Mariah Carey and Infertility

Delta04

Just curious, has anyone seen her round of interviews since the big reveal of her twins?  She admitted to having fertility treatments to get pregnant (surprise) but didn't say exactly what (which I do think is her right). 

I guess I am torn on this issue.  On one hand, I hate it when actors/entertainers in their 40s (...or d*mn near 50s - hello Kelly Preston), talk about their "miraculous" pregnancies knowing good and well that without an RE and probably an egg donor, it never would have happened.  On the other hand, I also know that IF is a very personal and often difficult thing to have to go through and no one should have to be open about it - especially those in the public eye.

It still urks me nonetheless.  I guess, I think it gives false hope to all the women out their (I was one of them) who married later and maybe pursued their career first - And it promotes ignorance amongst families, friends, and fertiles.   

theworms

 

i'm glad she came clean even if she wasn't specific

 

missred75

I understand that it's someone's right to tell people about their treatments, I don't think IF should be a 4 letter word. I agree with you about it promoting waiting until later in life to get pregnant. Honestly, my mom didn't have me until her 44th birthday, so I felt like I had a TON of time to wait. (Who knows what would have happened if DH & I had started trying sooner.)

I am glad she was up front about going for treatment, though. Hopefully the more celebrities that do this, the less taboo IF will be.

eponine7682

I am glad she came clean about it too. I wish IF weren't so taboo. Hopefully this makes others feel more comfortable about sharing.

jessican08

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.

I know what you mean about being torn...it's definitely HER business but, I think it does perpetuate the IF taboo, that "IF doesn't happen to celebrities, and could lead a lot of couples to believe that getting PG is still a breeze once you get passed a certain age.  

reb259

In addition I think it also gives people false hope from a $ perspective as well.  Most people are OOP and when you hear celebrities talking about it (Celine Dion and her 6 or 7 tries for her 2nd) I don't think realize the expense involved.

But good for her for sharing at least a little. 

MBfromBMC

I agree that it is a personal issue, but when celebrities keep it to themselves, it just furthers the stigma and shame of IF.  I'm glad she finally shared.

babystinkbreath

jessican08:

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.

i saw the interview and yes this is what she said.  When she was talking about the progesterone I wanted to reach thru the TV and smack her.  She kept going on about how differcult it was to be on prog, etc.  I know PIO is not fun but it really is not that big of a deal compared to the rest of the treatment stuff. 

I think it is good that she finally came out about it but she was weird about it still and I don't think her case will really help anything with the IF stigma.  I think Courtney Cox did a much better job breaking the stigma than MC did.

Delta04

babystinkbreath:

jessican08:

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.

i saw the interview and yes this is what she said.  When she was talking about the progesterone I wanted to reach thru the TV and smack her.  She kept going on about how differcult it was to be on prog, etc.  I know PIO is not fun but it really is not that big of a deal compared to the rest of the treatment stuff. 

I think it is good that she finally came out about it but she was weird about it still and I don't think her case will really help anything with the IF stigma.  I think Courtney Cox did a much better job breaking the stigma than MC did.

I agree - it also seemed like that was the only real thing she did.  She talked about how it helps you not m/c.  I don't know, maybe she was trying to deflect...

jessican08

Delta04:

babystinkbreath:

jessican08:

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.

i saw the interview and yes this is what she said.  When she was talking about the progesterone I wanted to reach thru the TV and smack her.  She kept going on about how differcult it was to be on prog, etc.  I know PIO is not fun but it really is not that big of a deal compared to the rest of the treatment stuff. 

I think it is good that she finally came out about it but she was weird about it still and I don't think her case will really help anything with the IF stigma.  I think Courtney Cox did a much better job breaking the stigma than MC did.

I agree - it also seemed like that was the only real thing she did.  She talked about how it helps you not m/c.  I don't know, maybe she was trying to deflect...

I know I'm probably not alone in this but I'm definitely not buying that that's the only thing she did given the fact that she has fraternal twins. Not saying it's an impossibility her twins are spontaneous, I'm just not buying it.

reb259

jessican08:

Delta04:

babystinkbreath:

jessican08:

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.

i saw the interview and yes this is what she said.  When she was talking about the progesterone I wanted to reach thru the TV and smack her.  She kept going on about how differcult it was to be on prog, etc.  I know PIO is not fun but it really is not that big of a deal compared to the rest of the treatment stuff. 

I think it is good that she finally came out about it but she was weird about it still and I don't think her case will really help anything with the IF stigma.  I think Courtney Cox did a much better job breaking the stigma than MC did.

I agree - it also seemed like that was the only real thing she did.  She talked about how it helps you not m/c.  I don't know, maybe she was trying to deflect...

I know I'm probably not alone in this but I'm definitely not buying that that's the only thing she did given the fact that she has fraternal twins. Not saying it's an impossibility her twins are spontaneous, I'm just not buying it.

I totally agree with this!!

Faith722

jessican08:

From what I heard, she admitted to having a previous miscarriage(s) and then using progesterone therapy to maintain this pregnancy.   

This is what I heard, too.

I agree that it's a private matter and she shouldn't HAVE to talk about it, but I can see the other side, too.

Kitttkattt

Yes yes yes. It is absolutely their right if they don't want to talk about their fertility treatments or if they used donor eggs. It irks me too how they pretend it was miraculous. All life is a miracle, however, donor eggs across all ages grous have a 50-60% success rate per cycle. So there is nothing miraculous in it. Many women IRL overestimate how long they will remain fertile. Most think fertility declines slightly at 40, and that pregnancy is still easily achievable til age 45.

Sloane99

I think it's unfortunate that she's not being honest. I do understand that it is a very private thing and I respect that, but only speaking in half truths is doing a disservice to the potential for awareness and understanding.

One of the celebrities that I respect the most is Michael J Fox, look what he's done for Parkinson's, infertility needs a face too. I'm not suggesting that any celebrity who's ever struggled needs to make their personal business public, but it does sadden me that so many go through it and not many are advocates for research or funding.

Mrkyrain

I'm glad celebs are coming out and saying that they did fertility treatments.  Juliana, Celine, Mariah Carey (don't know how honest she is being) and Courtney Cox but I wish people would tell the whole truth.  I agree that not being open about DE use, gives women a false sense of hope.  I was one of those women that married later and just assumed that I would get pregnant.  Even after starting IVF, I also just assumed it would work. 

FraggleChic

I haven't seen any of her recent interviews but I read an article that said she denied doing IVF but said acupuncture got her pregnant. You can't tell me all these twins in Hollywood are popping up randomly.  I understand IF is a very private thing but when you're a celebrity, you don't really get to have secrets. I think that they could do so much to reduce the stigma.

doggie mama

I agree with pretty much all of what you all said. I think these celebrities are doing women a tremendous disservice by growing the myth that you can do all the stuff you want to do career-wise first, because getting prenant after 35 is no I never fully processed until I got here what the term advanced maternal age really implies, and who it actually applies to. problem. I realize that these women have experienced the pain of IF and I wouldn't wish that on anyone, but hey also have the means to take every step necessary to become mothers, which not all of us have. So I think they should at least be honest about it, or at least acknowledge that they took a risk by waiting.

doggie mama

Oh, and I don't believe for a second that she did not have IVF, and I agree that this half-truth horse-crap is worse than saying anything at all.