Driving me Crazy!

katybug499

Ok, this might be long, but I have no clue where else to turn right now.  Don't want to go too far into it but I have insurance complications because I was hired at my new job halfway through the year and so I only have half the coverage I will have once Jan 1st rolls around.  Two months ago my husband and I had a miscarriage, our first.  Our first attempt to get pregnant resulted in a beautiful little boy who is now 4 years old.  So the miscarriage came as a complete shock.  Now, we're pregnant again but my health insurance was drained by our miscarriage.  It was a real kick while we were down to get two bills after we lost our baby.  We weren't going to try again until the new year to avoid having the same thing happen again.

 

Well, we got a positive two weeks ago and it seems that the worst is happening.  I got some brown spotting yesterday followed by a little bit of red blood in mucus.  But then...it stopped.  My cervix went from down and hard and frighteningly open to up and soft, then today the bleeding started again with tiny clots this time.  Again, cervix was down and hard and open, and now it's up and soft again!  My breasts were really hurting the past few weeks and then then didn't hurt so much anymore this morning...and now they hurt again!  I was feeling really sick the past few weeks and then my stomach felt better yesterday, but as I type I'm feeling nauseated again!

I'm going absolutely insane!   I really don't want to go to the doctor only to have to pay for another miscarriage.  I am still taking my prenatals and not drinking alcohol (though I'm feeling so emotionally horrible that wine sounds soooo good about now)

 

Any input about what could be going on would be great.  Is it definitely a miscarriage?  Or should I keep hoping?  I really don't need to hear sugar coating, I've already done my crying.  But I'm just confused and feeling lost.

 

Thanks! 

pottermommy

It isn't definately a M/C until a Dr tells you that for sure it is.  Bleeding of course isn't normal at any stage in pregnancy but there are times that it doesn' signify a M/C.  You could have an irritable cervix or SCH or your body just ridding itself of "old blood". It could even be a vanishing twin, or any number of things.

It could be the begininngs of a M/C, either way, even though the insurance is not there right now you need to see a Dr.  if it isn't a M/C you need to know what to be doing or not doing, so that you stay healthy.  Nothing can stop a M/C if that's what will eventually happen but you can get sick or unhealthy b/c of it and that isn't what you want at all.

If it is a M/C the same thing applies you need to be sure you are doing everything to keep yourself healthy.  A Dr., though expensive, is really important at this time.

chusum

I wish you didn't have to go through this again!

Like pottermommy said it isn't a miscarriage until a doctor tells you. If you want to wait it out go ahead, but I would consult with an OB. I hate to say this, but if it is a miscarriage that would be free, you don't need to go back after they've confirmed it's happening (if it is).

Another option, not sure the state you live in, but in Florida you can visit the state health department if want a less expensive option. It isn't exactly the best option in the world, and you'll wait half the day, but you pay based on what you can afford, and at least you'd be able to get doctor to speak with.