I knew the day would come

Mjmksb04

DS was just over 2 when DD died, and at the time we explained to him in an age appropriate way what happened. He has a stuffed animal that we told him baby sister gave him and he will point and talk about her picture. So in the car yesterday, he suddenly asked "what happened to baby sister?" I knew the day would come when he would ask again because he probably doesn't remember the explanation we gave, so I explained again. He asked a few more questions like "she won't sleep in her bed?" and "she won't be at our house," and he wanted to know what "truck" she rode in on the way to the hospital. The nursery still has her crib in it and we keep some of his toys and storage in there and he was in there recently, so I think that is what caused him to think of her bed. I gave him explanations the best I could and he seemed satisfied. It sucks to have that conversation with your 3 year old.

dandywarhol

 That sounds like a difficult conversation to have with your child.  {{hugs}}

Auki13

Yes it's absolutely awful having to explain these kinds of things to children.  My heart breaks every time my son asks questions about Annabelle.  (((HUGS))) 

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magdalina.h

Is there a program in your area for children that have lost younger siblings? We have one that starts at age 2 and goes up to about 18. It helps them understand death in age appropriate ways and for older children to help deal with the loss.

weddedwife

Wow that does sound hard. It seems like you are handling it appropriately, answering his questions, etc. I wonder if this will happen w/ DD. I think not, since she never saw him. He was going to share a room with her so the crib has always been in her room, etc. But the fact that eventually she'll forget and move on makes me sad too. I'm just so sad and angry that she won't get to be a big sister to him.

pb127

Heartbreaking... big (((hugs)))