If you have or are having girl...

mrsfowler1016

Did you save your wedding dress for her?

We have planned on selling mine on ebay, but now that we're having a girl I'm kind of hesitant to do so. I don't expect her to wear it at all...but in the back of my mind I am thinking "what if something happens to me and she wants it?"

 Decisions decisions.

Happily Overwhelmed

Awww...

I think this is an antiquated tradition (still really nice though). I can only name one girl I've known that used her mom's wedding dress (and she's already re-newing her vows with another dress because she didn't like the way it turned out...access drama queen there!). Everyone else I know wanted to pick something out just for them.

I didn't spend a ton on my dress (around $500). I plan to keep mine...I'm not really sure why though. I doubt my daughter will want it...it's just something hard to let go I guess. I haven't even preserved it though!!! (after 3 years I wonder if that's possible...). I also wonder how well a used dress would sell. I paid around $500...MAYBE I could get $150? Is it worth it? For some people sure...I'm not sure though.

I've heard of women making their dresses into bassinett skirts. I've seen some pretty examples but don't think I'll take that route either.

 

Mass-girl-at-heart

Nope, my dressed sucked and was cheap.  I actually never picked it up from the cleaner so I have no idea what happened to it.

Had I listened to my gut and got the dress I wanted I would have saved it.

Tussie Mussie

My dress was inexpensive, but I did have it preserved. Although my moms dress was yellowed and way too small for me to use it was still special having her show it to us. We used pieces from it on the bouquets for my sisters wedding which was also special since they share the same wedding anniversary now. I'd at least like to have mine to show to my daughter, but I would never try to push it off on her for her own wedding. 

preciousmetal

I saved my wedding dress because I loved it. If my DD wants to wear it, she can. If not, it can sit around in a box and still be beautiful. Personally, I didn't want to wear my mom's dress because it was old fashioned, and I imagine that she will probably think the same thing. But that's really her decision to make when the time comes, and we will have it just in case.

HisKonstantine

Awwww.

No, I didn't. I got mine preserved right after the wedding. I still look at it and love it just as much as I did on my wedding day. But I would rather buy her the dress of her dreams like my mom did for me rather than force her into feeling bad and wearing mine. 

Rosie24

I am fighting this decision and have been for 2 years! My dress was actually very expensive and I LOVE it. I thought I was going to sell it and get some of the $$$ back so I didn't preserve it. Now, I wish I had  at least cleaned it bc it is just hanging there with mudd on the the bottom:( It's gorgeous and I could totally see my daughter wearing it although realistically I think that's unlikely.

mrsfowler1016

Rosie24:

I am fighting this decision and have been for 2 years! My dress was actually very expensive and I LOVE it. I thought I was going to sell it and get some of the $$$ back so I didn't preserve it. Now, I wish I had  at least cleaned it bc it is just hanging there with mudd on the the bottom:( It's gorgeous and I could totally see my daughter wearing it although realistically I think that's unlikely.

lol mine is hanging at MIL's and we never cleaned it. I definitely expect her to get her own dress but I also feel bad selling it just in case. 

KansasFarmMomma

I would never have fit or worn my mothers dress...however I did wear her veil. Maybe you can sell the dress and keep the veil for her?

CarmonEdJ

Another idea if you have your dress is to have it made into a christening gown, this was suggested by my aunt who is a seemstress.  Other ideas is to have it made into a blanket or quilt, a dress for your daughter to wear in the future possibly 1st communion.

PecanSam

We don't know what we r having but I'm going to use my wedding dress to make a baptismal outfit. 

capulet

I had my wedding dress cleaned and preserved right after our wedding, way before we even thought about having kids.  I didn't expect it would ever get worn again, I just didn't want to get rid of it and if I was going to keep it I wanted it to stay in good shape.  DD did ask a few days ago if she could wear my dress when she gets married, but I doubt she'll actually want to in 20-25 years. I wouldn't have wanted to wear my mom's dress, aside from the fact that it wouldn't have fit (and my parents eventually divorced, so kind of bad karma there...).

kylayton

My sister wore my mom's wedding dress and it was beautiful. Even if none of my daughters wanted to wear it, I would still like to keep it to show it to them. 

ziglet1228

My dress has been cleaned & preserved but I seriously doubt our daughter will want to wear it. I've seen a lot of people use pieces of their mom's dress for a bouquet wrap though, so that's an option if she wants to.

Greenbaby3114

We went to a wedding a few weeks ago where the bride had her mother's dress shortened and altered to change into at the reception and as her "going away" outfit. I thought it was a cute idea if you wanted to incorporate your mother's dress in some way without having to wear it for your actual wedding ceremony gown.

MrsT2008

I still have my dress, but not because I'm hoping my daughter will want to wear it - I just haven't done anything with it.

Mike&Care

I'll have three daughters and I didn't even keep my dress. Sold it about 2 1/2 years ago for $2,000 (bought for $3,800). We ended up using the money to buy all the nursery furniture, baby clothes and baby items we needed, so I think selling it was a good idea.

ETA: I'm not one to hang onto stuff. All my prom/homecoming dresses are gone and I even got rid of my letter jacket! The photos are my prized possessions.

JennaM919

I am sending mine off this week for preservation.. I am using the satin wrap thing that came with it to edge a blanket for LO. It's pretty big, so I may use it to edge a blanket for each baby we have. It's fun to think our little girl would want to wear my dress someday, but I'd never push it on her!

rachbenn2007

I have mine still. My plan was after I had DD#1 was to have the gown part made into her christening gown, but I couldn't cut up my wedding dress. So I'm just going to hold on to it and if one of my girls wants to wear it they can. 

NoodleM

I never thought of selling my dress, it was 150 dollars. It was simple and just what I wanted as I'm not really into big poofy dresses. It's still in my closet. I think it would be fun to take pictures in it around our 10th wedding anniversary or something like that.

It's also a style that won't really go out of fashion either. Maybe my daughter will want it. I'm a bit of a pack rat and don't throw out much though, I still have my prom dress.

BFab11

I have my dress, to renew my vows in a few years and/or in case my daughter wants it. It's just not something I feel like I can part with.

alexvause

my dress is in a sandy wrinkled heap in a plastic bag in my closet (we had a beach elopement and got in the water for our portraits after the ceremony), I really doubt it can even be salvaged at this point!

MissBHaven1024

I have my wedding dress, but I'm not saving it for her haha! I love it too much for myself. If she ever asked to wear it, I would definitely let her, but I have kept it more for me and the memories I have from wearing it.

Trends and style change so much now, that 20-30 years from now when our daughter's are getting married, Lord knows what the wedding dresses will look like!  

beka0404

I saved mine, but not necessarily for my daughter. I just wanted to keep it. If my daughter or granddaughter wants to use it, awesome. If not, that's fine. I still have my senior prom dress, my dress from when I was Miss [Hometown], etc. - I get weird and sentimental about formal wear.

mbf124

I saved mine, but not really for my daughter. I loved my dress and want it as a keepsake of my wedding day. 

jthennigar

I did have my cleaned and am saving it, but I don't already expect her to want it.  If she does, that is really nice.  If not, maybe there's another way she can use it - for example, I didn't wear my mom's dress but used some lace from hers to make a wrap for my bridal bouquet.  

JNicMTek

I used part of my dress on DD's baptism gown, and I plan on using the rest in some sort of quilt or some sort of keepsake. There is no way my style and size will be the same for either of my girls, but I don't want to just get rid of the dress either.

littlehckyplar

CarmonEdJ:

Another idea if you have your dress is to have it made into a christening gown, this was suggested by my aunt who is a seemstress.  Other ideas is to have it made into a blanket or quilt, a dress for your daughter to wear in the future possibly 1st communion.

My DH's mother passed away before I met her.  My DH's father still had her wedding dress and after our wedding gave it to me.  I plan on making a baptismal outfit for our child. 

Even if it is not preserved, your daughter might want to carry a piece of it on her wedding day.  I had some special items in my purse the day of my wedding.

kreeves1

This is something I'm thinking about doing.... https://pinterest.com/pin/468873919/ That way it's kinda like she got to wear it. 

karaknr

CarmonEdJ:

Another idea if you have your dress is to have it made into a christening gown, this was suggested by my aunt who is a seemstress.  Other ideas is to have it made into a blanket or quilt, a dress for your daughter to wear in the future possibly 1st communion.

Ill be doing this for my grandchildren. I wanted to do it for my DD, but DH wont let me cut up the dress until we know FOR SURE she wont want it. But when she has LO's Ill turn it in to a christening gown. 

Maggie-Moo

I love my dress and my mom had it cleaned and boxed for me while I was on my honeymoon, so it is put away in a spare closet right now. I can't imagine cutting it up, so I plan on keeping it for me because I love it and if DD ever wanted to wear it, see it or try it on, I would love that. But I really treasured going dress shopping with my mom and finding my perfect dress, so I wouldn't want her to miss out on that. I hope to maybe be able to try it on again, if I ever get a waist back, but it is a giant princess dress, so if we do decide to renew our vows, I would definitely wear a simpler dress. I am also a sentimental sook and we have the space for it, so I don't see a problem keeping it and I just like knowing that it is there