Does anybody else believe in fate?

Robeano

Just wondering...

I guess I kinda believe in fate. I believe things happen for a reason at the right time.

The reason I ask is cuz I'm still not pg, but I do know two truths, I need to lose more weight and we're not finanically close to being able to have a kid. As in, if I went on mat leave we wouldn't make enough money to cover our bills

Part of me feels like fate is not letting me have a baby until I get those two things under control.

But MORE likely those are the only two things I actually have control over so it gives me something to hold on to cuz I find you feel so helpless with IF. Anybody else have similar feelings?

jessa8909

Yes, we were in a financial bind this summer when my husband got laid off and I told myself we didn't get pregnant then because of our situation. Now that we have everything worked out I hope it happens soon! Good luck to you!

D&J1202

I believe in fate as well. My mother always taugh us everything happens for a reason but it is hard to find the reason sometimes. Right now I am not 100% what that is but I am sure we will find out.I say take controll of what you can to make it easier when you do get ku.

TJ1979

I totally believe in fate.  Both serious things like you mentioned, and also silly little things.  Maybe more luck than fate, but stupid things like wearing a specific pair of socks to my IUI because I think they're lucky, or finding some sort of reason why each cycle day is important, like it's someone's birthday or some anniversary.  But it helps me to think that something somewhere has a plan.

kaleidoskpeyez

I don't call it "fate" per se (I prefer divine providence), but I know what you're talking about.

Last night, DH came home and said that the Air Force is sending him to Alabama during June and July. If I had gotten KU this cycle, my EDD would have been July 21, which means he would have missed the last two months of my pregancy and the birth of our child(ren). While this absolutely would have been manageable, it certainly wouldn't have been ideal.

I understand where you're coming from. And, as far as your situation goes, I hope you're right, and getting those two things under control will lead to your BFP.

theskyandback

I do. When I look back upon all the things that have happened in the past I can see reasons for them. It's sometimes hard to lose sight of when things get really rough, though.

MsGMChick

jalara48:

Not really, but that's just because life has made me cynical. I am a very cynical person, and I blame IF.

This. Sigh. 

Trish11278

I do believe in fate.  I completely believe that everything happens for a reason.  Even though I have yet to find the reason for my m/c but God might not ever show me the reason for that.

I don't have a reason for all this crap we are all going through but I do know there has been some positives that have come from it.  1)  My faith and relationship with God has become stronger.  2)  I am a much stronger person than I ever gave myself credit for.  3) DH and I have never been closer.

AKB090609

I don't know if I believe in fate as much as my family always believed it finding the reaso why XYZ happened. I may be hard to identify the reason when you are in the situation, but I feel like looking for reason or at the very least a lesson that was learned from the experience makes dealing with hardship less hard and teaches you to apreciate why good things happen.

zookbride

I know a lot of IFers hate to hear it, but I almost always stand by the reasoning that "everything happens for a reason" how else do you explain everything that happens?

If we would have gotten pg back in March with my first Femara cycle, I would have been pg during the tornado outbreak (the first which hit our house). Its taken up until just this month to finally have our house back together (granted our stuff is still not moved back in yet). 

How stressed out would I have been if I was pg during all this house reconstruction mess? I count my blessing that the tornado hit the day before I was to start on our next cycle of Femara, b/c otherwise we would have wasted that cycle of meds. 

No one likes to think bad things happen for a reason... but I do have to say that through all the tragedy of the tornadoes, our community has become closer and a lot of good has come from it. 

Robeano

Thank you for sharing everybody, I find comfort in the fact that I am not alone in my thinkings.

Well a new cycle means another month to hopefully lose 10lbs (well that's the goal lol)

pantsarella

I most certainly believe in fate, and I believe that we've never gotten pregnant before because we weren't in the right financial or relationship point in our lives. But we're financially stable (very much so) and our relationship has never been better. I'm hoping that maybe when I start my new job and I have a lot more free time, it will happen.

MandaS08

I'm kind of in the middle.  I do feel like there is greater plan, that I can't see or understand and I have to put my faith in God.  But on the other hand, when bad things happen that are seemingly random I tend to feel like some of what happens is just luck-bad or otherwise.  I know before IF and our losses I totally believed that everything happens for a reason, and now I think that most of the time that's true, but sometimes things just happen.