6 weeks PP and hes ready to leave..

mamastich

My LO is 6 weeks old and my husband and me were fighting a few days and he told me he had cheated in june and was overall pretty distant the last few months. We had some good moments but were definatly struggling. He told me he wanted to separate and that turned into a divorce now were back to separting. Were in VA because hes in the navy and we decided we would be goign back to CA in feb when he gets out, now im leaving to ca in a month when my sister moves out so i wont be alone... Im obviously feeling alot of things but most of I never thought Id be doing this alone and its really hard to swallow. I dont know what Im looking for here yet and I just needed to vent to people who can imagine..

Also Im over talking to my family about... everyone wants to hate him and Im not so sure I do yet. sorry for rambling

posiewozie

Hi,

 

I've been there, I was in a 6 year relationship and we were fighting all the time especially after our son was born. He would go out for "alone" time because he was "soo" stressed. Things got so bad I left and I still love him and my family is completely "anti-him" but I do what I have to to maintain the relationship between him and my son. It's hard and I never thought that I'd have to do it on my own but your baby will help you through it. I still feel angry sometimes but most of all I am grateful. Grateful that I have my son and he is wonderful and I love him so much that nothing else matters. You will make it with him or without

 

MsJosie

I feel for you and I'm sorry to hear about your story. I left my ex when I was 4 months pregnant due to his drug use and abusing me while I was pregnant. I was living with him in California and moved back home to Illinois. I was terrified of raising a baby and doing it all alone. But, I can tell you that it was the BEST thing I could have done. All you have to do is keep your head up and be strong for your little LO and this too shall pass. It's not easy and I was depressed for months but then I decided one day to not let him get into my head anymore and move on. I'm very happy for the decision I made to be strong enough to leave and get out of an abusive relationship to protect not only myself but my daughter too! She and I are completely happy and living our lives. It brings me such joy knowing that she is growing up in a drug free environment and I don't have to worry about her getting abused. I'm here for you if you feel you need to vent more.

LadyLissame

It is hard. DS was 4 weeks old when his dad and I separated, and 2 months old when he said he wanted a divorce. My STBXH also cheated while I was pregnant.

It's not easy. I spent a lot of time wondering what was wrong with me. It clicked recently that it wasn't me, it was him. You can do this by yourself. When I found out about the affair, I didn't think I could either. But over time, you realize you are better off without that added stress.

PrincessFiona9

It's hard, but you can do it! Don't discuss any arguments etc or talk down about EX with your family, because that will just make things harder.

Raspberry807

Sorry to hear this is happening to you and your LO... I was in a similar situation (the cheating and my family didn't like him) and my ex asked me to take the kids and leave when my youngest was 6 weeks old.  It was hard, and took me a while to realize we were better off on our own, but after the first six months things got a lot better and I was able to move on.

A year later I bought my house.  Now it's 4 years later and I have a SO that is wonderful to me and awesome with my kids.  Today I look back and I am confident we are where we are supposed to be, and I'm glad it's not with him!  Message me if you ever want to talk, I've been there.  GL

lilhotcandie69

Rely on your family and friends. The individuals you can trust and rely on no matter what. They will help you through the hard times. GL sweetie. Your in my prayers.

mamastich

thanks for all the support... he decided he didnt want to try and he left. he doesnt want anything to do w me or baby. a week ago i was happily married and now i have no car, house and im selling all the stuff to get enough money to move home.

the things i dont understand.. how does he just flip a switch? all of a sudden hes a whole nother person.

to the ladies who said i could pm them, i will

posiewozie

you can pm me if you want

MsJosie

You can pm me too if you'd like. I had to leave California when I was 4 months pregnant to move back home to Illinois (living with my parents). It's not easy but WAY BETTER than what I was in!!!!