Update & need a doctor rec

Tiffany5412

My ultrasound today showed that it did exactly like it did last time. Developed SLOWLY into a tiny fetal pole with a very tiny heartbeat. She still says its not viable but then said "but of course you could be my first patient ever to have this work".  B.S. They won't do anything until the heartbeat stops. I have another ultrasound scheduled for Thursday and if it's stopped I'll schedule the D&C for Friday and be able to enjoy my family vacation & mom's wedding in Cali (I leave Monday).  

 

That said -  I'm interested in finding another doctor. Either South or Central. I looked into Dr. Seeker & they don't take my insurance & are North. Any recs? Why do you like your doctor? Any experience with how he/she handled your miscarriage? 

 

Ccome to find out my doctor's practice also doesn't support helping lesbians or single women get pregnant so I want to move based on that too. So any recs and info about why you like your doctor would be greatly appreciated. TIA.  

agran

I don't think you can go wrong with any of the doctors at Women Partners in Health.  They are all awesome.  I felt like my OB was great when we lost our daughter-- she was proactive and thought outside the box to help us-- but she also listened to what I needed and let me lead the way in my treatment.  I see Reich.  She's very smart and moves fast (not the kind to tell you look beautiful as a pregnant lady) but is the best doctor I've ever had. 

 

P.S. I'm still so very, very sorry you are having to deal with this.  No one should ever have to endure losing babies. 

balihaigirl

I love my OB.  Dr. O l i v e r at WPIH. 

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

brooke152

I am so, so sorry that you are going through this.  I hope that everything goes as smoothly as it can and you get to enjoy your vacation and celebrate your mom's wedding.

I see Dr. Oliver at Women Partners in Health and I adore her.  I switched to her after I got PG based on reviews from this board.  She is very down to earth and tells it like it is, while still being nurturing.  I was super paranoid and had so many questions and she never made me feel silly for asking the dumb ones.  She always spent as much time at my appointments as I wanted, even PP and I have never felt rushed.  Plus, at my first appointment she said, "I'm a hugger" and gave me a big hug.  I liked that, I'm a hugger, too.

GL with your decision.  I will continue to keep you in my thoughts.

Oh, WPIH is located just behind Seton Main on 34th St.

ETA - Dr. Swenson at WPIH delivered DS and I really liked her a lot, too.

august8080

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I second agran's rec for WPIH. I saw Dr. Nash for my first pregnancy and regular gyn stuff. I don't have miscarriage experience, but I do know she's just about the most compassionate, caring doctor I've ever met. She lost a baby herself at 24 (ish) weeks. So many of my friends see her and several have had m/c's and said she was awesome. I have also found her to be a very proactive doctor who really respects the direction that you want to go with infertility/pregnancy/labor/delivery, etc etc.

Dr. Weihs delivered my son and I thought she was great in the short amount of time I spent with her.

bobcatsteph

I'm so sorry that you're going through this again.

I see Dr. Nash at WPIH and she's great (I had no idea that she lost a pg at 24 weeks..so sad).

SareBear30

I also go to WPIH. I have seen Dr. Nash twice and while I'm not head over heels in love with her, I also haven't faced anything difficult yet, so she hasn't had the chance to wow me or disappoint me (if that makes sense.)

I picked her partially because she could get me in quickest, but I also heard rave reviews about her from friends. I have also heard good things about Yium, Ikbal and Oliver, so I was open to seeing them. Ikbal's sister was a resident in my clinic before and a bunch of the residents see her, so that seems positive.

So sorry you are having this experience. Big hugs to you!

kellenickle

I see dr grimes at ARC south. She's fantastic and was very proactive with me and my miscarriage. She's young and caring but will also tell it like it is.

There are lots of other dr's there that I've heard good things about too and they are pretty good about making quick appointments.

bluestreet

Oh hell no! That makes me so mad- both how they are treating your miscarriage and their attitude toward single moms and LGBT parents.

Another vote for Dr. Nash at WPIH. I adore that woman. If she weren't my doc, I'd want to be bffs with her. 

She's actually lost two pregnancies, not sure when the other one was. My favorite thing about her is how deftly she balances your needs with the needs of your baby. For example, she gave me all of the information I needed to make an informed decision about depression medication and pregnancy, and but she was very clear that it was my choice. Love her.

abh1977

I'm so, so sorry that you're going through this again.  Hugs!!!

For fertility issues, if you're wanting to go that route, I LOVE Dr. Hansard at TFC.  For everything else I go to AABC.  I don't know if you are interested in a birthing center vs. a hospital, but my midwife was super-compassionate (and very, very helpful with all of my questions) when I had my miscarriage.  I go to the north location, but I know they now have one south.

Mrs.Talala

balihaigirl:

I love my OB.  Dr. O l i v e r at WPIH. 

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I also see Dr. Oliver and love her and her nurse Lynn. She did my DC at seton main around 10 weeks. I had gone in for a regular apt. And the baby was measuring really small and I was told not viable. I honestly don't remember if there was a weak heartbeat or not, I was a basket case. Dr O told me I could wait it out or do a D&C. I had the D&C 2 days later. Waiting just those 2 days was agonizing so I can't even imagine what you are feeling. I hope you find a new doctor that is more supportive.

rssnlvr

Tiffany, I'm so, so incredibly sorry you're going through this again.

austxgrl

All the docs I know of are north.  But I wanted to tell you that I am so freakin' frustrated for you.  I'm so sorry that you are going through this again.  If you need anything at all, please let me know and I will be there in an instant.  Even if its just to scream and yell.  Hugs, Sweetie!

AmethystBride

I don't have any recs (my OB is up N) but I just wanted to give you more **hugs**.

 

MrsAJL

{{{{{hugs}}}}}  I'm so sorry this his happening.

As for OB recs, I really love mine.  I see Dr. C h e r r y at ARC S o uth OB.  She's terrific!  I also really like Drs. B r e e d l o v e and L o c k e y at the same practice.  I find their group to be very compassionate, helpful, and open.  I also can't imagine that the ARC doctors wouldn't care for or help lesbian couples have babies (of course, I don't have first hand experience.)  They are a very non-discriminating group. 

 

2H2L

no recs, just ((hugs)) and good thoughts. I'm sorry you're having to go through this again. GL finding a new, much more understanding and receptive doctor. ((more hugs))