S/o IL's and holidays

HugginAngel

Sad thing is that we know my IL's will not buy DS anything which my parents going over the top makes DH feel worse that his family won't be getting DS anything for christmas or his b-day.

Part of me feels like in the future we're going to have to buy things and pretend they are from IL's so that he doesn't feel neglected by his grandparents. They do so much for all his brothers kids and because we can afford stuff do NOTHING for DS his mom bought him one outfit his whole life from a garage sale and while I don't care where it came from it's just the point that she couldn't go buy something new for her grandbaby.

Wildlandwife

That is sad.  I'm sorry.  I may have missed the background to this, but they simply don't do anything for him because you're able to provide for him?

I understand about him not wanting to feel left out and buying him something 'from them'.  However, he'll soon learn that's it from you and not them.  As hard as it is, I wouldn't cover up for them.  This is their loss.

((hugs))

Mrs.EmmaLouise

I would not buy anything and pretend it was from my ILs, eff that.  Perhaps when LO is older and aware of being left out they will change their attitude.  I'm sorry they suck

ihearteddieboo

This is me at the thought of your ILs neglecting your LO --

How sad.  But honestly, I would not go out of my way to make your LO think his "other" grandparents are buying him things.  He will know that they don't spend time with him and will figure it all out on his own (which is what happened with my brother and I with our paternal grandparents) and will cherish the time he has with his other grandparents (your parents).  I feel bad for your DH though.  Poor guy.

Amanda78

Mrs.EmmaLouise:

I would not buy anything and pretend it was from my ILs, eff that.  Perhaps when LO is older and aware of being left out they will change their attitude.  I'm sorry they suck

ditto

sept9107bride

it was like this for us when I grew up.  things from mom's side, but nothing from dad's (much less frequent I should say).  my other 2 cousins on my dad's side were showered with things.  I just grew up knowing that's how it was.  don't get yourself in a bad cycle by covering for them.  give them your love and they will grow up knowing that is what is important!

damabo80

That's pretty bad, showing blatant favoritism like that. I wouldn't cover them. It will come back to bite them in the ass later.

Jacquiemark

Amanda78:

Mrs.EmmaLouise:

I would not buy anything and pretend it was from my ILs, eff that.  Perhaps when LO is older and aware of being left out they will change their attitude.  I'm sorry they suck

ditto

Triple