opinion question

Sapphire9

My sister is getting married Sept 1 next year.  My hubby and I would like to try for our 3rd child after the first of the year.  I discussed with her that chances are I would be at some stage in my pregnancy at her wedding.  She was not thrilled.  Am I being unreasonable?

evaazalea

lol no, why would you plan a pregnancy around your sister's wedding?!

littlemermaid

You are not being unreasonable but your sister is.  She should not expect everyone to put their plans/lives on hold just because she is getting married.   Tell her that you completely understand if she doesn't want you to be in her wedding (if that was her plan) and you would be happy just being a guest.

EastCoastBride

If she's not thrilled that you'll be PG at ALL - then I'm speechless.  I can't stand brides who really think that the world needs to stop because they are getting married.  You absolutely shouldn't not TTC next year because of her wedding.

However, if you start trying ON Jan. 1 and get PG right away, that would put you close to your last month of pregnancy and I could understand her being upset in that it could affect your ability to be at her wedding. 

penguingrrl

Umm, why should her wedding ruin your TTC plans? I can understand her hoping you'll avoid being in the third trimester for the wedding since you don't want to risk being in labor during the wedding, but to put off TTC for almost a year for her is ridiculous! I wouldn't want to be pregnant for my sister's wedding, but that's because I'm a lush and would hate to stay sober as MOH lol!

Sapphire9

Thanks ladies. I was starting to feel like I was crazy.  I love her to pieces and want her to have her special day for sure, but I couldn't justify waiting almost another year to get pregnant just because she would prefer I not be for her wedding.  If we succeed, I will just give her the option of me not being a bridesmaid if she would prefer.

Cbidt's girl

I was 7 months pg at my sister's wedding. I was a very involved MOH. Her words to me ... Be as pregnant as you want ad long as you are on the dance floor . I was happy to dance and celebrate all night long. I did have to buy an emergency dress though - I had outgrown my guess.

justEK

I would go for the trying now so I could drink up at the wedding.

4Speedy

Sapphire9:

My sister is getting married Sept 1 next year.  My hubby and I would like to try for our 3rd child after the first of the year.  I discussed with her that chances are I would be at some stage in my pregnancy at her wedding.  She was not thrilled.  Am I being unreasonable?

Somebody in this scenario is being unreasonable but it's not you.