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GoldenPeaches

LUVNE:

GoldenPeaches:

Maybe it's the postpartum hormones but I think posting those two articles was out of line. There are many women on here (myself included) who've had babies at 37-38 weeks not by choice. Throwing articles in our face about how our baby is twice as likely to die isn't cool.

Thank you.  I did not read those articles because I know I would be a nervous wreck afterwards.  We are being induced at 37w4d....due to health concerns.  The last thing I want to think about is how my baby will not be ok...

I wasn't induced but I did have to stop the Procardia due to my BP being 80/50. My baby came between 37 and 38 weeks (exact date still unknown). He is perfectly healthy, born at 7lb 6.5oz, 20 inches long. I hope you have the same outcome--just know most 37 week babies do great!!! Best of luck with your induction.

KellyAnn911

I am so over being pregnant but I still want him to stay in as long as possible.  I have to have a c-section due to him being breech.  They wanted to schedule it right at 39 weeks but I got them to wait until 39w6d just so I could get him to stay in longer and also to give him more time to try to flip.

indiana101

mirandagc91:

Just to add my 2 cents:

• Nobody wants a premie

• We are all uncomfortable

• We all feel for those who have had their baby(ies) prematurely

• We all want our baby(ies) to be healthy at birth

• OWT induction methods don't work unless you are already on the verge of or are in labor so event those who decide to try at 36w6d aren't going to get anywhere unless their labor has already started or is close to starting so leave them be they are doing no harm (unless of course they start trying to perform their own c-section then there are issues)
  

• Women who say they are done at 31 weeks are ridiculous...you still have 2 months

• I AM DONE WITH THE SIDE EFFECTS OF PREGNANCY i.e.: the nausea, the vomiting, the pain in my pelvic area, the constant need to use the bathroom, the discharge, the discomfort in breathing, being kicked in the ribs, LO sitting on my stomach and making it difficult to eat, the heartburn

• 37 weeks is considered full-term for a reason, 39 weeks is better but 37 is just fine

• I love pregnancy just not the unpleasant side-effects that accompany it

• Women are just anxious to hold their LO(s) when 37 weeks rolls around, you can't blame them

• I want the healthiest little girl possible, but I will be induced at 39 weeks if I even make it that far due to health issues of my own

• I hate people flaming others for being "done" when they *** about their discomforts too, more than likely it's anxiety and hormones that trigger the I'm done feeling, we all deal with them in one way or another
  

• Anyone that has made it past 35 weeks I would call a liar if they said they never once had the feeling of "I'm done"

• Being "done" is not selfish, we all know our LOs will come when they please and know that they are not as done as we would like them to be here and now

Call me a liar then. Being 'done' is an insensitive and immature choice of words. For those who have suffered a loss, have a premie baby or had difficulty trying to convieve being 'done' can sound ungrateful. There is definitly a better choice of words. I have no problem reading posts about general complaints of pregnancy and looking forward to the end result, but am definitly sick of posts complaining about being pregnant - its a 40+ week deal for most mamas - grow up!

CamJack mom

indiana101:

mirandagc91:

Just to add my 2 cents:

• Nobody wants a premie

• We are all uncomfortable

• We all feel for those who have had their baby(ies) prematurely

• We all want our baby(ies) to be healthy at birth

• OWT induction methods don't work unless you are already on the verge of or are in labor so event those who decide to try at 36w6d aren't going to get anywhere unless their labor has already started or is close to starting so leave them be they are doing no harm (unless of course they start trying to perform their own c-section then there are issues)
  

• Women who say they are done at 31 weeks are ridiculous...you still have 2 months

• I AM DONE WITH THE SIDE EFFECTS OF PREGNANCY i.e.: the nausea, the vomiting, the pain in my pelvic area, the constant need to use the bathroom, the discharge, the discomfort in breathing, being kicked in the ribs, LO sitting on my stomach and making it difficult to eat, the heartburn

• 37 weeks is considered full-term for a reason, 39 weeks is better but 37 is just fine

• I love pregnancy just not the unpleasant side-effects that accompany it

• Women are just anxious to hold their LO(s) when 37 weeks rolls around, you can't blame them

• I want the healthiest little girl possible, but I will be induced at 39 weeks if I even make it that far due to health issues of my own

• I hate people flaming others for being "done" when they *** about their discomforts too, more than likely it's anxiety and hormones that trigger the I'm done feeling, we all deal with them in one way or another
  

• Anyone that has made it past 35 weeks I would call a liar if they said they never once had the feeling of "I'm done"

• Being "done" is not selfish, we all know our LOs will come when they please and know that they are not as done as we would like them to be here and now

Call me a liar then. Being 'done' is an insensitive and immature choice of words. For those who have suffered a loss, have a premie baby or had difficulty trying to convieve being 'done' can sound ungrateful. There is definitly a better choice of words. I have no problem reading posts about general complaints of pregnancy and looking forward to the end result, but am definitly sick of posts complaining about being pregnant - its a 40+ week deal for most mamas - grow up!

 

I am sorry for your loss, but my being over being pg has NOTHING to do with your loss. You don't have to like my choice of words, but it still has nothing to do with you and it isn't ungrateful. You seem to be taking other people's whining personal. I don't have to choose my words carefully because you find it insensitive.  (PS- this sounds terribly insensitive, but it isn't meant to be. My point is simply that my words are just my thoughts and I won't censor myself because someone takes my gripes personally.)

GoombaGirl_79

I am *totally* done with being pregnant, and have said so....however I am not doing anything to try to make it happen any sooner than it wants to ;-) So any posts where I've whined (I am sure I've posted a few times) it's just that; complaining because everything huuuuurts and all the usual gripes of the 3rd trimester. Not to mention the extra tiredness from chasing after my wonderful little active 2 year old boy (who wakes up at 6am every day) this time around. Fully intend to wait it out though for however long it takes! Griping makes you feel better though so I'm sure that is where a lot of the complaints come from!

 

getnmarried910

CamJack mom:

I have not done anything to induce labor, and I will not, but i am still SO over being pregnant. Yes, I signed up for 40 weeks (well 39 due to the previous c-section), and yes it hurts, but it's not the end of the world. It still doesn't stop me from complaining and being DONE with this process. I am ready to have my baby in my arms, and not in my belly, I don't feel bad about that fact at all. While I agree that 39 weeks is best, I will be happy to have this baby anytime after 37 weeks period.... point blank. I get what you are saying, and when I see people being that dramatic at 31 weeks I understand the sentiment of your post, but I am over being pregnant. I will not do anything to try to make her come faster, but I certainly would not be upset about labor coming on naturally at this point.

I agree, CamJack.  I don't think it's wrong to feel over being pregnant.  Obviously baby is going to come when s/he is ready, regardless of how I feel.  I'm over it.  I DID have a preemie (just under 36 weeks), and I didn't get my last month of pregnancy, but considering she would have died had I gone too much longer, I'm ok with that.  She was 100% healthy.  She had absolutely nothing wrong with her.  She was just as healthy as my 38 and 39 weekers.  Does that mean I want another 36 weeker?  Absolutely not.  But it also doesn't mean I can't feel done.  Yes, I'm doing things to help prep my body for labor, but I don't believe any of it will actually bring on labor until my body is ready.  I don't think sitting on my exercise ball, taking EPO, or drinking red raspberry leaf tea will do anything without my body being ready.  I will likely be induced around 39 weeks if I don't go into labor myself due to my history of fluid issues.  We are currently monitoring them, and once they've been normal, but we've seen them go from normal to very low in a very short time in my other pregnancies.  I'm not wishing for a preemie.  I'm just ready to be done being pregnant...whenever that happens.  I know the end is coming soon.  But I still feel ready. 

ETA: I was advised to bounce on my ball to help bring the baby down.  I drink red raspberry leaf tea whether I'm pregnant or not.  I like it, and it's good for the female organs.  Since I can go into an appointment anytime and be told I'm going to be induced, I am hoping the EPO will soften the cervix as a just in case.  After  34 1/2 hour induction just before 36 weeks, and knowing it can happen again (well, now after 36 weeks since I'm there), I will do what I can.  And we have sex...not often.   But like I said before, I hope it all helps WHEN I go into labor, but I do not believe for a second that any of this will actually put me into labor. 

uncharch7

mirandagc91:

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• Anyone that has made it past 35 weeks I would call a liar if they said they never once had the feeling of "I'm done"

Call me a liar then, because I have not once yet said "I'm done" (36 wks today, not to say it won't get to that point, but still). I've been just the opposite, I'm not ready for it to be over because I hated the first 20 weeks. HATED. Being that this will probably be our only PG, I look back and feel sad that I hated it so much. It was a means to an end; I was PG because a) I had the ability to carry a baby b) I was lucky enough to conceive and c) because we wanted to go that route instead of adopt. Once I felt him move, that all changed. Not to say I *love* the hip pain, the reflux, etc, but I'm not done yet. 

But back to the original point of the post... I can see how people would be "done". There's no denying the fact that the statistics show that babies are healthier when born at 39 weeks. Some people haven't been able to get to that point; and being where I am, I hate it for them. I really do. I don't think anyone means any true harm though by saying those words... they're just ready for it to be done. People tend to do this a LOT with life; it's just part of human nature IMO.

NoodleM

Pregnancy isn't easy, so when people near the end say they are 'done' it doesn't really bother me personally. We all deal with it differently.

I hate how when someone mentions being induced in a post everyone jumps all over them and asks them why and starts making little comments about how they would never want to be induced early. Maybe the person is being induced for healthy reasons, you don't know that.

And I agree OWT induction methods aren't going to do crap unless your body is ready. I drink red raspberry leaf tea because I have been told it makes the second stage of labour easier and it is good for uterine health and can even help with constipation, I eat spicey food because I love it, I have sex because that's part of my husband and I's relationship, and I walk because it's good for you. It doesn't mean I'm trying to have a premie or make my baby come early.

I am getting my membranes stripped after 38 weeks and then once a week after that because my doctor is fine with it and so am I. They don't want to have to medically induce me if I go past due because of the high risk of c-section. They would rather encourage labour in a safer way.

But I almost feel like if I admit that on here, I will get flamed or jumped on because it's not after 40 weeks.

Fletcha

kristen+at+bcb:

I've been not coming on here as much lately because I felt like a weirdo - I am NOT "over" being pregnant. I still love it, even if I am uncomfortable. it makes me feel like I'm missing something to see all those posts about people who just want to be done and I just want my baby to keep cooking...

Me too... I feel like a total weirdo because even though there is a lot of uncomfortable crap happening to my body, most of it stuff I've never even felt/experienced before... I REFUSE to let myself be miserable about it. I'm technically "ready" to bring a baby home and I'm sure everything would be fine and my baby would be healthy if it came now, but from very early on I have mentally prepared myself to go to 41+ weeks.

I'm still working full time night shift, in heels and up and down all night, averaging about 4 hours of sleep per day (usually broken up), dealing with a lot of stress because of layoffs and micro-managing at my job, I have very regular crotch pain that doubles me over, not to mention the usual back/hip/pelvic pain and acid reflux pretty much all the other of the normal full-term symptoms...

But you know what? I've found that when I let myself slip into the "suffering" state of mind and *** and moan about the aches and pains... it makes things a thousand times worse! So I kind of force myself to suck it up, be thankful my baby is healthy and safe inside of me and do what I possibly can to cope with the pain and just focus on the positives. I KNOW I'm going to miss being pregnant, so I'm doing all I can to still enjoy the time I have before s/he is here, time alone with my husband and all the freedoms of still being a two person family! Postpartum is no cake-walk either, from what I've heard!

I'm not being "preachy" and am only speaking for myself, but I just can't read the constant complaints on here... it just makes me feel sorry for all of us and then I start to slip into a negative mindset and that just makes it all worse and more "unbearable"!

mirandagc91

CamJack mom:

indiana101:

mirandagc91:

Just to add my 2 cents:

• Nobody wants a premie

• We are all uncomfortable

• We all feel for those who have had their baby(ies) prematurely

• We all want our baby(ies) to be healthy at birth

• OWT induction methods don't work unless you are already on the verge of or are in labor so event those who decide to try at 36w6d aren't going to get anywhere unless their labor has already started or is close to starting so leave them be they are doing no harm (unless of course they start trying to perform their own c-section then there are issues)
  

• Women who say they are done at 31 weeks are ridiculous...you still have 2 months

• I AM DONE WITH THE SIDE EFFECTS OF PREGNANCY i.e.: the nausea, the vomiting, the pain in my pelvic area, the constant need to use the bathroom, the discharge, the discomfort in breathing, being kicked in the ribs, LO sitting on my stomach and making it difficult to eat, the heartburn

• 37 weeks is considered full-term for a reason, 39 weeks is better but 37 is just fine

• I love pregnancy just not the unpleasant side-effects that accompany it

• Women are just anxious to hold their LO(s) when 37 weeks rolls around, you can't blame them

• I want the healthiest little girl possible, but I will be induced at 39 weeks if I even make it that far due to health issues of my own

• I hate people flaming others for being "done" when they *** about their discomforts too, more than likely it's anxiety and hormones that trigger the I'm done feeling, we all deal with them in one way or another
  

• Anyone that has made it past 35 weeks I would call a liar if they said they never once had the feeling of "I'm done"

• Being "done" is not selfish, we all know our LOs will come when they please and know that they are not as done as we would like them to be here and now

Call me a liar then. Being 'done' is an insensitive and immature choice of words. For those who have suffered a loss, have a premie baby or had difficulty trying to convieve being 'done' can sound ungrateful. There is definitly a better choice of words. I have no problem reading posts about general complaints of pregnancy and looking forward to the end result, but am definitly sick of posts complaining about being pregnant - its a 40+ week deal for most mamas - grow up!

 

I am sorry for your loss, but my being over being pg has NOTHING to do with your loss. You don't have to like my choice of words, but it still has nothing to do with you and it isn't ungrateful. You seem to be taking other people's whining personal. I don't have to choose my words carefully because you find it insensitive.  (PS- this sounds terribly insensitive, but it isn't meant to be. My point is simply that my words are just my thoughts and I won't censor myself because someone takes my gripes personally.)

I have been told I probably would never be able to have a child due to health issues.  Being a mother was all I ever wanted.  When we found out I was pregnant we couldn't be happier, and I knew it would be up to a 42 week deal. I don't know how else you would put it, and if you read all my original comment you would see that it is more about the unpleasant side effects not the pregnancy in general.  I am very grateful for my daughter already and telling somebody to grow up when you don't know what they have gone through is a little insensitive and immature.  Please tell me how you would put it?  I would carry my child for 100+ weeks if that's what it took to make sure she was healthy any of us would, but it would be easier without the aches and pains.  And I honestly believe that at one point or another it has crossed all of our minds that we want our LO to be here and healthy because of some of the pregnancy plagues or you wish you could skip some of those plagues, I don't think any of us enjoy the back pain or the pelvic pain or the morning sickness or any other "side effect" that we haven't enjoyed as part of pregnancy that we have wished away.  And I am not being insensitive to those who have had premies or have had trouble conceiving or a loss in the past.  I've had my battles too and have been given a child by the grace of God and I wouldn't change that.  I'd suffer much more for my child, but it would be nice be one of those women who go through pregnancy without any unpleasantness.

CamJack- I completely agree without about just because you know what to expect doesn't mean you should not have a complaint about it.  We are all getting anxious and excited and the more anxious and excited we get to meet our LOs the worse our pains get!