Anyone's Parents or ILs Use Your Kids' Picture for Christmas Card?

amanda31H

I'm just wondering.

Yesterday MIL said she needed my kids to come over because she wanted to pose them on these rocking horses she has and take their picture to send out for her holiday card.

I don't have a problem with it...I just found it funny.  She has another grandchild born this year...but just my girls will be in the christmas card. 

kelliwill

No.  But I have a family friend who does this every year.  She is a friend of my mom's and she always sends a card with her granddaughters on it.  I personally think it's kind of weird.....JIMO!  

PianoPlayingSarah

My mom sends a picture of all of her grandkids in her holiday cards.  I would find it odd if she wanted a picture of just my kids and not her other grandkids. 

MrsLnt

I wouldn't allow it. They're not her kids and I find it weird when other people try to lay "ownership" on someone else's children.

WaitingforGrace

My mother in law took a picture off of my facebook of the girls, added party hats to their heads and then printed it out as my birthday card. Um, thanks?

My pet peeve is that she keeps buying DH presents from the girls. Like for his birthday she bought a birthday card and gift for him from the girls. I think that as his wife and their mother, that's my job. He says its just her excuse to buy more presents. Every year we get Christmas presents from her and her dogs.

hellomysunshine

Last year my MIL did... LOs were born 11/30, and our Christmas card was also a birth announcement. With the craziness of having two newborns at home, we didn't get our cards out until 12/20 or so - in the meantime, MIL sent out her cards with our babies pictures on them. I was SO mad, especially since the family got her cards before they got ours. Actually, a year later, and I'm still not really over that one...

Regardless of the fact that she sent hers out before we sent ours out, I still think it's weird.

ougrad1

That would hurt my feelings if I were the other parent.  My aunt has a picture of Emerson on her FB avatar thing.  It doesn't bother me.  I actually think it's very complimentary.

JesseKhloe&Me

I totally see my MIL trying this. I definitely believe they need to ask permission first!!

meagamomma2be

my parents put everyone on the Christmas card (them, me, my bro, our spouses, and the 5 grandchildren).  However, I do think it's weird to have only 2 of the 3 grandchildren on the card.

MagPie08

MrsLnt:

I wouldn't allow it. They're not her kids and I find it weird when other people try to lay "ownership" on someone else's children.

I feel the same way. 

violaplayer

MIL is but that's only because we are using the same cards as a family. I designed them - she paid. Sounds fair to me. :P

kelliwill

hellomysunshine:

Last year my MIL did... LOs were born 11/30, and our Christmas card was also a birth announcement. With the craziness of having two newborns at home, we didn't get our cards out until 12/20 or so - in the meantime, MIL sent out her cards with our babies pictures on them. I was SO mad, especially since the family got her cards before they got ours. Actually, a year later, and I'm still not really over that one...

Regardless of the fact that she sent hers out before we sent ours out, I still think it's weird.

OMG!  I would be SO mad!  That is kinda crazy!   

amanda31H

First of all - hellomysunshine- I'd be FREAKING PISSED!!!!!!!

Thanks all for responding.  I've never seen anyone send out a holiday card with ONLY pictures of their grandchildren.  So that's originally why it struck me as odd.  After she mentioned it, I really tried to picture what my reaction would have been had my mom said she wanted to do it....and I still think I would have found it odd.

Not including my SIL's baby is just weird.  And I think I'll say something if she doesn't somehow figure out how to work her in to the photo, or include a separate one.  Wondering also now if my SIL said "no."

DH and I have been at odds with my MIL (obviously, based on my IL post) for the last couple of weeks, so I also don't want to add one more thing to the pot if it really doesn't matter in the long run....but like MagPie and Mrs Lnt said, it kind of struck me as taking ownership.  Some of the things we've been fighting about have prompted me to say to DH "They aren't her kids, they're ours!"  So I wonder if this is one more thing on her part, or if I'm being sensitive because of the other stuff that's been going on.

Hmmm.....I'm just going to ride this one out and see if it comes up again.  DH didn't seem to have a problem, so I may just let this go to try and keep the peace.  The fighting with his parents has been hard on both of us, and I'd like to be the one that's  being more flexible and compromising since she isn't.