Large age gap between children...Is it ok to have a shower?

skye83

I know I've heard that typically a woman only has a shower for the first child and it's kinda faux pas to have them for subsequent children. However, our children are 8 and 10. We literally have no baby stuff. We weren't planning on ever having anymore. In this situation, do you thing it's ok? My best friend really wants to throw one but I haven't given her the green light yet because I don't want people to think I'm just being gift grabby.

More_Cowbell

I can't answer your question but I just wanted to say, in my foggy state of mind, I thought you were asking if it was ok to take a shower.  LOL.  No!  No bathing for the next 8 months!

springding

I think it is totally fine to have another shower when you have that age gap!!! Let your friend throw one and have fun:)

CC.to.be

Not sure what region you live in but around here it would be considered tacky. I know it is common place in other parts of the country to have a shower for every child born called a "sprinkle". So I guess it depends on where you live.

HuskerBabyB

In your case it is most definitely OK to have a shower. Go ahead and give her the green light.

chouli77

I'm pg with my first, so I am def not up on the ettiquite.

So is it generally only first-time mom's who get showers? I was under the impression that any mom could have one if she had friends/family willing to throw her a party.

bogus123

I would say that its totally okay in your situation. If there were only 2 or 3 years in between then no, but with an 8 year gap...go ahead. You need new stuff for this baby!

rmwest87

I think it is completely fine especially since you friend is wanting to throw one for you. I think all of your friends and family will understand that you are needing stuff since there is such an age gap and that they will really enjoy getting together and celebrating a new baby!

Kimberlylauralane

Our kids will be 18 and 12 (yep, crazy...)... So there is a HUGE age gap...  Our close friends WANT to throw us a shower to give us gifts.  It's not something we "want", it's something THEY want to do for us.  It's perfectly fine.  I'm not sure why it would ever be wrong for friends to want to celebrate and be generous with their good friends in a time like this. 

LorriAnn

Same as above.. my kids from prev marriage are 20 and 18 years old... I havent told anyone other than sister and cousin ..so not sure what is going to happen..

 I know someone who has had 3 kids, is preg with her 4th and has thrown herself a shower for the 2nd, 3rd and now this one.. (I can see if there was a huge difference in ages but they range from 5 on down to now newborn)

bikernun

My middle child was six and a half years older than his brother. We had gotten rid of everything because we were done, right? Guess what, God had other plans. So we had another shower. It was great. I don't think anyone is going to look down on you for having a shower when your children are so far apart in age from the new little one. Even if it was closer in age that faux has moved on. There is to much joy to go around and to much excitement to ignore a new little one. Throw your shower and thumb your nose up at any old biddy that forgot to climb out of the 1980's.

LottaLattes

I think it would be fine if your friend wants to throw you a shower!  My boys are 7 and 10 (and will be almost 8 and 11) when these babies come and we have a few handmedowns that I've been collecting recently but really no baby stuff in general.  I think I have my Boppy and my nursing cover and a box full of blankets (not keeping them for any reason other than sentimental up until we decided to TTC this year!)  I also agree that I wouldn't ask for one, I'm just hoping someone offers for me

asheins

Yes, have the shower. There is nine years between my sister and I and my Mother had the shower. There is a HUGE difference/safety standard with that much of a time gap. Car seats were way different in 1984 vs '93. You are going to have to buy a lot of things new because of this so I wouldn't worry about it...and that is the reason my mother had her shower. No one thought it was tacky or distasteful.

reyhan29mansur

I didnt even know you only had showers for the first child... my cousin has twin 2 year olds and she had a shower for her baby. And my friend has a three year old and just had a shower for her baby.  I would say its completely ok, with an age gap or not, but then again, we Missourians are kinda 'hillbilly-ish'

chaiser8racer

I have been wondering the same thing. My sons will be 6 1/2 and 5 when the new baby is here. My best friend wants to throw me a shower. Sounds like everyone is saying it's acceptable!?! i hope so, because after my youngest son, I got rid of everything, as we were only planning to have two children. Obviously god had different plans for our family, and now I have literally nothing but the crib & changing table/dresser.