December 2011 Moms

Weight comments from doctor or midwife?

So I've got my midwife on my *** list now, after I told her my weight today and she said "whoa! you been hungry this week? eating a lot of candy??" Um, no actually. It is 45 degrees out and I'm wearing pants instead of shorts, and a sweater, and also been having trouble with my bowel movements this week when I hadn't. But I'm 37 weeks pregnant, is it really a good time to be chiding me about weight gain? She is one of 4 midwives and I haven't seen her in a few mos, I remember her making a deal out of it last time.

My husband said and it's true, that I like everything else about her. But she fixates on weight gain every visit and then I feel guilty, like I'm doing a really bad job being pregnant. Makes me question her logic/interactive patterns in general and how she'll be at the birth... 

 So anyway, that was my morning...  

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  • SOrry she is giving you a hard time. My dr was a little bit untill I asked him if he thought I was putting my child in danger. He laughed and said no he was just concerned that I would get depressed after not being able to lose the weight. Since that conversation he has benn really sweet about my gain.

    Hope it goes better next time. Only a few more weeks Wink

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  • I'm in a practice with 3 OBs. I HATE one of them and pray that she won't end up being my delievering OB.

    That being said I'm not sure how any midwife/doctor's get away with the weight comments. I haven't been in that situation but can't imagine how I'd react. I'd probably rip her a new one! It's obvious she runs into this situation a lot...she handles it horribly! If she medically HAD to say something then she shouldn't be accusing you of eating junk food and candy when she doesn't have a clue!

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  • Sorry!  My OB from when I was pregnant with DD harassed me over every pound I gained with DD.  She kept telling me I would not get the weight back off after the baby was born.  I lost all the weight and it wasn't really that difficult.   
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  • Personally, I would ask her flat out, "is my weight gain a medical concern? If so, why?"

    The only time I think it's truly necessary for a medical professional to question weight gain is if it is a medcial issue/concern or if the patient brings it up first.

     

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  • That sucks. I've never really cared about my weight this pregnancy but at my last appt I found out I gained 9 lbs in two weeks and I was in shock. My ob said weight fluctuates a lot at this point in pregnancy and I could of been five pounds lighter this morning, plus I just started swelling in my feet and hands. He was super supportive and I don't feel as bad now. Still crazy
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  • Good idea! I should ask what the medical issue is. If so, she shouldn't bring it up.

    I gained 45 lbs with my first child and lost it all very easily just from nursing in the next 6 mos. So I'm never concerned 

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  • My OB has been on me about my weight the last 2 visits and it's really irritating me.  Last visit I gained 6 lbs in 2 wks and the one before that I had gained 7 lbs in 2 weeks.  It makes me feel really guilty and he keeps saying "we don't want a big baby", your weight gain influences the baby's weight gain near the end.  Well I'm not concerned and he is healthy and measuring normal.  I dread going to the next visit because of this.  So far I have gained 40 lbs total.  More than I wanted but it's not like I sit around eating all the time, I exercise regularly still and I think I eat a pretty balanced diet.  I feel like telling him to just kiss my fat pregnant *** LOL. 
  • Oh man. My first pregnancy I gained 60lbs! Fat mom did not equal big baby. He was overdue and still right under 8lbs. My Dr. never said anything to me about my  weight even when I asked. She just said your baby is normal size and you are active so don't worry. It makes me sad for you guys......First pregnancy is stressful enough without having to worry about a few extra lbs. BTW, I lost all of the weight. 
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  • I'm sorry she said that!  FWIW, I've gained 36 pounds so far and at my appt. this morning my dr. told me my weight gain looks "great".  I think it just depends on the doctor/mw, so don't let it get you down!
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  • There's a solution for people like that - the ONE FINGER SALUTE!!

    Seriously, that's when you need to fire back "If you're that concerned about my weight gain to this extent without having checked if I've had any changes to my diet/activity levels, you might want to instead run a thyroid panel or blood sugar level...  OR face the fact that there is a growing child in this belly who goes through growth spurts!"..

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