Not having a shower ...

daniela64

But people are still asking me to register? DH and I are spreading out the cost of buying what we need throughout the pregnancy so I don't really think I need to register. Some family who are mad about a lack of shower complained how will they know what they NEED to get me. I explained I am not asking anyone to get me anything and if they choose to get the baby a gift anything they give us we would be grateful for. They just don't get it. Am I the wrong one by not registering?

EastCoastBride

Registering isn't just for if you have a shower!  It's simply your wishlist of what you'd like for your baby - and clearly, people want to buy you stuff and want some guidance on what you need.

You aren't wrong to not register, but it seems that by doing so, you'd be helping people out.

Honestly, when it comes to babies- I really like registries.  I have no clue what new parents already have vs what it is that they still need.  I'd MUCH rather get them something I KNOW they need vs getting something that they may then have to take time out to go return. 

blueyedsweety28

tell them they don't NEED to get you anything, but if they WANT to get you something .. tell them to buy diapers .. can never have too many diapers .. haha .. I don't know if they'll go for that .. but w/e you decide .. decide quick and just stick to your guns .. you don't need the stress .. it's definitely not wrong of you to decide not to register, it's your baby .. !

daniela64

EastCoastBride:

Honestly, when it comes to babies- I really like registries.  I have no clue what new parents already have vs what it is that they still need.  I'd MUCH rather get them something I KNOW they need vs getting something that they may then have to take time out to go return. 

 

No that does make sense. Thank you.

Charlyne

EastCoastBride:

Registering isn't just for if you have a shower!  It's simply your wishlist of what you'd like for your baby - and clearly, people want to buy you stuff and want some guidance on what you need.

You aren't wrong to not register, but it seems that by doing so, you'd be helping people out.

Honestly, when it comes to babies- I really like registries.  I have no clue what new parents already have vs what it is that they still need.  I'd MUCH rather get them something I KNOW they need vs getting something that they may then have to take time out to go return. 

And many places provide coupons for registries a few weeks before your EDD. If nothing else, coupons are always a good thing.

earlysun

Go register. You'll get coupons to complete it so you'll save some money. And your friends and family can buy from it if they want to.

Some people use a registry as a checklist of what they need.

MandC17

The registry will help you out too. I had a registry that I didn't tell anyone about but I used it to keep up with the things I wanted and I would add stuff or remove it as I got the things from the list. And as others have said, the coupons are also useful.

And I also prefer a registry when shopping for others. There are so many baby items that some people love and others would never think of using. So I like to know what type of things the parents want/need. I usually buy a gift from the registry then add a little something that I found useful when DD was a baby.

RoxyLynn

Kudos to you for planning to pay for the baby's expenses yourself.  You'd be amazed....

If you want to register, do.  People can consult it if they wish - or not.  For people who want to buy you a gift, some of them will want a little direction about what you want/need.

daniela64

I didn't know about the coupons that will be very helpful. Also having for my own checklist that is a great idea. It will help me stay organized. Thanks ladies.

sanriobaby

Charlyne:

EastCoastBride:

Registering isn't just for if you have a shower!  It's simply your wishlist of what you'd like for your baby - and clearly, people want to buy you stuff and want some guidance on what you need.

You aren't wrong to not register, but it seems that by doing so, you'd be helping people out.

Honestly, when it comes to babies- I really like registries.  I have no clue what new parents already have vs what it is that they still need.  I'd MUCH rather get them something I KNOW they need vs getting something that they may then have to take time out to go return. 

And many places provide coupons for registries a few weeks before your EDD. If nothing else, coupons are always a good thing.

This!!!

rhubarb123

Since it sounds like you have already bought some things it might be nice to have a registry so people don't to continually ask you what you need.  If you end up purchasing something on the registry then just mark it sold or take it off.  If you aren't having a shower it might be best for everyone to wait until your LO has arrived and ask what you need or just get you an outfit or something.  I had 3 showers for my first baby and no shower for my second.  I was amazed at the amount of gifts my 2nd one got after he was born...seems like they just kept coming.  lol

momhardy

Just remember keeping it simple is good when buying baby gear. Cause sometimes it's the thing you think you can't live with out that you could have. Plus once the baby comes you maybe like hey we could use this or I guess we don't need this!?

The other side to registering is that even if you don't want a shower or not people are going to buy you things. Wouldn't you rather let them know what you want instead of them buying you random things you'll never use!?

Liz4444

I didn't have a shower and we didn't register.  When people asked what they could get us, I just said, you have a child/grandchild/niece/nephew, get me whatever their favorite thing is.  People loved that answer, their face would light up and they'd say, "I know exactly what I'm getting you" and we have gotten some great things I never would have thought of.  One of MIL's friends got bitchy with me for not registering, she said, how will I know what you need?  I said to her, I don't need anything, I can buy my own boppy, diaper genie, etc, buy something for the baby, a toy or clothes or something.  After all of that, she still hasn't sent a gift... I guess she was offended by my lack of registry, oh well.