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libbyann
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Holy geeze, my in-laws are crazy.
libbyann
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My DH's grandma posted that on a Halloween picture I put up of Will and DH. My in-laws and I had a blow-out fight about 2 months before our wedding and things have never been the same since. Over the past year, DH's relationship with his parents has deteriorated due to things they've done, so we haven't gone to visit much. Before that, finances prevented us from going b/c we honestly couldn't afford the gas to and from Houston. But they're more than capable of making a trip to Austin too, ya know.
I'm SO pissed about this comment...even if we were 100% in the wrong, it's inappropriate to put that on someone's public FB wall!! I'm going to delete it and I'm going to address it with his grandma, but I'm not sure what to say. I'm definitely going to let her know that if she puts a public comment like that up again, I'll be removing her from my friends list. But what else would you say?
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Re: Holy geeze, my in-laws are crazy.
Ehhh she's old. I wouldn't expect old people to get the social etiquette of Facebook.
Has she ever done anything to you guys? Or is it just his parents?
I wouldn't say ANYTHING. It looks like your DH has already chimed in (good for him) so I would let him deal with it since it is his side of the family.
But, yeah, I would probably delete the comment from your page.
She's not old enough to blame that on - she's very much "with" it and is on FB more than I am...I'm 100% positive she knows that is not something acceptable to post on FB. The fights have included all of us, not just his parents. The whole family.
All of this. But yeah, that's crazy.
FWIW, I was going to email, not post on FB. I think it's all the sh*t that has been going on lately - I'm so tired of their snide comments about parenting, etc. [all of them, not just the parents or the grandparents] and want it to quit!
Hmm. Okay. I agree with MMT then, your DH has already said it. Delete the comments and leave it to him.
Sorry, FB and family drama sucks. I had my aunt defriend me - and a whole lotta others - because of some FB drama last year.
So So SO passive aggressive. We deal with this a lot with my MIL, but her not seeing her grandbabies is all on her. Thank GOD she doesn't have a computer and know how to use facebook or else she'd be posting stuff like this all the time.
If she is, indeed, "with it" and gets facebook, then I would think that your DH's comment should suffice - it's very clear to me at least. I'd most definitely delete the comment, and just move on. If you actually care to improve the relationship with your IL's then I'd write something to her via email, but if not I'd just let it go. No need to add fuel to the fire.
This is how they all are. So passive aggressive all the time. I hate it b/c I'm not one to mince words and I speak my mind, even if if gets me in trouble. And we are always to blame for them not being a part of Will's life. I've never stood in the way of them seeing him; no, I don't want to see them and I'd be perfectly happy never seeing them again, but I'm not going to keep them from their grandchild unless they do something to HIM.
*sigh* I don't want to be a bigger person. I want call her out...I want to call them all out, lol.
You know what? Do it. Screw being the bigger person.
My aunt defriended me last year because I finally stopped ignoring everything and I called them out on FB. I haven't spoken to her since - and that does make me sad - but I don't need her drama in my life. She's also ignoring my kids now but they don't need her crap in their lives either. She may not have ever hurt them directly. But if she's willing to put this crap on me, then there's no reason why she wouldn't do it to them someday. I'm not about to sit around and wait for the day they get hurt. I'll cut these people out of my life first.
That's just my take though. I've had so much crap with family that I'm completely over it. I know that many others don't feel the same way.
If you want to call her out, do it. Just be prepared for whatever additional drama it may cause. If you don't mind that (or feel that it would be worth it) then tell her what you think. I think it's ridiculous that she put that on FB. Sometimes, I just don't understand people.
FWIW, I'm sorry your in-laws are crazy. That sucks and I've yet to figure out a good way to deal with crazy families.
I deal with this exact same problem with my MIL. All of her comments are like that, "Happy birthday, DAUGHTER. I wish I had been invited to celebrate it with you."
So, the mature person in me went the passive aggressive route right back
I just blocked her from seeing most of my Facebook activity. Actually, I did that about a year before DD was born. I've been allowing her access to see pictures of the baby. She's only made one obviously rude comment, which I immidiately deleted. I think she realized WHY she was being blocked. Now she keeps her passive agressive comments to DH's text inbox. If he wants to take that sh*t it's his problem.