Sad....

JLSBWG

I am 40 years old and my DH and I have an almost 4 year old son.  We hemmed and hawed for the last two years about having another one, the hesitancy was mainly on his side.  So, 6 months ago we decided to give it 6 months to see if we could get pregnant.  Well, I didn't get pregnant within that time, but got pregnant the month after. We were both shocked, myself included.  I even gave away some of my son's baby clothes.  What confuses me is other times during the 6 month period when my period was late and I took a pregnancy test and the result was negative, he was as disappointed as I was.  Now that I am pregnant, he doesn't seem to thrilled about it.  It's very sad.  It's only been a few days, so I am trying to give him his space.  However, it is taking the joy out of it for me.  When we got pregnant with our son, we were both over the moon!  I just hope he comes around.  He left today on a business trip for a few days and hopefully, he will have time to think about his feelings and how he is acting.  Has anyone else been in this situation?

BrideBuddies

First off CONGRATS! 

Oh hon... I think that's the hormones talkin' already.

Give it time to sink in.  It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and daddy to your kiddo, so there's no reason to think he won't do the same this time around.  Guys can just be a little slower to react sometimes.

He may have also been preoccupied with his trip and not really getting the reality that he's gonna be a daddy again.

 

Pesky

Talk with him when he gets back.  There was a great thing posted about something like this by my BIL on FB with 2 diary entries.  One lengthy entry by the wife, worrying about her husband seeming distant and she was sure it was because they were drifting apart and he wasn't happy with her and on.  His was "motorcycle wouldn't start today.  wonder why."  So like pp said, it easily could've been him focusing on other things.  

stever

Congrats! And I'm so sorry your DH seems ambivalent. I'm sure he'll come around, but maybe he's just still in a state of shock.

 ::hugs::

vanverth

When I told DH we were pregnant (after trying for 10 years and giving up) his response was "Oh wow."  No exclamation point on that statement.  He got excited about it later.  It was just very unreal for him.

ateytelb

Congratulations!

Give your H time, he may be one of those who gets excited gradually. My H and I worried that something may go wrong and didn't get excited until the results from CVS test came back with my last pregnancy.

JLSBWG

Thanks ladies!  We talked this afternoon and feel much better.  He told me that he is afraid.  I am too, but am more excited.  He definately is more the worrier and I'm more happy go lucky.  I guess his reaction took me by surprise, but we'll work through it.  Thanks for listening. I forgot how helpful this board is!

 

gimmietimmies

JLSBWG:

Thanks ladies!  We talked this afternoon and feel much better.  He told me that he is afraid.  I am too, but am more excited.  He definately is more the worrier and I'm more happy go lucky.  I guess his reaction took me by surprise, but we'll work through it.  Thanks for listening. I forgot how helpful this board is!

 

Congrats and good luck! Glad he let you know how he was feeling. Probably a late answer, but yes, we've not always had the movie perfect reaction to finding out we were expecting. In fact, the last time included lots of profanity and other choice phrases. Point is, it will get better and can be happy, once you work out all the emotions.