Taking a break...

tombomb84

I can't believe I am typing this right now, but I am taking a break from fertility treatments until further notice.  After my c/p this month I have been a complete mess and the only thing that was keeping me going was the hope that maybe the next cycle would bring us the baby that we have been hoping for.  

Last night DH told me that his student loans for law school are kicking in this month and will be around $700/mo.  This officially means that we can no longer afford to continue with fertility treatments.  We already have used a huge chunk of our savings and DH doesn't feel like it is a smart idea to keep spending $800+ a month at the RE right now.  I know that he is right, but it hurts so badly.  I am at such a low point in my life and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now.

I am not sure how much I am going to be able to post here right now, but I am going to try because I don't want to lose my only connection with people who understand.  The support and knowledge of this board has done so much for me in the past few months and please know how much I appreciate each of you.  Best of luck to everyone! 

eponine7682

I'm so sorry hun. It might be for the best to take some time for yourself after such a devestating loss. I wish you the best of luck and lots of strength to get you through this difficult time.

ellephunt

I'm sorry. I wish infertility treatments weren't such a drain financially. It makes it ten times harder.

katib77

I'm so sorry for your c/p loss and needing to take a break. 

As for your financial break needs, I can understand that more than you know.  When I married my DH and we gave "full disclosure" of debts - I learned that his law school student loan payments were over $800 a month.  I joke to people when they wonder why we don't own a house that it's because we already have a mortgage payment in his law school!  This is why we only can afford to do two cycles at the beginning of the year - from using FSA/HSA.  When paying OOP, this to me is a life saver!  But at the same time having to wait 7-8 months since last treatment is very hard.  Maybe that's a option for you that will spread the cost thin over the whole year?  But gives you one, two or three more cycles for IUIs?

I hope you are able to find a way to continue treatments down the road.  Good luck on whatever path you end up on!  And know that you can always come here to talk it out! (((HUGS)))

kathrynlo

I am so sorry you are going through a rough patch right now. Having to take a break due to financials is not fun, and neither is IF. ((HUGS))

ccam

I'm sorry that you guys are going through a tough time.  Best of luck to you!

tayray1

I'm so sorry..not only for your loss but for having to take a break. We are also in a similiar situation with IF and money, so I know how you feel. Please use this time to try to reclaim some of your "old" life, you know the life you had before having a baby consummed your every thought. I know that I also plan on taking a step back, so that I can enjoy the life that I have. I know that a baby will come, for me and for you..thoughts and prayers for your peace and happiness coming your way!

 

SMF&ADS091507

I am so sorry that you have to take a break. School loans stink. I have a ton of them, but for now they are in unemployment deferment since I can't get a permanent school counseling job b/c the education field sucks right now. Best of luck to you!

tombomb84

SMF&ADS091507:

I am so sorry that you have to take a break. School loans stink. I have a ton of them, but for now they are in unemployment deferment since I can't get a permanent school counseling job b/c the education field sucks right now. Best of luck to you!

 

I am in grad school for school counseling right now!  Fingers crossed we both can find jobs...It is hard in my area too. 

Robeano

I'm so sorry there are so many upsetting things in your life, sorry about the loss, and sorry your finances can't allow you to continue treatment.

I hope the break ends up being good for you, GL!

SMF&ADS091507

tombomb84:

SMF&ADS091507:

I am so sorry that you have to take a break. School loans stink. I have a ton of them, but for now they are in unemployment deferment since I can't get a permanent school counseling job b/c the education field sucks right now. Best of luck to you!

 

I am in grad school for school counseling right now!  Fingers crossed we both can find jobs...It is hard in my area too. 

That's awesome! It is a great field when jobs are available...I have done a few long term sub assignments, but can't seem to get into a permanent job. I do sub teaching as a way to keep active. When are you done with school?

brookelynpaisley

I am so sorry. It's beyond unfair that finances often dictate how we grow our family. I'm just so sorry that you guys have to walk away right now. I hope when you come back, you'll have success quickly. ((hugs))

kz's_girlygirl

I'm so sorry about everything happening right now.  I hope you are able to focus on healing and getting to a good place emotionally.  T&p's to you.

TJ1979

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you need to take a break.  I have been worried about you, your posts have been so down lately.  I understand, I was inconsolable after my m/c.  I really hope that the time helps to heal you and that you get to remember who you were before IF consumed you.  And it's not fair that finances have to play into whether or not you get a take home baby.  It doesn't for people without IF.  I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with.  GL and T&P.