Ask a December Mom...

jillybean800

Hey from December 2010 moms!  We have all been feeling really nosy lately and lurking on your board because we can't believe it's almost been a year since we had our babies.  We are feeling super nostalgic.  We are also itching to give advice for some reason.

So, would you like to post some questions to ask our board?  We were very much in the same boat as you guys for holidays, dressing babies for cold, etc. plus can answer lots of q's about birth and newborns.  If you post them here, I will post them on Dec2010 so you can see the answers?

Sorry if this seems like we are being total buttinski's, but we are just enjoying your board so much these days and would like to be of any help 

skleidon21

With Christmas only a week after my EDD.. And if LO ends up coming a little earlyer, we plan on going to most of the holiday partys. But I'm worried about colds/flu and sick people holding LO. How can you say no to people just passing your baby around? Or how would you handle it?

CamJack mom

1) If you went back to work full time, what pump did you use? Did you like it? WHY

 

2) Were swaddles useful for you?

mrsfowler1016

aww that is so awesome of y'all!!

Anyone on there that had their baby on Christmas day? Was it a hassle to get ahold of your Dr?

How long was your baby in newborn diapers/clothing?

Are regular receiving blankets okay for swaddling or will I definitely need a Halo sleepsack or swaddle me?

Where did you get your car seat cover (for the cold) or did you just put a blanket over the car seat?

 Hmm...I'm sure I will have more

kylayton

Here's something I've been curious/nervous about.

I am wondering if anyone had a difficult time dealing with seasonal depression combined with baby blues?  I know a lot of people get a little blue and tired of the winter and I wonder if it will be even harder with a new baby. I can't imagine if a new baby will help or hinder that.  

buttercup1221

Any tips for those FTMs that are planning on breastfeeding?

How long was your "recovery" time after delivery... when did you start to feel like normal again?

If you had the choice to be a SAHM without drastically changing your financial standing (it would only be a slight, but totally doable difference), would you continue to work or would you SAH? Also, If you did SAH.. do you regret leaving your job? 

Happily Overwhelmed

So sweet of you guys!

#1---Did anyone try and avoid family functions? How did that work? I'm due on Christmas and DH and I both would like to spend Christmas as a new little family (if LO is here) or if LO is not here some quality alone time (because I'm already miserable and can only imagine). We're afraid our families won't take this well...but there's always so much family drama with them we'd like to avoid.

#2---Did anyone's doctor try to push you around their schedule? Again, being due on Christmas have a chance of either have a Christmas baby or a New Year's baby. I don't wish to be induced but feel like eventually my doctor is going to request something be scheduled to avoid her plans.

#3---Does anyone regret what they've named their child? Why?

#4-Newborn clothes...are they worth buying?

CountingUp

Are there any things you wish you had more or less of? onesies? towels? Where you happy with your car seat choice?

mrsfowler1016

Oh also, how long did you wait PP to have sex again? Was it extremely terrible that first time?

How has your marriage/relationship changed since having LO?

browneyedgoil

- did you take your child out for christmas? if so, what did you do to prevent them from getting sick

-did you let people hold your child at the hospital eventhough it's flu season

-a year later- have you lost all of the baby weight 

jillybean800

Wow these are such great questions! I'm going to stop it here to give December 2010 time to answer what you posted. Maybe we can pick it up again in a few days? Think of cool questions to ask us! And check out the Ask a December Mom section on our board to see if we answered one you have.

getnmarried910

skleidon21:

With Christmas only a week after my EDD.. And if LO ends up coming a little earlyer, we plan on going to most of the holiday partys. But I'm worried about colds/flu and sick people holding LO. How can you say no to people just passing your baby around? Or how would you handle it?

Moby wrap, sling, or something like that.  People are much less likely to ask.  I did this with my last December baby, and I plan to do it with this one too!  I hate passing my babies around anyways...they always got overstimulated, and I had a crabby baby on my hands.

RizziB

kylayton:

Here's something I've been curious/nervous about.

I am wondering if anyone had a difficult time dealing with seasonal depression combined with baby blues?  I know a lot of people get a little blue and tired of the winter and I wonder if it will be even harder with a new baby. I can't imagine if a new baby will help or hinder that.  

I've been wondering about this too since winter has always been my least favorite season.  I'd love to hear from the December 2010 moms on this! 

MissBHaven1024

Sex after a vaginal birth (with tears or without), be honest and share how it felt! Painful? Sensitive?

EBF...how did you keep your milk supply up? Is it nutrition based, and if so, what kind of diet/food lifestyle did you do? 

RizziB

justbeachy109:

RizziB:

kylayton:

Here's something I've been curious/nervous about.

I am wondering if anyone had a difficult time dealing with seasonal depression combined with baby blues?  I know a lot of people get a little blue and tired of the winter and I wonder if it will be even harder with a new baby. I can't imagine if a new baby will help or hinder that.  

I've been wondering about this too since winter has always been my least favorite season.  I'd love to hear from the December 2010 moms on this! 

This might have been answered in the 2010 board, but I wanted to post a reply here as well. Yes, this happened to me. I was really depressed after having DD and I think a lot of it had to do with being inside most of the time due to the cold weather.

If you are uncomfortable with taking LO out because of germs and such, I suggest having visitors when you can. I loved it when my friends stopped by, even for an hour, just so I'd have someone to chat with other than LO. 

Another thing that helped was getting dressed and out of my PJ's even if I wasn't going anywhere. It didn't help me to be in PJ's all day everyday. I would put some make up on and even blow dry my hair if I could, just to feel human again.

Do not hesitate to ask for help or talk to your DH. It is very important to express your feelings if you are having a hard time. It is completely normal to feel sad, anxious, and depressed after having a baby. It is nothing to be ashamed about. 

Remember, it will get better, it will get warmer out, and you will get through it! 

As always, if you ever have any questions, please do not hesitate to post them on the Dec 10 board. We would be happy to help!

 

Thanks for the suggestions! 

kylayton

RizziB:

justbeachy109:

RizziB:

kylayton:

Here's something I've been curious/nervous about.

I am wondering if anyone had a difficult time dealing with seasonal depression combined with baby blues?  I know a lot of people get a little blue and tired of the winter and I wonder if it will be even harder with a new baby. I can't imagine if a new baby will help or hinder that.  

I've been wondering about this too since winter has always been my least favorite season.  I'd love to hear from the December 2010 moms on this! 

This might have been answered in the 2010 board, but I wanted to post a reply here as well. Yes, this happened to me. I was really depressed after having DD and I think a lot of it had to do with being inside most of the time due to the cold weather.

If you are uncomfortable with taking LO out because of germs and such, I suggest having visitors when you can. I loved it when my friends stopped by, even for an hour, just so I'd have someone to chat with other than LO. 

Another thing that helped was getting dressed and out of my PJ's even if I wasn't going anywhere. It didn't help me to be in PJ's all day everyday. I would put some make up on and even blow dry my hair if I could, just to feel human again.

Do not hesitate to ask for help or talk to your DH. It is very important to express your feelings if you are having a hard time. It is completely normal to feel sad, anxious, and depressed after having a baby. It is nothing to be ashamed about. 

Remember, it will get better, it will get warmer out, and you will get through it! 

As always, if you ever have any questions, please do not hesitate to post them on the Dec 10 board. We would be happy to help!

 

Thanks for the suggestions! 

Yes thank you! All great ideas.  

Leap08

getnmarried910:

skleidon21:

With Christmas only a week after my EDD.. And if LO ends up coming a little earlyer, we plan on going to most of the holiday partys. But I'm worried about colds/flu and sick people holding LO. How can you say no to people just passing your baby around? Or how would you handle it?

Moby wrap, sling, or something like that.  People are much less likely to ask.  I did this with my last December baby, and I plan to do it with this one too!  I hate passing my babies around anyways...they always got overstimulated, and I had a crabby baby on my hands.

I agree! We flew with my daughter when she was a month old for Christmas. I wore her in an ergo w/infant insert. No one asked to hold her or tried to touch or anything like that. I did the same thing anytime we went out for the first 2 months or so. It worked like a charm, and she was never sick until she started daycare.