UO Thursday

Daisy77 · November 2011

MrsBoike:
EnglishMajor03:
Daisy77:
Herman Cain and these sexual allegations.....why do these women wait YEARS to say something? Is it because of the presidential campaign? Had he not taken this route in his profession career would they have stayed quiet? In no way am I saying that he shouldn't be held accountable for his actions. It just seems that this stuff happens, years pass, their name gets in the news for something and accusers come out of the woodwork. Not ONE of them spoke up earlier? I'm as chicken as they come yet I would have raised holy hell right away, not sat in the sidelines waiting for the public opportunity.

I disagree- The National Restaurant Assoc. women did speak up when it happened- hence the settlement. And I do think him (or any other politician) running for president should bring people "out of the woodwork" who have founded claims about past moral character issues. I'd rather know that my next President is going to treat everyone decently.
And my last point- through all this scandal- Cain made yet another gaff yesterday night at the debate- calling Nancy Pelosi "Princess Pelosi". How in the world you say that knowing full well the world is associating you with harassment against females is beyond me.

I by no means want to get in a political debate with anyone. However, I have to say I am always torn with these kind of sitauations.
When the victims wait until years later, and coincidently when the person enters the limelight to come out I always fee like there could be something shady going on. Ever thought that maybe another represenative has paid these people to make allegations? Or, these are people who see an oppertunity to get money from someone? I hate to think this way but the world is so full of awful people like this, I can't help it.
Politicians are so shady, I wouldn't put it past them. And unfortunately there is always somone out there trying to get money for doing nothing, even if it is moraly wrong. Lastly, I could be wrong about this, but aren't the allegations that he made unwanted advances at the woman? What difference is that than a man coming up to you in a bar trying to take you home when you don't want to? Do I think it is right that a married man would make unwanted advances at a woman? No. However, if I made an issue about every man that has ever made an unwanted advance toward me, I'd have to live in a bubble.

This is a better way of describing my issue with this Hermann Cain thing. It's not so much a personal thing against him or the women as it is a "Why now?" kind of thing. The timing.

McAllie5 · November 2011

MrsBoike:
angelakh:
There is this wonderful invention called a breast pump. You can pump your breast milk and put it in a cup for your toddler. All I can think of is that video years ago of the like 8 year old girl that still breast fed. I am all for breast milk and the benefits, I just don't think children have to drink it through the boob. IMO, It's like weaning from a bottle.
Well, I feel pretty dumb now. I guess because I didn't BF it never occurred to me that some women pump and give their two year old BM in a cup. So here is another dumb question. My pedi told me that most formulas are made so similar to BM these days. Which is why my DD has seeds in her poo just like a BF baby, he says. So if they say to stop formula and go to cows milk at a year old, why do they not recommend the same for BM? And for the women who DO let the baby still nurse from the breast, how is a natural nipple after a year old any better than a bottle nipple after a year old(referring to babies supposedly needed to drop the bottle at a yr) I am not trying to be snarky, this is just something I really have wondered, but never dared to ask! Thanks!

Apparently, when a baby is drinking from a human nipple, they're using more of a chewing motion. When they're drinking from an artificial nipple, they're using more of a sucking motion. It is recommended (and correct me if I'm wrong because I'm not 100% on this) to wean off the artificial nipple because it is believed that only doing the sucking motion for so long can mess up tooth development.

Also, to ppl recommending just switching to pumping after a certain period of time, well it's not always that easy. My body has never responded well to a pump, and at around 6 months, the breasts regulate themselves to fit the baby's needs. So you produce what baby needs and that's about it. It's hard to suddenly start pumping extra, and even if you switch to exclusively pumping, you may not get as much. The baby is the best breast-emptier. Also, pumping is generally a PITA. So a mom who has been BFing all that time is not likely to want to just hop over to the pump. It's adding a middleman where no middleman is needed.

With all that said, I plan on BFing for a long time, as long as DS wants to. If we're in public and he wants milk from me, I may ask him to wait for a little while and feed him when we get home, or try to give him some solid food first. (I'm picturing this exchange between myself and a 1-2 year old. I'd like DS to self wean, but I may encourage him to wean around 2 years if he's not slowing down.)

McAllie5 · November 2011

EveryNameIWantIsTaken:

My real opinion on this is if that works for you, great, just don't shove it down my throat like I'm a horrible person because it's my choice not to. I know a few people who are so hardcore bf'ing that they now make me uncomfortable to be around because I haven't chosen the same path they do.

I know you're not talking to me, but my last reply may have come off a bit soap-boxy, so I wanted to clarify my own stance.

I am pro BFing, but I support women's choices. I believe that what a mom has to do to be the best mom to her kids is the right thing. If that means BFing, great. If that means FFing, great. If that means cloth diapering or not, co-sleeping or bedsharing or whatever. You do what you have to.

I have no judgement for women who do what they do in the best interests of their children, nor do I think they deserve judgement.

Also, just for the record, I may occasionally BF in public, but I'm not a "whip them out and wave them around" sort of person. I prefer a private space anyways - DS gets so distracted that it can be frustrating trying to get him to focus and eat.

wifeandmama · November 2011

My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?

Sharon21 · November 2011

I am jealous of women that are able to do extended breastfeeding. DD and I got off to a rough start BFing because she was tongue tied so I never established a good supply (even though I tried my damnedest with pump around the clock and nursing vacations). I was able to BF while supplementing with formula for about three months. But whenever I see a women breastfeeding whether it is a 3 month old or a 3 year old, I am jealous.

angelakh · November 2011

wifeandmama:
My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?

I think there is a huge difference between a 14 month old and a 3 year old bfing.

A 14 month old shouldn't have a bottle anyway, I suggested using a cup.

Andrewsgal · November 2011

Hope2Have:
jnksmom:
MrsBoike:

Oh I just know I will be flamed to death for this one...but

It really weirds me out to see moms nursing babies over a year old. I know it is good for them and recommended until 2 and so on. I know all of those facts. But, seeing this talking, walking, fit throwing 2 year old with teeth breast feed is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?

I may get flamed with you but I agree. There is a mom in our moms group that still nurses her DD and she turned 2 in September. She still nurses ANY time her DD asks for it. I totally get nursing at night or to put them to sleep as long as you want but anytime, anywhere at that age is a bit much to me.

My UO is I don't understand the parents who walk into Chick-fil-a(or other fast food place with a play place) and send their kids straight to the play place while they order and then beg/bribe/threathen their child to come out the play place to eat their food. First of all, it makes me nervous for my kids to be out of my sight in a public place. Second, you are the parent why are you begging and/or threatening(but not following through) your child to come to eat. My kids stay with me while I order, eat their food, and then they can play.

I get what you're saying about the play place, I never will beg/threaten my LO to eat, if I say they have to eat, then they have to at least stay at the table... might not force feed them, but I will not beg my LO to do anything.

However, at a play place restaurant... I am the type that always lets my niece and nephew play while we eat, the whole time and don't worry about them eating at all. They'll come to the table, grab a bite and then off to play again, and they can eat on the way home... or when we get home. I think life is short, they have all the time to eat, but play places are too cool to sit and watch other kids play. (I'm talking 4 years old and up, know they small ones need to eat on time and such).

I agree with this. It is laughable to me that people make their kids sit down and eat at a fast food resturant. I love the " finish your chicken nuggets before you go play" wth? Please eat all this fat filled food or you will not be allowed to exercise. Um okay. I always let my kids play the minute I get there and never beg them to eat, if they eat the crap I buy them so be it, it not, even better.

wifeandmama · November 2011

angelakh:
wifeandmama:
My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?
I think there is a huge difference between a 14 month old and a 3 year old bfing.
A 14 month old shouldn't have a bottle anyway, I suggested using a cup.

Again, not busting out the pump. Nursing is just as much for comfort as it is for nutrition for my little guy. If someone wants to nurse a 3 year old, why the hell would I care???

I just have to laugh at the weird things people take "issue" with, especially on The Bump. Get a hobby.

MrsBoike · November 2011

wifeofaussie:
1) Like PP have said, breastfeeding toddlers weirds me out. I don't get not pumping it into a cup (and I both BF'd and pumped so I get the hassle of pumping but it's a brief period in life)
2) I don't get moms strolling through busy parking lots who are oblivious to their small children frolicking 10 yards or so behind. Seriously? Hold their hand or at least keep them where you can see them! So dangerous.
3) I don't get people under 40 who can't figure out the self check lane at the grocery story. Even if you're illiterate, there are pictures and the thing TALKS to you. Why get in that lane and slow it down if you don't know what you're doing?

Oh this!! When I was in high school I worked at Kroger and I worked the U-scan(self checkout). I can't tell you how many people and not just old people, would get in the damn like and huff and puff and act stupid and then ask me to just do it for them! Excuse me, I am running 6 other checkouts and everyone has an issue and you want me to do it for you? Go to a lane that doesn't say USCAN! In addition to this, I do not understand the women that come in with a slew of children and are letting them jump around and sit on the machine. It isn't rocket science on how these tings work. The weigh your items so if you kids are sitting on it every 3 seconds(and I've told you six times that they can't sit on it if she wants to continue to the next item) its going to make my screen go crazy! Control your kids or go somewhere else.

angelakh · November 2011

wifeandmama:
angelakh:
wifeandmama:
My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?
I think there is a huge difference between a 14 month old and a 3 year old bfing.
A 14 month old shouldn't have a bottle anyway, I suggested using a cup.

Again, not busting out the pump. Nursing is just as much for comfort as it is for nutrition for my little guy. If someone wants to nurse a 3 year old, why the hell would I care???
I just have to laugh at the weird things people take "issue" with, especially on The Bump. Get a hobby.

My point is that if you are using the nutrition argument then it is more appropriate to give your 3 year old a cup rather than whipping your breast out in public.

And the thread is "unpopular" opinions, not "let's all stand around in a circle and tell each other how awesome we are".

Andrewsgal · November 2011

angelakh:
wifeandmama:
angelakh:
wifeandmama:
My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?
I think there is a huge difference between a 14 month old and a 3 year old bfing.
A 14 month old shouldn't have a bottle anyway, I suggested using a cup.

Again, not busting out the pump. Nursing is just as much for comfort as it is for nutrition for my little guy. If someone wants to nurse a 3 year old, why the hell would I care???
I just have to laugh at the weird things people take "issue" with, especially on The Bump. Get a hobby.
My point is that if you are using the nutrition argument then it is more appropriate to give your 3 year old a cup rather than whipping your breast out in public.
And the thread is "unpopular" opinions, not "let's all stand around in a circle and tell each other how awesome we are".

Did you not red what she wrote? She said it was for comfort news flash a bottle shoes not provide near the comfort that a snugly mom does. It is so laughable that people care how long others nurse, get a hobby.

angelakh · November 2011

angelakh:
There is this wonderful invention called a breast pump. You can pump your breast milk and put it in a cup for your toddler. All I can think of is that video years ago of the like 8 year old girl that still breast fed. I am all for breast milk and the benefits, I just don't think children have to drink it through the boob. IMO, It's like weaning from a bottle.

This is my original post. At no point did suggest using a bottle as a replacement for soothing. Soothe however you like. I am referencing the nutrition stand point.

I think continuing to comment on my post and then telling me to get a hobby is a bit of the pot calling the kettle black.

Andrewsgal · November 2011

angelakh:
angelakh:
There is this wonderful invention called a breast pump. You can pump your breast milk and put it in a cup for your toddler. All I can think of is that video years ago of the like 8 year old girl that still breast fed. I am all for breast milk and the benefits, I just don't think children have to drink it through the boob. IMO, It's like weaning from a bottle.
This is my original post. At no point did suggest using a bottle as a replacement for soothing. Soothe however you like. I am referencing the nutrition stand point.
I think continuing to comment on my post and then telling me to get a hobby is a bit of the pot calling the kettle black.

Continuing to comment on your post? This is the second time I have commented on it, the hobby one being the first. And you are a whole pile of contradiction she is soothing how she wants with the boob, why does this bother you so bad. Why do you care what she does with her boobs. And the whole pot meet kettle thing was lost on me as it was the first time I commented to you.

susanmosley · November 2011

wifeandmama:
My kid is 14 months old and I still BF. I am not going to start pumping now and introduce a bottle just to make some weirdos happy. I don't know when he'll stop and I"m not some weird hippie - I do what works for my kid. Who gives a sh!t if someone BFs past a year?

whoa - you crossed a line - why the hate towards weird hippies. Leave the dirty hippies out of this!

wifeandmama · November 2011

HAHA, SM. Sorry. I am part-hippie in some ways, yes. But I mean, you wouldn't look at me and say WOW LOOK AT THAT CRAZY MOM BF HER 14 MONTH OLD.

Maybe I should start shaking my boobs in the faces of posters offended by BF past a year. Would that be a better usage of my boobs??

laney75 · November 2011

I don't understand why women who are going into labor have a special hospital gown and insist on having hair and makeup done before/during/after labor. Yes, I realize there will be lots of photos taken, but if there is one time in your life where your appearance doesn't matter, it's during/after childbirth. I don't look at my photos of myself after giving birth and think, oh I'm hideous! I mean, sure I've looked better but come on.

A friend just had her baby and he came a week or so before her scheduled c-section. But still, while having contractions at home, she put on her swimsuit and had her husband spray on her tan before heading to the hospital. WTF???? Who gives a s**%?

nekorayne · November 2011

My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy Stick out tongue So hooray for dirty hippies!!!

I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.

Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!

Deblondie1 · November 2011

scatteredtrees:
Sharon21:
I am jealous of women that are able to do extended breastfeeding. DD and I got off to a rough start BFing because she was tongue tied so I never established a good supply (even though I tried my damnedest with pump around the clock and nursing vacations). I was able to BF while supplementing with formula for about three months. But whenever I see a women breastfeeding whether it is a 3 month old or a 3 year old, I am jealous.

Ditto. I have bf envy.

Me three. I pumped while DD was in the hospital. We never actually breastfed

Andrewsgal · November 2011

MichelleLeigh13:
On a non bf note:

I think people should be required to earn a license before having children. There are too many people having children that should not ? many of them on accident. You should be able to provide for your child and prove that you are capable of raising a healthy relatively well adjusted child before getting pregnant/impregnating someone.

I don?t know how this would work logistically. I?m thinking some kind of mass sterilization that is corrected with a pill after passing the tests. It would never be possible (and probably shouldn?t be possible) but it is nice to dream.

Please tell me you are kidding. If not I think you are one of those who should not breed the stupidity is amazing.

Jes.Pup · November 2011

I am breastfeeding my 31 month old while reading this thread and having a good laugh.

MrsBoike · November 2011

nekorayne:
My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy So hooray for dirty hippies!!!
I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.
Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!

Well FYI, it was my post and and I have a 4 month old AND a 8 year old. Both of them I breastfed for the first month. It wasn't for me. So yes, you were wrong in both statements. I am not judgeing anyone, I just think it is weird when your child can ask for your tit, period. This is UO and that is my opinion. No need to be rude and nasty. I am allowed to voice mine just as well as your are yours.

wifeandmama · November 2011

Andrewsgal:
MichelleLeigh13:
On a non bf note:

I think people should be required to earn a license before having children. There are too many people having children that should not ? many of them on accident. You should be able to provide for your child and prove that you are capable of raising a healthy relatively well adjusted child before getting pregnant/impregnating someone.

I don?t know how this would work logistically. I?m thinking some kind of mass sterilization that is corrected with a pill after passing the tests. It would never be possible (and probably shouldn?t be possible) but it is nice to dream.

Please tell me you are kidding. If not I think you are one of those who should not breed the stupidity is amazing.

I hope she's kidding... that is scary.

Andrewsgal · November 2011

MrsBoike:
nekorayne:
My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy So hooray for dirty hippies!!!
I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.
Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!
Well FYI, it was my post and and I have a 4 month old AND a 8 year old. Both of them I breastfed for the first month. It wasn't for me. So yes, you were wrong in both statements. I am not judgeing anyone, I just think it is weird when your child can ask for your tit, period. This is UO and that is my opinion. No need to be rude and nasty. I am allowed to voice mine just as well as your are yours.

You my dear have just proven yourself to be super klassy, nothing better to do that than use the word tit. Research backs up the fact that those who are educated actually bf I wonder if that is the case here. I am thinking yes.

Hope2Have · November 2011

rmj80:

yikes!! i go to an appt and look what I miss...

My opinion on extended BF (because I know ya'll were waiting for it and everything) is that I think it's great! I may or may not do it myself...we'll see when we get there.

BUT

I will admit seeing women NIP makes me uncomfortable, especially if I see boob. I NIP and encourage others to do so, but I still have to look away until I know everything is covered up. I don't know why...but I can definitely understand someone feeling weirded out by it.

I also can't stand it when people try to shove their propaganda down my throat. (I think EveryName mentioned this) I have a friend that is SO pro BF, CD, eating/cleaning/breathing organic, (you get my drift) that I am officially uncomfortable talking to or being around her...and those are all things I am interested in as well.

When reading your post, I was reading it as "naked in public"... I pictured naked women breastfeeding on public bences... time to walk away from the computer.

Hope2Have · November 2011

MichelleLeigh13:
scatteredtrees:
MichelleLeigh13:

On a non bf note:

I think people should be required to earn a license before having children. There are too many people having children that should not ? many of them on accident. You should be able to provide for your child and prove that you are capable of raising a healthy relatively well adjusted child before getting pregnant/impregnating someone.

I don?t know how this would work logistically. I?m thinking some kind of mass sterilization that is corrected with a pill after passing the tests. It would never be possible (and probably shouldn?t be possible) but it is nice to dream.

Holy shitt. This is a joke... right?

Of course it is a joke. But I got some people talking about something else instead of attacking each other for bfing choices.

Maybe the word mass sterilization is harsh... but the idea of having to pass a test before getting pregnant would be great! I mean, we live in a world where it's sad/scary how babies are being brought into the world... it just is. If you had to pass a test proving that you could afford, love, care for, teach, keep safe... think of what a great world we would have? Like the woman who starved her 4 day old baby to death... wouldn't have happened, and so many others. I used to watch daily people in social services coming into get services after their electricity and other amenities had been turned off, it just isn't right. IMO.

Again, not saying that mass sterilization was a good way to put it, but the test... I think that'd be great.

DreadLoc · November 2011

MrsBoike:
Oh I just know I will be flamed to death for this one...but
It really weirds me out to see moms nursing babies over a year old. I know it is good for them and recommended until 2 and so on. I know all of those facts. But, seeing this talking, walking, fit throwing 2 year old with teeth breast feed is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?

It weirds me out seeing a picture of two people sucking face every time you post. I know it's just kissing and a small picture. I know those facts. But, seeing a picture of it every time you post and the addition of fake earring bling is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?

Sharon21 · November 2011

MrsLacy:
MrsBoike:
Oh I just know I will be flamed to death for this one...but
It really weirds me out to see moms nursing babies over a year old. I know it is good for them and recommended until 2 and so on. I know all of those facts. But, seeing this talking, walking, fit throwing 2 year old with teeth breast feed is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?
It weirds me out seeing a picture of two people sucking face every time you post. I know it's just kissing and a small picture. I know those facts. But, seeing a picture of it every time you post and the addition of fake earring bling is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?

This made me laugh so hard I think I peed a little! Thanks!

nekorayne · November 2011

MrsBoike:
nekorayne:
My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy So hooray for dirty hippies!!!
I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.
Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!
Well FYI, it was my post and and I have a 4 month old AND a 8 year old. Both of them I breastfed for the first month. It wasn't for me. So yes, you were wrong in both statements. I am not judgeing anyone, I just think it is weird when your child can ask for your tit, period. This is UO and that is my opinion. No need to be rude and nasty. I am allowed to voice mine just as well as your are yours.

For the record my son could ask for milk by signing before one...a lot of baby's find ways to ask for it. So should we stop BF our 8 month olds because they found a way to ask? My son learned young how to pull at my shirt as well! Honestly he is more polite about it now then at 8 months when he would just pull my shirt down all the time...I can tell him no and he understands now and signs it in a discreet way even.

I was not specifically meaning you in the statement about moms making judgments that did not BF or have younger LO's. That statement was a blanket statement from my own life as a whole. I have met moms who have chosen not to BF or ones with babies a few months old who truly scold me for BF my 17 month old. The fact is that you just never know the true feeling of doing something, BF my son past one year feels natural to me. Honestly more natural then I expected it to!

My SIL was one of the people who said she would never BF past one year and she weaned her daughter at 3 years old, she admitted to me that she did not know what she was talking about since she only had a baby that was a few months old at the time. I am even saying that when I was a new mom I made assumptions of what I would do in a situation that was different then I actually did.

And I apologized that I thought you never BF, I got you confused with another poster. That comment was not me being rude, I was just curious if you had ever pumped before. And honestly this is my UO so don't get so worried about what I say...I am just staing my opinion that BF a toddler is one of those things you don't get tell you do it! I did not get it until recently! It is a beautiful calm in a hectic day...not for everyone but it is for us!

MrsBoike · November 2011

MrsLacy:
MrsBoike:
Oh I just know I will be flamed to death for this one...but
It really weirds me out to see moms nursing babies over a year old. I know it is good for them and recommended until 2 and so on. I know all of those facts. But, seeing this talking, walking, fit throwing 2 year old with teeth breast feed is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?
It weirds me out seeing a picture of two people sucking face every time you post. I know it's just kissing and a small picture. I know those facts. But, seeing a picture of it every time you post and the addition of fake earring bling is just weird to me. But hey, what's normal, right?

Touche

MrsBoike · November 2011

Andrewsgal:
MrsBoike:
nekorayne:
My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy So hooray for dirty hippies!!!
I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.
Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!
Well FYI, it was my post and and I have a 4 month old AND a 8 year old. Both of them I breastfed for the first month. It wasn't for me. So yes, you were wrong in both statements. I am not judgeing anyone, I just think it is weird when your child can ask for your tit, period. This is UO and that is my opinion. No need to be rude and nasty. I am allowed to voice mine just as well as your are yours.
You my dear have just proven yourself to be super klassy, nothing better to do that than use the word tit. Research backs up the fact that those who are educated actually bf I wonder if that is the case here. I am thinking yes.

Well I didn't realize using the word tit showed your level of class, but that is fine if you feel that way. However, the comment about education is a poor assumption. I have a degree and I teach. It was just a word, sorry if it offended you. I also find it ironic that you are commenting on my lack of education and you spelled classy with a k. Hmmm.

Andrewsgal · November 2011

MrsBoike:
Andrewsgal:
MrsBoike:
nekorayne:
My UO is that I am a weird hippy that BF her 17 month old with no plan on stopping yet. I will admit to being a baby wearing, organic veggy growing, no paper towels in my home hippy So hooray for dirty hippies!!!
I find it laughable that pepole are up in arms about me feeding my son. I also HATE to say this but it is even more laughable when the mom has never BF herself or has a child who is only a few months old. If you don't want to BF then you have a great array of formula and I deffintly think you should have that choice with no judgmnet from me! If you want to wean then you can defiantly do that without an issue... guess what I will hold your hand while you talk about the frusteration of sore boobs and bring you cold cabbage leaves! And if I want to BF my son tell 2 + then I can do that as well as long as my body and his is happy doing so. We should all just do what is best for our child and honestly if you don't have a BF toddler then you don't get it...I can say this because I DID NOT GET IT when my child was itty bitty.BF a special thing my son and I shared and we still are not ready to give it up, plain and simple.
Besides it is recommended tell 2 now so how is this any different then other recommendations such as rear facing car seats and such?If you don't want to then don't...no judgment from me.

And for the record I don't respond well to the pump and since I am a SAHM I never worked with it. Like PP said you don't magically get to start pumping a year later. Was I wrong that the mom who said to just pump said she never BF, or did I read this wrong? Pumping is a lot harder for some and I APPLAUD those women who do it daily!
Well FYI, it was my post and and I have a 4 month old AND a 8 year old. Both of them I breastfed for the first month. It wasn't for me. So yes, you were wrong in both statements. I am not judgeing anyone, I just think it is weird when your child can ask for your tit, period. This is UO and that is my opinion. No need to be rude and nasty. I am allowed to voice mine just as well as your are yours.
You my dear have just proven yourself to be super klassy, nothing better to do that than use the word tit. Research backs up the fact that those who are educated actually bf I wonder if that is the case here. I am thinking yes.
Well I didn't realize using the word tit showed your level of class, but that is fine if you feel that way. However, the comment about education is a poor assumption. I have a degree and I teach. It was just a word, sorry if it offended you. I also find it ironic that you are commenting on my lack of education and you spelled classy with a k. Hmmm.

Klassy with a k is a bump thing I by no means misspelled it

Hope2Have · November 2011

I'm sure nobody will read this, maybe best if it isn't.... but responding to those who said they were still bfing their 2 or 3 year old toddlers, that's your business... but to say they do it for comfort, at 3 years old shouldn't they be finding other ways to confort themselves besides sucking on their mom's breasts? At what point do you teach other self soothe ways to comfort? I mean that in the nicest way, but will you still be letting your little boy (no longer baby, or toddler for that matter) bf? Just wondering.

wifeandmama · November 2011

Hope2Have:
I'm sure nobody will read this, maybe best if it isn't.... but responding to those who said they were still bfing their 2 or 3 year old toddlers, that's your business... but to say they do it for comfort, at 3 years old shouldn't they be finding other ways to confort themselves besides sucking on their mom's breasts? At what point do you teach other self soothe ways to comfort? I mean that in the nicest way, but will you still be letting your little boy (no longer baby, or toddler for that matter) bf? Just wondering.

Do you really care??? Does it matter hwo a 3 year old finds comfort to you personally?

I was kinda judgemental when I had one tiny baby. Then I realized it didn't matter what others did, as long as my family was happy and healthy.

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