes to take time to come to my appointments - it's super sweet.  He totally doesn't have to and he knows it, but he loves hearing LO's HB and he actually asks my doctor questions.  He also catches me on my crap.  If she asks how I've been feeling and I say great he'll chime in and say "no you've been complaining about this pain or that pain" - it's cute.

Will DH do this for our second child?  Most likely not but it's cute.

poobear2015

DH doesn't go to any of mine. He went to our A/S, and I told him, I could schedule an evening appt if he wanted to go - but he doesn't seem to care for the measuring stuff. I said when we are at our one week appts, I'll schedule 2 of them at night so he has a chance to meet each Dr and since those ones are a lil more important I guess.

runrinserepeat

No. DH came to the first two, and he comes to every u/s. The appointments since have been very short tedious, so he doesn't come. When we get closer to the end, I think he's planning on making a point to be there, but for now, everything has been very routine.

Shmogan09

Nope, he tried to go to as many as possible with DS1 but we realized after the first few that it was pointless for him to rush home early from work for the usual check ups.  He just likes me to call him as I walk to the car to say everything was normal.  Sometimes I like that he isn't there because I can ask my midwife questions without thinking he will worry too much over something silly.  

soralette

Nope. He came with for the ultrasounds and one regular appointment towards the beginning so he could meet the doctor, but I'd rather he save his time off for when the baby's actually here!

love2b_mrst

Yes he does.  I've told him he doesn't have to go because they are so quick and uneventful, but he likes to be there to hear the heartbeat and hear what the dr has to say.  I schedule all of mine first thing in the morning, so it's pretty easy for him to go on the way to work.

mac&chip

I've had 5 u/s, and DH has gone to all of those. He also went to my first basic appointment, so he could hear the heartbeat on the doppler. If I had failed my 1-hour GD test, he was also going to come to the 3-hour with me, because I was nervous about driving.

Since nothing exciting happens at the appointments anymore, I really just don't see the point in making him take off work. 

Lola2x

My DH has been to all but one with me. I am high risk though and my appointments normally run anywhere between 2-4 hours and the center that I go to is just over an hour away. They check everything, including sono at most appointments and encourage you to at least have a "support" person with you at each appointment just in case you get any bad news or have any complications. 

It does feel like a bit much especially now that I am up to every 2 weeks appointments, and we both have to take an entire afternoon of for them, but hey we are seeing the best doctors around and our baby's health comes first.

k3montel

At first, the plan was to have DH at every apt, but that quickly changed.  He came to my first apt and u/s, and he's been to a couple since then, but it's not the norm.  He even had to miss the a/s b/c of work; he has had a lot of health issues, and he had to miss a lot of work for that, so he can't miss for little apts.  Luckily, with the a/s, they couldn't get everything b/c LO wouldn't cooperate, so the u/s tech gave us a 7 am apt so DH could come to that one. 

Our office sounds the same as yours...I had to wait an hour at my last apt for a 10 min check.  DH also has major issues with waiting, especially if it's just for the normal apt.  So, I see no reason for him to go to all of them, I agree, it's almost more annoying when he's there b/c he complains about the wait.

Melzig76

Yep he goes to everyone, he loves feeling like a hes in the know of whats going on.

Shawnee11507

No- he came to my first Dr. appointment and at least 4 of 8 u/s. I only asked him to u/s appointments, but he will miss the rest because he is now working out-of-state.

EllasMommy2010

No, he only comes to the ultrasound ones.  He also came to a few at the very end with my last pregnancy in case I would have to get get checked in or something. 

Ya Never Know

No, and I don't ask him to. The only appointments I've asked him to go to so far was the a/s ultrasound at 20 weeks, and two other appointments when I first found out I was pregnant, because I was having issues and needed moral support. For all other appointments, I don't ask DH to be there, because I literally wait around in an office for an hour just to get to a 5 minute OB appointment to hear a heartbeat, and measure my belly.

Oddly though... DH has never heard our baby's heartbeat. At the appointments he did go to, they never turned on the sound. Oh well, he'll hear it eventually when I'm in labour or about to have the baby. LOL

sapphirebride06

I call him as soon as my appointment is done and he is interested in that but he isn't sad to be missing the appointment and I'm really not sad that he isn't there next to me complaining the whole time!  Plus as my appointments will now start being every 2 weeks, I'd rather him be home to get our DS's stuff packed up if I had to get admitted for any reason then meet me and not be up there with me then have to come home, etc. 

 

ryry1977

Nope.  He goes to the ultrasounds.  That is all.  He went to a few more with DS, but realized how boring they are I assume:)  I don't think he needs to go to the regular ones.  But he does go to any classes or other baby realted things with me.

mrsp+3

My dh does, but in all fairness, he's retired military and goes to school at night full-time.  So, his days are totally free.  Since I'm the one who works during the day (from home), he likes to go with me and keep me company while we wait.  Plus, he loves hearing the heartbeat and stuff.  He didn't get to go to the appointments with his ex-wife when their son was born, so he doesn't want to miss it this time.

ARez726

Nope...my DH has only come to the appointments when I will have an ultrasound.  Neither of us see the point in him taking the time off from work just so I can have my BP taken and weight measured.  I record the heartbeat on my phone, so that I can play it back for him later on!

jmccall79

SO has only been to 1 appointment...and it was because I threatened him within an inch of his life if he didn't got.  I was very upset that he didn't go the A/S ultra appt...figured if anything that would be the one he would attend.  So, after that appt...I got diagnosed with GD and the next appt was to do another ultra and go over diet for GD.  Because he is the cook in our house, and because he missed the previous appt, I MADE him go to that one.  But, no, he doesn't go to every appt and hasn't even offered to go to one since then. 

aracelyluna

DH went to all my first trimester and U/S appts. After that I just tell him when I am going and if he can get off he will go. It isn't tf a big deal but he does ask how did it go. I know he wants to go to some of the ones coming up because he has some questions for the doctor about delivery procedures.

Sept1799

No!

He also could not attend all the sonogram ones with dd and now with this one.

We live in one county and he works in the county to our north (from our house its a 45 min commute) and my doc is in the county to our south (its a good 30 min south of our home)

So needless to say for him to drive all that distance is stupid.

sanriobaby

DH comes to all of my appts. This will be our first born child and given our TTC history, he's very concerned b/c of my high risk status. I love that he's there not only for emotional support, but he really good at remembering things that I forget to ask or mention to the drs. He also has his own questions to ask too! We try and schedule all of the appts before he starts work, but he's even switched schedules to make sure he doesn't miss any appts.

Jesspellant

Every appoitment. Its important to us both, it is a big deal, we are creating a new life together!

 Its a very personal choice, and if you want him there, he should go, if you don't mind going solo, then that is fine too!

eewhite5

My SO has gone to our 2 ultrasounds and the first time we heard the HB. Other than that, it is such a quick appt and I don't see a point in both of us missing work for someone to weigh me and take my BP and stuff. But he always makes sure to ask how it went and everything.

 I have an appt on Wednesday and my mom is coming with me because I am doing my 3 hour GD test after it and she didn't want me to sit alone and be bored all that time (nice mom She is very excited to hear the HB.

lbsunde

My DH came with me to the 1st actual appointment where they did a sonogram and then after that he didn't come anymore for awhile.  He has come to the last couple because I have had an u/s done at each and he is coming to today's appointment, even though he doesn't need to.  He farms with his dad, so his dad is very, "Just go to the appointment with her, it's fine". I always tell his dad it's not a big deal, but he insists that he goes.  Pretty soon it might be hard for me to drive anyway (I'm short and have the seat pushed way forward and with a growing belly it's getting harder to get behind the wheel) so he might have to come with me more or someone is going to have to take me!

kms34

No, mine doesn't.  He goes to the first few with ultrasounds (we have a history of m/c), then the anatomy scan.  He couldn't make the anatomy scan this time so he's going to our growth scan on the 6th instead.  

JessieJH

He didn't used to come to all of my appointments, but the midwives asked that he start coming to the bi-weekly ones so that they get to know him prior to the birth. Luckily we can schedule appointments for the evenings so that we don't have to miss work.

Wiscisbliss

No.  He came to the two ultrasounds, but none of the other appointments. He works nearly an hour away so it just isn't feasible.  If he were right in town, I bet he would come to some and then we'd go out to lunch

He did go on the hospital tour with me and will be going to the classes too.  

StephCripps

my husband went to the first u/s with DS.. and a few ob appointments when he had the time off work...

this time around he's been working more.. so he hasnt had the time to attend..

Lena122

Wow I don't think I'd put up with an hour long wait for every appointment. If they run that behind every once in awhile than that's fine but every time is unnecessary. 

Anyway, DH has only missed one appointment. He wants to go to them all and I like having him there to hear what my OB says to expect in the upcoming weeks. That said, I usually schedule them on his days off so he doesn't have to take off work.  

halo_tx

Mine tries to come to all of them- but it's really easy for him since my OB's office is literally in the building next door to DH's office. I've had some blood pressure issues in the past so I like having them there for support.

Mar5195

He's always gone.  But the next one he'll miss.   It's a late a.m. appointment and they have always been so same ol same ol.  I gave him a pass to skip it and he took it.   

 

 

Brenna9481

He went to the first apt, U/S apt, and the last one I just had.  He only went to the last one because it was on a day that he didn't work.

RNmommyof2

I go to everything by myself. I did with Sammy too. It doesn't bother me. Doctors offices freak him out, so it's no big deal.

KRISTA555

We would both love for him to be at all of them, but his job doesn't allow it.

Ironically, when he was active duty Army, he was able to make it to all of my appts for DD.   Now that he's retired Army, he can't.  Figures.

We're joined at the hip, though, and do pretty much everything together.

KRISTA555

We would both love for him to be at all of them, but his job doesn't allow it.

Ironically, when he was active duty Army, he was able to make it to all of my appts for DD.   Now that he's retired Army, he can't.  Figures.

We're joined at the hip, though, and do pretty much everything together.

megahof

Hubster has gone to all of them so far, because at every one there has been either an ultrasound or some blood drawn (and I get super woozy after that!). Now that I've graduated to twice-monthly appointments, where they're just going to measure me, etc., he's decided not to come unless he really feels like it. That's just fine with me.

Aurora_Borealis

Nope. He went to the 20w anatomy scan, but that's it. I'm low-risk, so I don't really see the point in him taking off work to sit in a medical office to find out that everything's still fine and neither does he. If there were special circumstances where I would want his support, though, he would absolutely be there.

mle5d

Mine only comes to the big ones. He's been to all the ultrasound appts (I see a MFM for my ultrasounds), but not the regular ones. He'll come to one of the ones around the end so he can meet my doctor, but for now, he doesn't need to be at all of them. He's already seen LO 3 times, and will get to see at least one more time before the big arrival, so I'm happy with that.