Taking a poll on daddy's involvement

kathymarie

How involved is your husband/baby's father in getting LO to sleep at night?

 

What is the routine? How does DH help?

 

If he doesn't help, why not? 

 

 

Amanda78

When DD was the age of your LO he almost always gave her a bath. That was about it. Now it varies as he's in school or studying most nights. If he's home he does a bath and we read to her together.  I nursed to sleep til she was 10.5 months and am still nursing before bed so there's nothing else for him to do.

ihearteddieboo

He does bottle before bedtime and snuggles on the couch, which usually results in DS passing out.  I pick DS up and put him in his crib. 

He has done this since day 1.

epona3

DD got up 1 - 2 times a night until she was 12 mo.

From 0 - 6ish mo, DH helped by getting up and doing the midnight feeding, and I did the 4 - 5a.m feedings (and all the others)

Once she was down to just one feeding a night, he would get up, change her and bring her to me in bed. I would feed her and put her back to bed.

(He hated warming up bottles, b/c it took forever. I hated getting up out of bed, b/c I woke up too much, so we liked the "compromise" we were able to come to.)

She didn't sleep through the night until 1 year. Life is definitley easier now!

D&D4Ever7

How involved is your husband/baby's father in getting LO to sleep at night?

Not so much. He helps with the bath at 7pm and rest of the time DS is breastfeeding from 8pm until he is sleep. He has been making dinner, cleaning and doing other things, so he is helping with some stuff.

What is the routine? How does DH help?

I am on leave, so for now below is my day, but it fluctuates a lot.

10am-12pm playtime (I can usually make breakfast if LO likes his bouncy)

12-1: cranky time before nap!

1-4pm: nap time

4-6pm: playtime

7pm: bath n playtime after bath (DH helps here)

8pm to 9 or 10pm: Bfing until LO is sleep

10pm-9am: LO sleeps with 3 feeds during this time at least

KCKSarah

We usually tag team bath time.  He gets her ready for a bath, dries her off and dresses her.  Since I BF, I do the evening feeding and put her in bed.

He used to do almost nothing.  Then we had a talk.  Now he helps. 

D&D4Ever7

D&D4Ever7:

How involved is your husband/baby's father in getting LO to sleep at night?

Not so much. He helps with the bath at 7pm and rest of the time DS is breastfeeding from 8pm until he is sleep. He has been making dinner, cleaning and doing other things, so he is helping with some stuff.

What is the routine? How does DH help?

I am on leave, so for now below is my day, but it fluctuates a lot.

10am-12pm playtime (I can usually make breakfast if LO likes his bouncy)

12-1: cranky time before nap!

1-4pm: nap time

4-6pm: playtime

7pm: bath n playtime after bath (DH helps here)

8pm to 9 or 10pm: Bfing until LO is sleep

10pm-9am: LO sleeps with 3 feeds during this time at least

Forget to add that DH does all evening dipe changes. I do the night time and day time changes

pepomntpat

How involved is your husband/baby's father in getting LO to sleep at night? He does most of the bed time routine when he is home. Actually I am a bit of a basket case about bedtime when DH travels for work. 

 

What is the routine? How does DH help? Routine is bath, pjs, read a story or two and then I nurse her down. DH does all but the nursing. Nights I work he also gives her a bottle.

 

If he doesn't help, why not? N/A

 

 

luvmyducks

He gets Kellen naked while I get her bath ready and then he puts her in. While I'm bathing her he gets her jammies and swaddle laid out and grabs me anything I need since I can't leave her. Then he holds the towel for mr to put her in. I dry her off and then he tries to keep her happy and distracted while I do lotion (she hates it). He gets her arms in her jammies while I do her legs. Then I swaddle her and take her into thr bedroom to nurse. I do the rest. If I join him after putting her down and she wakes up, he will go get her back to sleep. 

 ETA: He still is on paternity leave though. When he goes back to work he may do less just so he can have some him time. Not that he's not going to help with her anymore but maybe less since I will be a SAHM. 

leneae10

He does the whole shebang.  I get Isaac naked, he bathes.  I bring him pj's and make a bottle while he's in the bath, then they both head to LO's room where he feeds him to sleep.  He's done this for 5 months now.  If he didn't, I would be insane since I'm with him 24/7 and do all night time stuff unless DH is already awake (or on weekends).

Jacquiemark

DH works 5 nights a week so I take care of bedtime. On the nights that he is home, he'll take Amelia up for a bath, bottle, and then put her to bed.

MrsAtch

We just started a new routine at night- DH helps me with a bath, then dries her off and keeps her warm while I get her clothes and cloth diapers ready for the night. He hands her off to me so I can get her dressed while he goes upstairs to turn the heat up, turn the night light on, and make sure that everything is ready on the changing table next to my side of the bed. Then we go upstairs and he reads her a story while I nurse her. Our DD is really colicky and tends to scream for three hours at night. He will stay with us for a little while and get me anything I need. Then the rest of the night it's all me unless I need a break from the screaming. Then he will take her and rock her or walk around with her so that I can decompress for a few minutes.

damabo80

Uh, not much. He takes her for an hour of so each night so I can get stuff done around the house, and then will strip her down and hand her to me in the shower so I can bathe her. 

We sleep separately, and I nurse to sleep, so he doesn't really help put her to bed.

vflipo

DH did most of the going to bed time when he was home, he also took a lot of the middle of the night wakings. Now, he is usually at work so I do bed time. We have a routine established, though, so bedtime is pretty easy. Dinner, bath, bottle (which she usually has maybe 2 sips of) and then she goes down and falls asleep.

Strunella

Honestly, I do most of the bedtime routine, but DH is more than willing to step in if I ask.  I've always done bath time; I just enjoy the time with DS.   I get DS into his jammies, give him a bottle, read him a story, and then put him in his crib. 

itsmegin

DH works from home, so he is really involved all day. If I'm not holding her, he is. At night though he doesn't do much aside from holding her while I get ready for bed. We don't have a routine, I just change her, feed her and put her down if I can. DH doesn't help with that since there isn't anything he could really do unless he starts lactating

magdalina.h

MH is the poster child for helping. He gives the last bottle, i bathe lucas, he reads him a story and they snuggle while I pump. On non bath nights MH does bottle diaper change story and then snuggles

Clerk9

DH is more than willing to help.  But our bedtime "routine" still just consists of me feeding her & trying to put her to bed.  (I usually change her into her PJs during the last diaper change before I think she's going to be sleepy.)  Not much for him to do at this point, although I want to add storytime soon & he could definitely help with that.   

Since DH works 5/7 (long) days (& more during football season), it's only fair for me to do the nighttime stuff since I have more flexibility with sleep during the day.  Now that I'm back to work on the weekends, though, I just do the nighttime stuff anyway because I'm used to it (but DH is very good about offering to change/comfort her if she wakes up at night).   

Are you having issues with this in the kathymarie household?   

kathymarie

Clerk9:

DH is more than willing to help.  But our bedtime "routine" still just consists of me feeding her & trying to put her to bed.  (I usually change her into her PJs during the last diaper change before I think she's going to be sleepy.)  Not much for him to do at this point, although I want to add storytime soon & he could definitely help with that.   

Since DH works 5/7 (long) days (& more during football season), it's only fair for me to do the nighttime stuff since I have more flexibility with sleep during the day.  Now that I'm back to work on the weekends, though, I just do the nighttime stuff anyway because I'm used to it (but DH is very good about offering to change/comfort her if she wakes up at night).   

Are you having issues with this in the kathymarie household?   

We were, until WW3 broke out the other night... he seems reformed. For now, anyway!