Spending a week away from DD.. anyone do it?

ertopp

It's still about 6 months away but when FI and I get married we are going on a week long honeymoon.  As I am excited about it, I am also terrified.  Luckily my parents are keeping her for the whole week so it will be my mom, dad and grandma.  My sister is also right down the road too in case they need help.

 

My biggest fear of course is something happening to us, or her while we are gone but my second biggest fear is she will forget me!  We did get my mom an IPAD and I am getting an IPHONE next week so we can facetime with her every night before bed.  She absolutely adores my parents and they are crazy about her and they always tire her out and she has a blast with them so I'm not worried about her missing us but its just so long! I have yet to spend a night away from her (but I plan to do a night before we leave so I can make sure everything goes okay)

 

DD will be 2 by that point - has anyone left their LO for that long? Did they remember you when you got home??

Wozzy0223

My DH has a job that requires him to be gone away from home a LOT.  For example, he's gone for 2 weeks right now.  When DD was little she'd sometimes play shy for a while, but for at least the past 6 months it's been fine when he gets home.  Especially the last month, she goes barrelling to the door as soon as he comes home.  He usually can't skype with her (she's always sleeping when he calls) and she definitely doesn't forget who he is, so I don't think you have anything to worry about there (although I understand that's every parents' fear!).  Also, my parents live 10hrs away and we skype a lot, and not only did she remember them immediately when she saw them, she remembered the layout of their house last time after not being there for 6 weeks!  They retain a lot now.  Have a great time and don't worry, she definitely won't forget you!

ertopp

Thanks ladies!

I know once we get there, start drinking and I can get 8+ hours of sleep every night I will be fine. Plus vacations usually fly by.  My biggest problem will be when we first leave. Plus I hate flying (only flew 2 times and I am terrified!)

I wish we could take her lol! But this will probably be the only getaway we take without her for a LONG time!!

Abinormal

I've only left DD overnight one time and I will be leaving her for a week in July. She's also staying with my parents and she'll be over 2 and a half by the time I leave her, so I'm not afraid she'll forget me, but I do worry about something happening to DH and myself and I know that I'll miss her and she'll miss me. I also know that my mom is going to have a blast spending her days with Tegan and Tegan is going to have a blast spending her days with my mom. I'm nervous and a little scared to leave her, but I just keep telling myself everything will be just fine.

ABColeslaw

I had to do it when I was in the hospital...it was very hard.  Next week I'm going to S. Carolina and I'm seriously sad I won't see him everyday!

PrincessFiona9

DD went to Indiana with my parents for 3 days when she was about 5-6 months old. It was NBD. I am going to Florida for a week in May so DD will be 2.5 by then. My mom and DD's father will split their time watching DD while I'm gone. I don't have any worries that DD will forget who I am

melody921

First of all, she will not forget you. The longest we left DS was for 5 days, last winter. He was with my mom, and even at 9 months old, he remembered us when we returned. Definitely spend a night or two away from her before the big vacation. Then relax, enjoy the honeymoon and know she's in good hands.

rsrn02

Lurker here. Dh and I left ds this past May for a week long cruise. It was awesome to eat, sleep, and drink when I wanted. That being said, have a living will made up should something happen to you both (God forbid). It will clearly state your wishes. You an get them online. Just google it and make sure to have it notarized and copies with you, with the babysitters, and a copy left at your house. My parents assumed we would want ds with them. But heck no. Same goes for the in laws. Heck no. Ds and any future children will go to my older sister and her dh. They have the sme belief system that dh and I have as well as similar beliefs in discipline and religion. Mine and dh parents are not the same. So just food for thought. My sister and her dh go away for a week every year (perk of her dh job they pay). So we all have copies of their wishes.

k.linn

DH and I went to Jamaica for a week for our five year anniversary this past June. DD was 18 months at the time. The anticipation of leaving her was MUCH worse than being gone a week. She stayed with my parents the whole time, and she's used to being there (my mom watches her during the week while I'm at work), so I knew she'd be more than comfortable there. Ditto PP's about doing your will beforehand, just in case. DH and I had ours revised and notarized and left copies with my parents and another close family friend. In all honesty, the face-time might not be the best idea--I guess it just depends how your kiddo reacts. We, of course, wanted to talk to DD as we missed her, but it ended up being hard on her (and my parents, and us) when we got off the phone because she was a little upset after, whereas on the days we didn't talk to her, it was kind of out of sight, out of mind for her--she didn't ask about us, cry, etc.

Mrs.Syntax

k.linn:

In all honesty, the face-time might not be the best idea--I guess it just depends how your kiddo reacts. We, of course, wanted to talk to DD as we missed her, but it ended up being hard on her (and my parents, and us) when we got off the phone because she was a little upset after, whereas on the days we didn't talk to her, it was kind of out of sight, out of mind for her--she didn't ask about us, cry, etc.

I've been thinking about this too.  DH and I are going to Hawaii in January and DD will be with his parents.  We're thinking about talking to them via Skype video chat, but my concern was that it would upset DD (and us!).