How much of ur c-section did u get to watch?

Jocelbug

I have been in the funeral business my whole life. i do not have a weak stomach. since i was little i always wanted a c-section and i always wanted to watch the baby come out. I want to watch the baby coming out of my belly because i feel like its wonderful and amazing and they let moms having vag births watch in a mirror (and that to me would be way more upsetting) and i feel like its only fair that i get to watch as well. will they let me do this? im gonna ask my OB, but its probably too early to get him to seriously talk about the procedure just yet. im only 13 weeks.

kmain1103

Do you know for sure if you need to have a C-Section....some doctors won't do elective C-Sections.  I found out I definitely will be having one and I agree with you, it would be very cool to watch!!

Jocelbug

I have always wanted one, so that was actually the first question i asked at my first appointment. Already ok-ed it with my OB. He measured me and said i was too narrow anyway. Im gonna ask my OB about this. Im probably not gonna get a serious answer out of him about anything procedure-wise until closer to my due date tho....

Jocelbug

where did u get ur info EllaHella? yes they can. OBs measured my momma and my grandma too. we are all under 5'3" with boys hips. My OB said my pelvic girdle wont spread wide enuff to pass a normal baby's head, even after the bones separate. Insurance wouldnt cover it if my OB didnt measure me first. I would be having a c/s even if i wasnt too narrow. i dont want to give birth vaginally. and that wasnt part of my question.

Linz29

I also asked for a c-section at my first appt and thankfully had one.  Don't worry, there are always those who will put you down for choosing a c/s.  As for your question, I think it depends on the hospital.  I had a drape up so I could not see the surgery but as soon as my son was pulled out they held him up to show me, then they had the NICU team check him ( he was early due to PIH) and then they gave him to my DH and was right next to me while I was being stitched up.  Good luck!

ChiTown Bridget

None of it. And my hospital won't allow camcorders into the OR. And I don't know of any doctors that will let you watch it. They have that drape up over you for a reason.

pepomntpat

ChiTown Bridget:

None of it. And my hospital won't allow camcorders into the OR. And I don't know of any doctors that will let you watch it. They have that drape up over you for a reason.

Actually while I agree this post as the ring of MUD to it, there are doctors who allow you to watch your LO being born.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5RIcaK98Yg

FYI, this is a graphic video, but it's great! 

cottonlily84

I'm also a looker and liked being awake during my surgeries.  But I had an urgent c/s so it wasn't like there was time to plan a viewing LOL  I have seen women on TV ask for a mirror, and actually get one.  Sometimes you can see a bit of the surgery in the reflection of the overhead lights or ask them to drop the curtain right before LO is born so you can see that part.  I'm sure if I had asked for anything like that they would've said no because like I said mine was all business.  I had the sheet draped immediately right under my chin.  They wouldn't let DH in until I was opened up because my spinal wasn't working right.  Then they wouldn't let him take pictures because the baby was early and could've had serious problems.  A mirror was probably out of the question!  I was hurting and felt so bad from the IV meds I could hardly stay conscious; paying any attention to the operation was impossible.  And you can do what you want but after having a c/s if I had to do that again I just wouldn't have any more children.  It is NOT a picnic; it hurts like hell even with the drugs!

misskristina21

I didn't get to watch any of mine, but I really didn't want to. I honestly can't figure out why anyone would want to see their insides..but to each their own.

I honestly didn't know you could ask for a c-section, my OB said it was considered a "major surgery", and I didn't realize they could be elective. I wanted a vaginal birth, but a happy with how my daughter got here.

moonfaerie

Jocelbug:

where did u get ur info EllaHella? yes they can. OBs measured my momma and my grandma too. we are all under 5'3" with boys hips. My OB said my pelvic girdle wont spread wide enuff to pass a normal baby's head, even after the bones separate. Insurance wouldnt cover it if my OB didnt measure me first. I would be having a c/s even if i wasnt too narrow. i dont want to give birth vaginally. and that wasnt part of my question.

Whatevs. Height has nothing to do with a woman's ability to give birth. Petite women have been giving birth vaginally forever. Unless their OB got their degree from a Cracker Jack box, this is MUD.

shibby00

I didn't see anything.  Didn't see DD until she was wrapped up and in a hat.  Insert sad face here.

Sheazier

I am having an elective c-section. My OB and I agree: my body, my choice.  My OB said I could not watch.  Hospital policy. Perhaps your hospital has a different policy?

Shoshi10

I didn't see anything. They told DH to stand up and watch DD come out and he later said he wished he hadn't.

hopkins5

GhostMonkey:

Jocelbug:

where did u get ur info EllaHella? yes they can. OBs measured my momma and my grandma too. we are all under 5'3" with boys hips. My OB said my pelvic girdle wont spread wide enuff to pass a normal baby's head, even after the bones separate. Insurance wouldnt cover it if my OB didnt measure me first. I would be having a c/s even if i wasnt too narrow. i dont want to give birth vaginally. and that wasnt part of my question.

No they can't. I wouldn't trust anything medical that has been relied on since my grandmother's day. There is a plethora of research backing that your extrenal measurement is irrelevant. It's the size of your pelvic inlet and there is no way to measure that externally. You don't know if you can deliver or not until you try.

 

I'm with GhostMonkey. Claiming to be too small for a vaginal birth is a crock, and certainly not a good reason to choose an elective c/s. My MIL is 5 feet even and under 100 lbs with "boys hips" and successfully delivered twins, as well as two other kids, all vaginally. There's no way of knowing if your pelvis is wide enough until you try.

Jocelbug

OK--if u dont have anything helpful or constructive to say DONT ANSWER THIS POST. WTF is a MUD, and whatever it is, stop calling me that, cause im sure its not nice. I dont give a what u think about me having a c-section. the question was if u had one, how much were u able to see. i never said my height was the problem, i said my hips are the problem. dystochia and breech babies run rampant in our family. as for the bit one PP shared about grandma giving birth to twins---im having ONE baby, Im not ur freaking grandma, and babies were a lot smaller back then! and twins are almost always preterm and smaller to begin with so im sure ur grandma was able to give birth to twins easily because they were small with small heads and shoulders and preterm and in the regular birthing position! 

Try this one for size: I dont wanna try to give birth vaginally, i have no desire to give birth that way. its my body and my choice. Also-- IM NOT RIPPING UP MY VAG ONLY TO HAVE THIS BABY CRAMMED BACK UP IN ME AND HAVE MY BELLY CUT OPEN SO MIND UR OWN DAMN BUSINESS. I dont go around and tell yall how gross and insane i think yall are for having a vag birth do i?? u dont see me being bitchy to u for going thru 32 hours of back labor only to have forceps or a vacuum tear ur baby outta u with a mangled head, causing 4th degree tears to ur perineum, do i?? NO. Save ur bitchiness for ur SO or ur friends. I didnt ask for it.

Jocelbug

And a big thank u to the ladies who did answer the actual question. i appreciate yall. I hate these damn birth boards. I hardly get straight forward answers cause it seems like these women spend more time criticizing me for things that arent their business or that dont have anything to do with the actual question instead of giving me useful information. The ladies on here for the most part are a constant reminder of y i dont like women. Im so glad my DH has had 3 kids before we got married so i can rely on him for most of my information and advice. The rest of the advice i get from grandma. shes about the only woman i actually do like. no offense intended to u rational awesome ladies and my fellow tomboys!!!

Sheazier

Jocelbug:

And a big thank u to the ladies who did answer the actual question. i appreciate yall. I hate these damn birth boards. I hardly get straight forward answers cause it seems like these women spend more time criticizing me for things that arent their business or that dont have anything to do with the actual question instead of giving me useful information. The ladies on here for the most part are a constant reminder of y i dont like women. Im so glad my DH has had 3 kids before we got married so i can rely on him for most of my information and advice. The rest of the advice i get from grandma. shes about the only woman i actually do like. no offense intended to u rational awesome ladies and my fellow tomboys!!!

There was some mix-up in communication among my insurance company, my doctor and me and it is possible that the insurance will not cover my elective c-section.  I am not willing to pay for the surgery out-of-pocket.  I am 33 weeks and, like you, have always knows that, if I were to become pregnant, I would prefer a c-section to a vaginal birth.  I am absolutely terrified of vaginal childbirth.  I have anxiety attacks where my chest tightens and I become short of breath just thinking of labor, tearing, stretching, burning, pushing, etc.  I would much rather spend months recovering from an abdominal surgery if the pain of those months would spare me from a vaginal delivery.  I have had nightmares about childbirth since I was a teenager (and I am nearing 30 now).  I understand your views.  I think everyone should be able to have the birth experience they desire.  Realistically, my first choice is no longer an option and I am devastated and terrified that I am going to have to go through with a vaginal birth.  I asked my doctor, in jest, if he could just put me under general anesthesia so I don't have to be aware of anything that's happening to me during labor.  He sympathizes with my situation.  I start childbirth classes on Thursday and I can feel an anxiety attack coming on just thinking about it.  I wish you the best of luck and sincerely hope you are able to experience the birth you desire.  I know mine will not go as I planned and I am now dreading a day I should be looking forward to. 

canthardlywait426

Jocelbug:

OK--if u dont have anything helpful or constructive to say DONT ANSWER THIS POST. WTF is a MUD, and whatever it is, stop calling me that, cause im sure its not nice. I dont give a what u think about me having a c-section. the question was if u had one, how much were u able to see. i never said my height was the problem, i said my hips are the problem. dystochia and breech babies run rampant in our family. as for the bit one PP shared about grandma giving birth to twins---im having ONE baby, Im not ur freaking grandma, and babies were a lot smaller back then! and twins are almost always preterm and smaller to begin with so im sure ur grandma was able to give birth to twins easily because they were small with small heads and shoulders and preterm and in the regular birthing position! 

Try this one for size: I dont wanna try to give birth vaginally, i have no desire to give birth that way. its my body and my choice. Also-- IM NOT RIPPING UP MY VAG ONLY TO HAVE THIS BABY CRAMMED BACK UP IN ME AND HAVE MY BELLY CUT OPEN SO MIND UR OWN DAMN BUSINESS. I dont go around and tell yall how gross and insane i think yall are for having a vag birth do i?? u dont see me being bitchy to u for going thru 32 hours of back labor only to have forceps or a vacuum tear ur baby outta u with a mangled head, causing 4th degree tears to ur perineum, do i?? NO. Save ur bitchiness for ur SO or ur friends. I didnt ask for it.

I guess you didn't get the memo that most of the women here had c sections as this is the c section board. So all your comments about us having vaginal deliveries are invalid. I'm guessing reading comprehension isn't your strong suit. I have a friend who was much shorter than you with "boy hips" and she delivered vaginally.

Calling us bitches and yelling at us isn't going to get your questions answered.

Having said that, I was given the option to watch, as was DH, but we chose not to.

canthardlywait426

Jocelbug:

And a big thank u to the ladies who did answer the actual question. i appreciate yall. I hate these damn birth boards. I hardly get straight forward answers cause it seems like these women spend more time criticizing me for things that arent their business or that dont have anything to do with the actual question instead of giving me useful information. The ladies on here for the most part are a constant reminder of y i dont like women. Im so glad my DH has had 3 kids before we got married so i can rely on him for most of my information and advice. The rest of the advice i get from grandma. shes about the only woman i actually do like. no offense intended to u rational awesome ladies and my fellow tomboys!!!

Well bless your heart.

hopkins5

Jocelbug:

as for the bit one PP shared about grandma giving birth to twins---im having ONE baby, Im not ur freaking grandma, and babies were a lot smaller back then! and twins are almost always preterm and smaller to begin with so im sure ur grandma was able to give birth to twins easily because they were small with small heads and shoulders and preterm and in the regular birthing position! 

Who said anything about Grandma? MIL =/= Grandma

To answer your question, OP, I was not given the option to watch. SO was.