the eggshells effect--how do you deal?

BSP09

I've been seeing an accupuncturist for since the spring with the hope that it would help with my IF issues.  I quickly discovered, however, that I really liked it b/c I think it helped me feel more balanced emotionally and I've developed a really great relationship with my practioner.  She is almost like a therapist, too. 

Well, she just emailed me to let me know that she is pregnant.  She was, of course, concerned about how I might feel about this and understands if this means it will be too painful for me to continue to see her.  So now I'm crying at my desk.  Mostly b/c I hate that this IF crap makes me the fragile, infertile person that people that I'm close to have to handle with kid gloves. 

Just needed to vent.  Thanks.

Robeano

how do I deal, well I cry a lot. And I've been finding myself keeping more inside of me than I used to with other people. I really only let my mom and my husband see the real pain inside.

That way I can "act" all happy and be normal when I'm around everybody else, I congratulate people, I can go to baby showers, I can play with my friends kids. But at home I let loose and vent and cry. And I mean I AM happy for them, I'm just sad for me, but I remember in the past being really mad at people for not being happy for me cuz something was going on in their life. Like when I was enganged I had a friend who wasn't married and who wasn't dating anybody and she was awful to be around, she was always miserable during my happiest time. So I don't wanna be that person. I know my time will come eventually, but I'm not very patient.

eponine7682

I hate that feeling, especially when you know darn well that people are treating you with kids gloves. I posted last week about how no one in my family told me my little cousin's gf was having a baby...until the baby arrived a week ago. It hurts the most when you know others don't treat you how you want to be treated because they are nervous. Anyhow, no advice, but I know how you feel!

kz's_girlygirl

My acupncturist recently took on an intern type person, and she is pregnant.  Since my appointments are all in the same clinic as my IF appointments, I don't really mind it at all.  I love my practitioner, and would much rather continue seeing someone I am comfortable with than transition. 

If it's something you don't think you can handle seeing, switch.  But, I would continue seeing her.  

BSP09

I'm definitely going to continue seeing her.  I trust her preggo or not    I guess I am just the most sad/frustrated b/c IF makes people treat me with the kid gloves.  But then again, if they didn't I would probably be upset.  It's a lose/lose. 

Thanks for listening.

weddinginbloom

That was very thoughtful of her to consider how you would feel about her pregancy.  She sounds like a keeper!