LO's first sleeping arrangements...

Happily Overwhelmed

DH really wants LO to come home and sleep in his crib. The room is right next door and he doesn't see the big deal.

I said if I was up to it this would be the arrangement. Or DH would have to get up and get the baby and bring him to me for feedings.

However, I keep reading about the risk of SIDS decreasing if LO is in the same room (can hear you breath, etc).

What is everyone else planning on doing? Do you think it's a personal preference or more than that?

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hayleydeee

I would be ready to do either, because it's so hard to know ahead of time what will work best for you.

Since I was nursing it turned out to be a lot easier to have DD in the room with us. Plus, I liked being able to keep an eye on her and sooth her back to sleep by just reaching over (and not getting out of bed).  

BFab11

LO will be in our room, in our bed.  I love having my baby close to me and everyone gets more sleep when I can just nurse in bed.  Baby won't wake up all the way because as soon as she starts to stir I can just nurse her back to sleep, and I get to stay in bed.  We bedshared with DS (still do sometimes) and always took precautions to make sure we were being safe.

cutcopypaste

She'll be in the pack n play in our room for 6 months after she comes home.

sagoon

We have a bassinet in our room that he will sleep in until he is too big for it.  After that it will either be off to his crib with him or we will move the Pack n' Play into our room for him to sleep in.  We're just planning to play it by ear.

KansasFarmMomma

His crib is in our room for now, so yes he'll be in our room lol

wintersnight20

He will be staying in our room until WE are ready for him to move. SD shared a room with us until she was almost 18 months and it never caused us any issues even when she moved into her own room. I'm not comfortable leaving a newbie by itself like that...to be honest though I'm also very lazy sometimes and having him within reach to soothe/feed vs. having to go into another room is VERY appealing for my husband and I.

MesmrEwe

We'll have LO in our room in the cradle until I don't have to do night-time soothing to get him to sleep through the night. 

With DD, it was SO much more convenient to reach over and put the nuk back in when she'd stir in the middle of the night and back to dreamland she'd go...  We'd also know right away if something wasn't right..

jb2rn

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She'll be in the pack n play in our room for 6 months after she comes home.

This. And if you are breastfeeding, I don't know how you would do it with a baby down the hall..how can you pick up on their feeding cues and such?

uncharch7

he'll be in his crib down the hall, we'll use the monitor. DH is going back to work almost right away and we don't want DS in our room... it's something neither of us want, so that decision is easy.

Fletcha

I won't say never, but I definitely am not expecting my brand new baby to sleep all by themselves in their cold, dark room away from mom and dad. It just doesn't compute with me and seems like such a huge hassle. I plan on having baby in with us until we decide it would work best to move them.

Of course, if we find that we all sleep best apart, then things will change, but I look forward to sharing a room, if not a bed (safely) with my little squishy!

EvenAngelsFall

Straight to crib here.

Its literally no more than 15 feet away from our room.

Sure, having LO in our room would be easier for ME in the beginning, but I am more concerned about whats best for LO in the long run. I have heard nightmare stories from friends about trying to transition into a crib later on. Some of my friends still have LOs in their rooms, or worse yet even beds, at 4 and 5 years old. Thats just not cool in our book.

We have the Angel Care video monitor, and I know we will both be in there many times throughout the night. Besides, I am not sure how the physical location of a baby contributes top SIDs.... SIDs is very biological in nature, and if a baby is going to sustain SIDs, they are going to whether or not they are in your room, their room, or the bathroom.  

MrsT2008

she will be in her crib, in her room across the hall. 

rachbenn2007

I've done it both ways. With DD#1 when she came home we put her right in her crib. That was so hard for me (especially after a c-section) cause I was the only one getting up. Then when we had DS, I put him right in our room in the PNP and it was so much easier for me, except for the whole bout with colic and acid reflux. So this time LO will go in the cradle in our room. That seems to work the best for me.

WifeyMommy2011

We have a bassinet that we will keep our son in. We are hoping to transfer him to the crib in his room at around 6 weeks but we arent setting anything in stone.

Nessie82

I voted other.

Right now the crib is in our room. So he will be in his crib right away. If the 2nd bedroom our landlord is building for us gets completed (or started) before LO is born then he will sleep in our new room in the PNP.

TiffJ21

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She'll be in the pack n play in our room for 6 months after she comes home.

We also plan on having LO sleep in a pnp right in our room for at least the first couple months, I want him to be close to me so that I can easily breastfeed in the middle of the night. If it works we do plan on having him take naps in his crib though so that he somewhat gets used to it before the transition.

xxmiyaxx

We plan to have LO sleep in our room for the first months in a pack n'play since I want to BF and it'll be less disruptive than getting up and going down the hallway at night. I'm not against trying out her crib for naps though - I want her to feel comfortable in her own room.

rubyjem00

uncharch7:

he'll be in his crib down the hall, we'll use the monitor. DH is going back to work almost right away and we don't want DS in our room... it's something neither of us want, so that decision is easy.

This is pretty much the same for us. The nursery is right next to our bedroom and actually has a bed in there so if it gets to be too much, I can just sleep in there. 

getnmarried910

All of my kids have slept in my room till 8-9 months old.  We originally planned to put DD1 in her crib right away.  That all went out the window when she was a month early, and we wanted to keep an eye on her.  It also makes middle of the night nursing sessions so much easier.  We have never had any problems transitioning them to their cribs in their own rooms when we were ready.  We had more trouble switching them from a crib to a toddler bed than anything else!

NoodleM

We're going to have her in a basinette next to our bed for the first little while. I'm okay with doing that for the first 3 months or so, but my husband wants it to be just a month. I'm planning on breastfeeding but also pumping and introducing a bottle after the first 4-6 weeks so he can partake in feedings as well.

Our friends are telling us to put her in a crib right away, but that's because they were broken up the first 6 months of LO's life and the mom bed shared with her daughter until he came back into the picture. It was hard to transition for them to have her in her crib. 

I'd like to just do things my way though  If I'm the one getting up in the middle of the night, I want her next to me for the first little while to make it easier.

tosh24

Baby will be co-sleeping with me in my room (I already bed-share with DD, so baby will be in a cradle beside me). It is so so so so much easier to nurse in the middle of the night when all you have to do is reach over and grab baby as soon as you start to hear them grunt/stir. Nobody wakes up all that much and it's easier to get back to sleep. I also like the safety aspect of co-sleeping.

Like PP mentioned, it was harder to transition from crib to bed, not our room to the crib. Think of it this way: will your child be 16 years old still sleeping with you? No. There will come a point when they WANT to be in their own room and everything will work itself out. Not worth stressing over.

It's not right for everyone, but I just read a research article that found that children who co-slept with their parents until age 5 had better self-esteem and were better adjusted as teenagers than those children who did not co-sleep with their parents (I forget the sample size, but I believe it was in the 100's). They also found them to have better relationship skills with their future partners. Now, of course this may be a function of the kind of environment the children grew up in (there could have been differences in the values that co-sleeping parents had within their household, etc.) but it was an interesting article nonetheless.

Sjakie

He will be sleeping in his own crib but we have an queen bed in the nursery so I will be sleeping with the LO in the nursery while DH can snore how much he wants to.

 

kmn3

At first I said nope, he's in his bed.  I've changed!

Because I plan to nurse, I have a bassinet in our room.  I plan to keep him there for maybe 5-6 weeks.  I want him to be sleeping in his crib when I go back to work at 8 weeks.  I know, however, he'll make the arrangements for me.

DH doesn't care either way I don't think.  He's the one that insisted the dogs sleep in our bed so they weren't lonely lol.

fostermurphy

jb2rn:

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She'll be in the pack n play in our room for 6 months after she comes home.

This. And if you are breastfeeding, I don't know how you would do it with a baby down the hall..how can you pick up on their feeding cues and such?

I breastfed for almost a year with my baby in his own room from day one. When he would cry, I would get up, and walk across the hall and fed and change him. It really wasn't that hard.I actually liked to be a little awake when I was feeding him. My son got plenty to eat, is was 99 percent for height and weight. So, it can be done. 

fostermurphy

jb2rn:

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She'll be in the pack n play in our room for 6 months after she comes home.

This. And if you are breastfeeding, I don't know how you would do it with a baby down the hall..how can you pick up on their feeding cues and such?

I breastfed for almost a year with my baby in his own room from day one. When he would cry, I would get up, and walk across the hall and fed and change him. It really wasn't that hard.I actually liked to be a little awake when I was feeding him. My son got plenty to eat, is was 99 percent for height and weight. So, it can be done. 

indomesticbliss

Our master is pretty big, so we have set up a nursery in our bedroom-crib, changing table/dresser, glider, etc... it's in a seperate section-we have a library/office space in the bedroom, no door.

With our first we just used a PNP in our room for 6 weeks, naps were in his crib during the day. He went to his room earlier than we had anticipated because at the time, DH was getting up at 4 am for work and it was waking up our kiddo. This time, I think we will have LO in our room for a bit longer, especially since we are planning on putting our home on the market in the spring and I would rather keep the nursery in our room than set it up in a guest room.

UAbride31007

LO will sleep in the crib which is in our room.