What do you think abou this comment from Dr.?

katncrack

So I went for a physical recently and the doctor asked me if I was going to have any more children.  I answered that I was not sure and I was really just enjoying this one-the truth.  She asked me if I wanted her opinion.  Of course I could have just said no, but she said it in a way like 'I'm going to tell you what I think regardless' so I said sure not knowing what to expect.  She basically said I needed to have more kids and that having an only child just really is not fair to the child.  I'm on the fence about more and I really was thinking that docs are supposed to stay neutral especially because the choice of having more kids or not is a big one and a personal one based on lots of factors.  How would you react to the comment?  I brushed it off knowing I only see this doc occasionally, but I thought it was strange and also wondered where in her own life this comment made sense. 

buckyfan30

I think it's totally your decision if you want one child or more than one.  I wouldn't go see that doctor again, it really wasn't any of her business.  Don't let her bother you.

daylight11

Take it with a grain of salt. The decision is up to YOU. You know your family dynamics and income, preferences, etc. and that's all that matters. 

Mish2g

Sounds like someone is projecting!!!

Do what you want...more kids, no more kids...it's completely up to you!

firewiferut

Well, I'm an only child. And I'd like to think I turned out OK.

I don't think my life was unfair at all because I didn't have any brothers or sisters.

Totally your decision about whether or not you want more kids. It's not unfair to your baby if you only want one. But if you want 8 go for that too! If you don't see that doc often I wouldn't worry about it. Yeah, the comment was unsolicited, but most comments are. It's unfortunate that she said that but unless you decide to just have one, and THEN she gives you more of her opinion, I would just brush it off.

brittas

That seems very, very strange! How is it any of her business? Or maybe it IS her business because she will make more as your doctor if you get KU again! 

megd06

just let it go--she should've minded her own business.

jessicaclare

That's pretty inappropriate. Its not like it was something medically based. I probably would have addressed it in the moment and said something like "That's really my decision to make, don't you think?"

Have as many kids as you want, its no one's business but your own.

mmmanders

What if she said that she thought everyone should have 8 kids?!  That's just her personal opinion and I agree to just let it go.  The fact that she is a dr is what makes it weird.  They are supposed to be neutral.  I, however, am also an only child and find myself giving her same opinion whenever it comes up!  My parents are awesome and my life is wonderful, but I have definitely always felt like I missed out on really special relationships that siblings have.  Plus, now that my parents are older, the job of taking care of them rest soley on my shoulders.  I feel pretty strongly about NOT having just one so I guess I understand her coming out and saying that.