I'm starting to freak out a little bit

Rachypierce

So here's my situation. Having a home birth is extremely important to me. Which I am having one but here's my little problem. My midwife is leaving the country the day after my EDD for missionary work. I have a back up plan kind of for if I'm late. I can either drive to the birth center she works part time at in a town an hour and a half away or have a back up midwife type lady who I've never met deliver at my house. We'll probably go with the second choice, which is fine because I'll still get my home birth. But I really love my midwife! I am so nervous that I'm going to be late, especially since everyone keeps telling me I'm going to be. If I hear "oh you're going to have a thanksgiving baby" one more time I just might punch the person who says it. Anyways my due date is next Thursday. I'm going to go see my midwife today so she can check if I'm dilated at all so she can do a stretch and sweep I think. I'm so nervous I won't be dilated at all. I feel like this baby is never going to come! Everyday I freak out a little more that I am gonna go past my due date. Ahh ok I'm gonna try and stop freaking out now. I just really need someone besides my DH to tell me it's going to be ok.

missbritt77

It will be OK!  

hannahbagels

It will all be ok!! 

Can you meet the other midwife before hand? So then if you do go past your due date, you'll be more comfortable with her? Maybe you'll like her even better!

pinksweetpea2

Honestly, it is very likely that you are going to go past your EDD and most MWs (at least homebirth ones) tell FTMs to expect it.  

I am VERY surprised that your MW has not discussed this situation with your more before now.   Did she know that this trip was coming so close to your EDD?  My MW would have never taken a patient with a EDD so close to a trip like this...and if it had come up after accepting a patient, she would have taken a lot of measures to get them set up with someone else.   

I would ask that the other MW attend your next apt. so you have a chance to get to know her a bit before giving birth.  Your MW should be doing EVERYTHING she can to get you set up and comfortable for a homebirth- even if she is not going to be there.  

You should not have to choose between a birth center and a stranger just because your MW did not do a good job with her scheduling.  I personally would be more pissed than nervous at this point...but that is how I roll when I am pregnant.  

GL