PSA

TwinkieFiend

A horrible thing has happened in my community.  Yesterday a 13 month old boy was reported missing and a massive search was conducted.  A few hours later his body was discovered near a local cemetery, and his mother confessed today that she beat him to death when he wouldn't stop crying.  She was a 20 year old SP.

I know no one here could fathom ever hurting their child and I'm horrified and sickened by what this mother did.  But we all have also been in that place, where LO will not stop screaming, and as SPs we are alone.  Some of us have wonderful family and friends to lean on.  But some of us don't.  I just wish this woman had taken that poor little boy to a crisis nursery; there was one 5 miles from her house.

I guess I just wanted all the SPs in this community to look into local resources if you are feeling overwhelmed.  As someone with a wonderful support system I realize I am very lucky, but understand how quickly frustration can build, and hope that all mothers know there is no shame in utilizing a crisis nursery if the need arises.

norman25

As a 21 year old single parent, I find this incredibly offensive.

I just don't even know how to respond to this 'psa' advising us to not beat our children because some crazy person beat her baby. 

CPA04

Was this your good Samaritan deed of the day?  Good grief.

sweetwalks

I'm a former single parent but still lurk occasionally and I'm not sure why PP finds this offensive. 

I read it as OP encouraging SP's to use all resources available to them, especially if they don't have a good support system.

Maybe it's because I don't know what PSA stands for though?? 

achase123

Ahhh Twinkie.  You never cease to amaze me.  This post was entirely unnecessary and incredibly disturbing.  Although I'm sure you'll get all wide eyed and defensive and pull the "oh but, but, but I was just trying to be of help" card.  You're a strange mix of someone who has made an incredible amount of mistakes and yet comes off as very "holier than thou" at the very same time. 

achase123

sweetwalks:

I'm a former single parent but still lurk occasionally and I'm not sure why PP finds this offensive. 

I read it as OP encouraging SP's to use all resources available to them, especially if they don't have a good support system.

Maybe it's because I don't know what PSA stands for though?? 

Well I for one try to avoid seeing/reading about news such as this.  Example: in my community a single mother was standing trial for being addicted to meth while EBF and contributing to the death of her six week old child. 

Shiit like that is sickening. I realize it happens but as a parent my heart aches 1,000 times more for the child because it hits so close to home.

I wouldn't appreciate ANYONE coming on the SP board and posting something like that, sort of implying that because she was a SP she had less resources and it may have contributed to what she did.  SP or not, what she did was horrifying and I feel she should be punished to the fullest extent. 

I just do not see the OP's point in posting that information.

norman25

sweetwalks:

I'm a former single parent but still lurk occasionally and I'm not sure why PP finds this offensive. 

I read it as OP encouraging SP's to use all resources available to them, especially if they don't have a good support system.

Maybe it's because I don't know what PSA stands for though?? 

Oh, I don't know  Maybe the fact that she highlighted that she was 20 years old and a single parent, like that was the corresponding link to killing her baby. It would have been completely different if the post was addressed to overwhelmed mothers in general, still weird, but not quite as singling out a group

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PrincessFiona9

It's not just Twinkie either. The media here in MO (this occurred in STL) has been all over this making a huge deal of the 20 y/o SP slant. It's ridiculous.

carrieannew

LJF

I have so many many things I could say to you.

I have been a single parent since I was 18 years old. I would love to see the statistics on the likelyhood of this happening to a single parent vs. a married mother. What about the women who drove her kids into a lake. Would you put a PSA on the monthly board.

Get over yourself and go away for good you homewrecking skank.

expectingnothing

Wow, thanks so much for the fabulous tip.

 I'm sorry for this poor child, but just because the mother of the child happens to be a single mom doesn't automatically mean it pertains to other single moms.

TwinkieFiend

I think we can all agree that we are under a signifigant amount of more stress than parents who have partners.  Of course a married woman could do this, too.  But the fact is we never know who is lurking around here, and it could be someone who is very overwhelmed.  She may not even know something such as a crisis nursery exists!  So I don't feel there is any harm in putting it out there that such resources exist and that there is no shame in utilizing them.

TwinkieFiend

And I think that this PSA could go to the month boards, or any board on TB.  Hell, maybe I will go post it everywhere.  If even one person learns that there is help out there then it's worth all the flaming I'm going to get.

sweetwalks

I guess for a minute I forgot who OP was.  

I can kind of see why offense was taken, I just didn't read it that way. Of course being who she is, I'm sure this wasn't a "let me help someone" post it was probably the usual AW post.  

TwinkieFiend

sweetwalks:

I guess for a minute I forgot who OP was.  

I can kind of see why offense was taken, I just didn't read it that way. Of course being who she is, I'm sure this wasn't a "let me help someone" post it was probably the usual AW post.  

There was no offensive intended, though like you said, it's because I said it that it is offensive.  Anyone else it wouldn't have been.

Though I do find it funny you implying because of who I am and that I'm such an AW, etc.  I don't even know who you are.

Oh, and PSA means Public Service Announcement.

achase123

TwinkieFiend:

sweetwalks:

I guess for a minute I forgot who OP was.  

I can kind of see why offense was taken, I just didn't read it that way. Of course being who she is, I'm sure this wasn't a "let me help someone" post it was probably the usual AW post.  

There was no offensive intended, though like you said, it's because I said it that it is offensive.  Anyone else it wouldn't have been.

I'm sure you'll reply since you HAVE to get the last word, but I specifically said in my post (in caps) that anyone coming onto the board and posting something like this would have made me take offense.  Has nothing to do with who you are although you do love to play that martyr card like a fiddle.