Don't care for my baby's name...

BillieB123

A while back I had my first LO and the debate of what his name would be was beyond ridiculous! It was a battle between DH and I for months. He wanted to use a name that had been in the family (their family has a strong heritage line & it's "a big deal" to them). I initially didn't mind the name but the fact that it was being forced kind of got to me. After arguing and trying to come up with something we both liked, we ended up sticking with the name he had chosen.

Here is the problem : I don't feel like LO looks ANYTHING like the name. I know that they always say the name ends up suiting perfectly and you couldn't ever imagine anything different...but, unfortunately, that doesn't seem like the case for me. I don't know what to do. It's not like I have the option of changing my 7 month old's name...do I?

I just figured I'd share for those of you who have a debate with family, make sure you are choosing what YOU love...it's YOUR baby.

(I chose not to include his name because it's quite original and this thread would be easily found if searched for)

kerribear1717

Would you like to give him a nick name that only you use or something?  I had a co-work once that called her daughter Izzy.  The girl's name was Skye.  So no relation, she said she just started calling her daughter that when she was little and it stuck for her.  Her daughter was 13 and still was called Izzy (I'm guessing mainly by the mom).

And yes you could change the name.  However getting DH on board might be very difficult now.

kgreek

I lurke way more than I post.. but I just wanted to say that SO and I came to sort of an agreement on DS's middle name because I absolutely hated SO's pick. And for almost a year I did not like the name and wished so badly I could go back and change it and now, I love it, it suits my son and I am very happy we chose it. Hopefully in time, when your LO sprouts more of a personality, the name will suit him more and you'll like it more and more.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Reason #538 why I don't like carrying on name traditions.

BillieB123

Thanks, both suggestions are actually pretty helpful. He may grow into it, and if not...a nickname is a great idea!

treble_clef

I felt that way when my son was about your son's age.  When we found out I was pregnant with him, my FIL passed away, so my husband wanted to honor him.  So, he chose the name, and although I wasn't 100% satisfied, it was definitely a good name, so I agreed.  I couldn't argue against honoring my FIL.  Once our son was born, he didn't look anything like that name, either!  We turned in the paper work at the hospital right away, so it became his legal name, but for months I wanted to change his name.  Fast forward 4 1/2 years...I love my son's name now;)  We call him by his nick name most of the time, but still, he has a good first and middle name.  They are not cutesy little boy names, but we spend most of our lives being adults, so I know he will grow into it perfectly.  I get a lot of compliments on his names too.

On the side note, my husband who insisted on honoring his father now likes his nick name, which I gave him, better...:b lol!  So with this baby, I'm going to have a little more say in naming decisions:)

KKWISC

We had a similar situation with my son. It was just known that when we had a son it would be named after DH and FIL. But I got to choose the NN. So his full name is long and obnoxious and should only be on a resume, I love his nn.

FN Jon E James K.... III   (And no the E does not stand for anything)

NN JJ

vanillacourage

You can type out the name l*i*k*e t*h*i*s and it won't be searchable.

I'd just start calling him a nickname or permutation on his name.

Thankful1000

FWIW, I babysat a girl who was 8 months old when the parents decided to change her name.  Her original name was Mia and I came over to babysit and called her that and then the parents took me aside and said her name is now Eden.  I was slightly weirded out but they explained that they didn't feel at peace with the chosen name and they wanted to change it so they did legally.  You CAN if you want to!  It didn't end up being weird after the fact.... I just didn't see it coming.  And now I can't imagine any other name for the girl.