***joyebell***

CaptainSerious

I saw your two posts below, and wanted to say hello, and welcome.  I gather you are an adult adoptee.  I'd love to hear more about your story.

joyebell

Thanks for the welcome. I see my relinquishment and my adoption as two different events. I share my relinquishment story sometimes if I feel safe but I don't share my adoption  anymore. Hope you understand.

CaptainSerious

I do understand that you value your privacy and only wish to share that with which you are comfortable.  I think that's perfectly reasonable.

I have to admit, though, that your distinction has me curious.

I'll further admit that I'm just trying to learn a little about who you are as a person and the very broad spectrum of how adoption touched your life.  What I mean by that is that I'm curious if your adoption was open/closed, domestic/international, at birth/as an older child.  I'm curious how old you are, or more specifically, when your adoption took place.

I realize you may think that all these questions are too personal, but I've come to learn that often the type of adoption a person is involved in has a large part in forming how they view adoption and its practices in general.  Perhaps it's a form of stereo-typing, but I believe that a little non-personal information helps put a poster's responses into a more understandable perspective.

I also think it's equally important to be open to people who view adoption differently than I do, because often their views were formed because they had a bad experience.  When the person is an adult adoptee, I take that very seriously, because I'd like to try my best to avoid those same bad experiences for my children.

I hope this explains what my motives are, and perhaps will lead you to share a little more.  I'm not asking you to offer up any personal details, per say, but having an understanding of where you're coming from would be immensely helpful in better understanding your posts.

Dr.Loretta

::butting in to agree with CS::

I find it odd that you choose to make a broad, inflammatory statement about adoption but then choose not to elaborate at all. As CS noted, people share as much as they're comfortable with to give a better picture of the place they're posting from, in order to give other posters perspective on their situation and their viewpoint. Even if you don't provide details, I'd like to know something about your experience to sharpen my awareness about adoption-related issues.

I'm going to assume that you had a negative experience with your adoptive family, since you don't share that aspect of your story with anyone. But i could be wrong. I'm confused as well about the distinction.

CaptainSerious

Joyebell, I hope you will come back in and respond, at least in some way, to this post.

The disparity between your previous posts and hersey's post just above this one have my head reeling.  I have a hard time reconciling the two.  You're tone leads me (and I'm guessing Dr. L., too) to believe you've had some bad experience(s) with, or have negative emotions surrounding, your relinquishment/adoption.

I swear, I'm not trying to pry for details or personal stories.  I'm just trying to figure out where you are coming from or put some context to your posts.