wedding dilemma...

crystaleyes39

So, I have written about this already but I have been experiencing contractions/ braxton hicks lately whenever i'm on my feet. I saw my OB today and my cervix is still closed and showing no signs of PTL. He said that I should take it easy as much as possible but i'm not technically on bed rest. Me just being paranoid have decided to work from home now and keep my feet up as much as possible since it's more comfortable and i'm not contracting then.

Anyways...I have a wedding coming up on Nov. 19th only 20 min from the house for a close friend that I do not want to miss. My doctor is seeing me one more time before then to check my cervix again, but gave me no reason i cant go as long as i'm not up dancing and stuff. I feel like i'm super worried about it, but really do want to go. What would you guys do?

curlywhirly

Go and take it easy while you are there. It's only 20 minutes away, so if you start to feel bad or start to contract while you are there, then head home. Certainly no one can fault you for that! If I were in your shoes, I think I'd feel bad missing a good friend's wedding while I wasn't showing any signs of PTL. Enjoy the wedding

SweetBijou

I think you can go.  I went to one when I was 7 months along and I just made sure to sit most of the time.  You don't have to stay for a really long time, but you can go for a bit!

kelliwill

I say listen to your body and if you think you can make it and sit while you are there then go.  Don't push it though.  I was in your shoes with BH and closed cervix and I was placed off work at 24 weeks, 4 weeks sooner than I had planned.  I was doing very well until 28 weeks when I had my own baby shower 1 hr away and ended up in the hospital that night contracting badly.  but if you are doing well as of your next check and things still look good, it's close enough to home that you can leave if you have to.

crystaleyes39

kelliwill:

I say listen to your body and if you think you can make it and sit while you are there then go.  Don't push it though.  I was in your shoes with BH and closed cervix and I was placed off work at 24 weeks, 4 weeks sooner than I had planned.  I was doing very well until 28 weeks when I had my own baby shower 1 hr away and ended up in the hospital that night contracting badly.  but if you are doing well as of your next check and things still look good, it's close enough to home that you can leave if you have to.

 

I agree w/ you, I think i'll see how next weeks appointment goes and play it by ear with how i'm feeling. The babies are definitely number 1 priority.

You said you had similar BH start early on....how long until after they started (with the closed cervix) did you actually deliver?? Did you find the bed rest helped you?

flutepharm87

I would still go. As long as you're not in the wedding and catering to the bride's needs all day, you'll probably be sitting the whole time. You'll sit through the ceremony and dinner at the reception and if you don't dance at the reception, you should be fine. If you're in the wedding (which it doesn't sound like), ask to be excused from bridesmaid duties, walk down the aisle and sit in the front row during the ceremony and don't join in on any bridal party dances during the reception. If you feel bad during the wedding, just leave. Let the bride know what's going on so she won't be upset if you have to bail. Try and say good-bye to her if you're leaving early, but you should probably be fine if you're listening to your body. Have fun!

amanda31H

I agree with PP.

The funny thing about pregnancy is that things can change dramatically from one day to the next.  You won't really know until the day is upon you, so give yourself that day to make the decision.

finallyreilly

Definitely go if you can.  I went to a wedding at 33 weeks and had a nice time.  It was really the last time DH and I had a chance to get out before the babies were born.  It was fun to be around all of our friends.  I took it easy and left when I started to feel tired and uncomfortable.  I let the bride know before we had to RSVP that I was a day to day decision at the point and she was fine with it.