VBAC...Regrets?

p092907

I am currently struggling with the decison to opt for a RCS or try for a VBAC.  I have read a lot of posts with the opposite question, but not too many framed this way...Anyone out there have a VBAC that they regretted?  And wished that they would have gone the RCS route if possible?  Thanks!

Battlebaby09

Wondering the same... I was convinced that I was going to have a c-section again, but early labor started for me 3 days ago and I have been on an emotional roller coaster. I still think that the VBAC is the way to go if possible. I am sure you will get some stories of people regretting if they failed a VBAC. It makes your recovery harder if you fail...

preg_amy

Definitely not.  My labor was really hard and long... but it was still worth every second. 

I think it really depends on how you feel about your c/s birth.  With mine, I felt like I had no say in anything going on and I felt really out of control.  With me, my VBAC was in my hands and all the decisions were mine.  So I think that is a big part of why I don't regret anything.  I also had an awesome recovery from my VBAC.  I didn't really tear at all (one little tiny tear that didn't need any repair).

I do know someone who went into labor, stalled, and then had her primary c/s.  She had a VBAC for her second.  Then she chose to have a scheduled RCS for her third.   I didn't ask her about it, but I do know that she tore a lot with her VBAC, but I don't know if she chose a RCS because she regretted her VBAC.  She also had a tubal ligation during her CS, so that might have had something to do with her choice. 

Other than that, I think almost everyone who I've talked to about her VBAC was happy with her choice.

cchill01

From reading the failed VBAC stories here, it seems like most people were glad they tried.

Here's the way I look at it.....

If I try and succeed, fantastic.  If I try everything under the sun to get my VBAC and still end up with an RCS, then I'll be able to put my first birth behind me, because it just wasn't meant to be.

disbride061103

I had an unsuccessful VBAC attempt last year.  And while it still stings to know that I will likely never give birth vaginally, I don't have a single regret about my VBAC attempt.  It was something that I needed to do.  I would have spent the rest of  my life wondering "what if" if I had decided to go with a RCS. 

MrsVictoriaB

I have absolutely no regrets about my VBAC, I floated on a high for weeks afterwards. I know me, and even if I had failed at VBACing, I would have regretted never trying. The unknown and what ifs would have driven me nuts. So for my own piece of mind I knew I had to try even if it ended in c-section. At least then I'd have piece that I tried

chicsub

MrsVictoriaB:

I have absolutely no regrets about my VBAC, I floated on a high for weeks afterwards. I know me, and even if I had failed at VBACing, I would have regretted never trying. The unknown and what ifs would have driven me nuts. So for my own piece of mind I knew I had to try even if it ended in c-section. At least then I'd have piece that I tried

Exactly this.  It is still my "happy place" I go to in my head when I'm having a hard day b/c my VBAC was such a great experience.

I would also ask this on the c-section board b/c maybe some of the moms that attempted a VBAC and didn't get one might not want to hang out here.  Kind of like how I couldn't hang out on the Natural Birth board for quite awhile after my c/s.  I haven't heard of anyone regretting their VBAC, but I know for certain that there are people out there that must regret it.  Interesting question!  

MAprincess

MrsVictoriaB:

I have absolutely no regrets about my VBAC, I floated on a high for weeks afterwards. I know me, and even if I had failed at VBACing, I would have regretted never trying. The unknown and what ifs would have driven me nuts. So for my own piece of mind I knew I had to try even if it ended in c-section. At least then I'd have piece that I tried

This is me too.  I had a successful VBAC, but even if I ended up with a RCS, for myself I needed to know that I tried everything to avoid unnecessary surgery.

kcvasquez

This is a great post! Reading all the stories makes me feel better about just trying for my VBAC even if it ends in a RCS! Thanks ladies!

iris427

MAprincess:

MrsVictoriaB:

I have absolutely no regrets about my VBAC, I floated on a high for weeks afterwards. I know me, and even if I had failed at VBACing, I would have regretted never trying. The unknown and what ifs would have driven me nuts. So for my own piece of mind I knew I had to try even if it ended in c-section. At least then I'd have piece that I tried

This is me too.  I had a successful VBAC, but even if I ended up with a RCS, for myself I needed to know that I tried everything to avoid unnecessary surgery.

Ditto all of this. 

chankins14

kcvasquez:

This is a great post! Reading all the stories makes me feel better about just trying for my VBAC even if it ends in a RCS! Thanks ladies!

Exactly!  Thanks ladies, I am more confident in my choice to VBAC now!

nosoup4u

I have no regrets at all about doing a VBAC (I had a second-degree tear with my VBAC also, and it was still a faster recovery overall).  In fact, having a VBAC is making us consider having a third - I wouldn't have had another if it meant three c-sections.

daisyeah

After trying 25 hours on VBAC by using all types of assisted delivery (except suction), I ended up with C/S due to extremely fast heart beat from baby. The whole team gather together within 10 minutes and I woke up w/my little angel on my side. I do not regret for trying the VBAC but CS is still the safest way for some special cases. 

I will still want to try VBAC on my second baby if that is still an option.